i too am 57 and made the same promise to my Mom back in the 80's, she died at home in peace... God bless you
Posted on 11/19/2012 6:06:55 PM PST by Timber Rattler
In May 1964, Nels and Irene Highberg bought their first and only home. It was a modest, brick rancher -- no garage -- on a pleasant cul-de-sac on the edge of East Petersburg.
The Highbergs raised two sons there. They entertained neighbors there. They grew old there. After 48 years at 6312 Miriam Circle, the Highbergs -- Nels is 92, Irene is 89 -- figured they could manage a while longer. Family and friends agreed.
But the county Office of Aging stepped in last summer, saying for safety reasons the Highbergs must move to a nursing home.
"I ain't going to go," Highberg said, according to Erick Highberg, the couple's 54-year-old son.
When a van arrived Aug. 2 to take the couple to Oak Leaf Manor in Millersville, Highberg sat in a chair in the driveway for many long minutes. He got in the van only after a police officer showed up.
(snip)
Now that the Highbergs are at Oak Leaf Manor, a new worry for the Highberg family is the possibility of another move to a less expensive, state-subsidized facility because their money is running out.
Just curious..did this happen in the US?
I don’t see how it could happen without getting a court order of some kind.
You’re welcome. I trusted the poster, I just wanted to be able to email a link.
This is SO wrong on SO many levels....
“”I had not realized that local government could do this, but an elderly friend tells me that she has been receiving weekly visits from social workers who insist she pack up and move for her own safety. Unbelievable . . . and absolutely certain to get worse.””
That is so sad, now I know why I while never let “helpers” into my home..
They would have moved me in a hearse after I had taken out some the Van driver, and hopefully some Social Services creeps.
I remember when my mother became ill with pneumonia. She was 85 and her health had been fading. We took her to the hospital tho the home health nurse said not to. I am certain she wanted mother to die from the pneumonia which they say carries them off quietly.
We took her to the hospital and the Dr. cured her of the pneumonia but she could not walk then so we admitted her to a nursing and rehab. She only had 30 days of the rehab and it seemed to be working. We could get her up to a walker but she could not quite manage it.
After a couple of weeks, Mother had been working on her own trying to get to where she could walk. If she could walk she could have gone home with Daddy who tho older than her, was in good enough shape to help her.
Mother asked us to take her home and she would show us that she could walk. We did and it broke my heart seeing how much Mother wanted to be at her home and how hard she tried to walk, but she just couldn’t do it.
One of us made sure we visited her every day and that was clearly the height of her day. In only a few weeks her systems began failing. Finally she told the nurse she was ready to go home, by which she meant to go to heaven and see her loved ones who had preceded her. They gave her morphine and no food or water. I wanted to keep her alive but I realize now that living under those conditions, and knowing it was constantly getting worse, Mother wanted to take the burden off her children and made her decision.
One of my cousins was with her praying with her when she expired. He said she moved her lips just as she died. She had been in a coma for 10 days. I am certain in my mind that her last words were of her children.
She was the best person I have ever known.
No kidding. This hits home because I'm 57 and taking care of my 84 yr old mother. I made her a promise that she would never go into a nursing home. They come to try and take her out of here and it's going to be ugly.
I can see that happening one day in California.. except the elderly couple — or lone elderly — will be forced to move out of their three, four, or five bedroom suburban home so that a “more-deserving” favored, young family with children, including an “undocumented worker” family, can have the house. It should be easy to get enough signatures to put such a proposition on the ballot.
What if you wanted to die in your own home? There is more to this story that we are not getting told however, I would rather die “less” old in my own home than kept “alive” longer in captivity, at a nursing home.
They best wait until I can no longer squeeze a trigger before the try to pack me off.
i too am 57 and made the same promise to my Mom back in the 80's, she died at home in peace... God bless you
Sounds as if the one son was right there but he was left out of the loop while the "office of aging" decided what was going to happen to his parents. Read the article ... it's an eye-opener.
whenobamacare is fully implemented, that is how they will get rid of the elderly and infirm.To wit: Put them into nursing homes. Kill them and when and if inquiry is made regarding their demise reply,"We can't discuss the case because of confidentially laws.,p>Kinda like Germany in the 30s. One would be arrested, placed in a camp, killed. Later the familt of the deceased would get a message to come to the police station to pick up their ashes.The death certificate would read: Cause of death: Heart failure.
Unfortunately you will not be kept alive for long in a nursing home. Dehydration. It’s happening now. They tell the family it’s a very comfortable alternative.
Lancaster, PA news article
...until they have stolen it all, then they can kick you to the curb..
That was the way things used to be. However, the office of aging types have “gone active”, which means they are on the hunt to find seniors living at home who pass their checklist for being put in nursing homes.
Hospitals are a big part of this. As part of admissions now, there is a standard question: “Do you feel safe where you live?” If they answer “No”, then the government owns them.
They also use other, more arcane criteria. For instance, they cross check what prescriptions elderly people are taking. If they could “potentially debilitate”, then they can argue that they should only be dispensed by a health care worker, in a nursing home.
I’m sure they have all sorts of other formulas. But if an elderly person passes any of their formula, then the mechanism begins to put them under institutional control.
For this and other reasons, elderly people should never go to an Emergency Room or check into a hospital without a younger “bodyguard” to insure they are neither neglected nor fast tracked to state control.
Thanks.
I didn’t see the entire article posted upthread before I asked.
I type slow, lol.
My guess is that a relative wanted them gone. Sad, very sad.
My grandmother passed at the age of 86. She had lived alone in her beach house for about 10 of those years. She fell in the shower, broke a hip and 2 weeks later she died. Fortunately , she died at home, right where she would have wanted to die. I can’t imagine anyone taking that wonderful lady from her house.
If I need help I will find it. Anyone trying to force their will on the situation will not be appreciated.
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