Posted on 12/19/2012 7:57:02 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Amid all of the ridiculous politicization of the gun angle in the wake of Sandy Hook, and even a few calls for a national discussion on mental illness (one more back door for tyrannies, many), why is there so little discussion—or even mention—of what acquaintances of Adam Lanza are calling the turning point in his life: his parents’ divorce?
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Conversation? About Divorce? Why?
You already have to get a permit and there is usually
a waiting period...
Divorce is part of the “new normmal” abnormality of moderen Americanism.
Those who are monogamus are sometimes referred to perjoratively as “still being on their FIRST marriage” as thought that was indicative of immaturity or a flawed character.
I'm still happy with all of mine, and so are my kids.
/johnny
I dunno.
I have appeared in hundreds of juvenile cases where kids were in trouble with the law. The one constant was this: out of all of these cases I can count on one hand the number of times that a kid lived with both of his biological parents. It is the elephant in the room.
I have appeared in hundreds of juvenile cases where kids were in trouble with the law. The one constant was this: out of all of these cases I can count on one hand the number of times that a kid lived with both of his biological parents. It is the elephant in the room.
Destroy the family and create slavery.
Right out of Antonio Gramsci’s playbook.
I have appeared in hundreds of juvenile cases where kids were in trouble with the law. The one constant was this: out of all of these cases I can count on one hand the number of times that a kid lived with both of his biological parents. It is the elephant in the room.Years ago I was on a citizens committee here and a new member joined who had just retired from the Juvenile Justice system. He said of the many thousands incarcerated in the system at his retirement, one of them - ONE OF THEM - was from an intact, original family.
I have appeared in hundreds of juvenile cases where kids were in trouble with the law. The one constant was this: out of all of these cases I can count on one hand the number of times that a kid lived with both of his biological parents. It is the elephant in the room.Years ago I was on a citizens committee here and a new member joined who had just retired from the Juvenile Justice system. He said of the many thousands incarcerated in the system at his retirement, one of them - ONE OF THEM - was from an intact, original family.
His parents have been divorced since 2009. His mother was not left destitute.
His older brother hasn't had contact with him for two years.
Are you starting to see a pattern here of why the family breakdown occurred yet?
Are you going to blame the father for this?
On what basis?
Can you possibly wait a few weeks for the local police force to gather all the possible relevant factual information, and present their conclusions first to the families of the dead victims, which include the other son and the former husband, before you cast aspersions against the father of the killer?
Who do you think you are?
The divorce happened when the “boy” was 17, almost 18. He was grown when it happened. He had his father when he was growing up so this is not an absent father case to blame this on.
“Why is there no national conversation about the divorce?”
Because it would endanger the livelihood of millions of lawyers, psychologists, therapists, and counselors; it would actually free up space for criminal trials; in short, to return to the days when someone actually had to prove a marriage had failed (the modern divorce is no-fault) would be undesirable by those who profit from it.
My brother and I were raised by a single mother.
My father died when we were 5 and 2 and my mother never re-married.There was very little money.
What about people like us?
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A fair question and the illustration of why this issue is ignored. The destructive nature of divorce is not universal, many of us (and yes my parents divorced) survive this horror.
The correlation of social harm to divorce is real, it is not total. Many of us victims of this evil survive and do well. But, some, a minority perhaps, gravitate towards evil. Holloweird and the porn industry recruit almost exclusively from our demographic cohort, as does organized crime. Why?
Who do you think you are?
Actually, it’s a very common-sense question: Would this kid have been so uncontrolled if his father had been living in the house, and not just a single woman?
this is not an absent father case to blame this on.
Sorry, but you had a young man out of control, living with a single mother. You really think the dynamics would be the same in a household that had a man in it? You don’t think there would have been some push-back on his behavior if a man had been in the house?
People like you know their parents love/loved each other.
The issue for kids is do their parents love each other, they just don’t have the vocabulary to express it. Actually, I recall and believe one study which showed that adult children take the divorce of their parents later in life, that is when the parents divorce after the kids are grown, the kids take it much worse.
Divorced parents can do their best by focusing on the kids’ lack of an intact marriage of their parents, by, well, admitting that that’s the problem.
Kids do well when the parent they live with respects family life, marriage and surrounds the children/ family with healthy families and marriages so the kids at least can have a role model for themselves and not dwell.
All of that is taken care of in a case of widowhood, a relatively natural occurence.
Humble opinion based on observation.
Holloweird and the porn industry recruit almost exclusively from our demographic cohort,
The Jerry Sanduskys of the world, too.
He had his father when he was growing up so this is not an absent father case to blame this on.You assume facts not presented. A divorce is the end, during the prior years, where was dad? His million dollar a year job did not come cheap perhaps.
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