I remember when my mother became ill with pneumonia. She was 85 and her health had been fading. We took her to the hospital tho the home health nurse said not to. I am certain she wanted mother to die from the pneumonia which they say carries them off quietly.
We took her to the hospital and the Dr. cured her of the pneumonia but she could not walk then so we admitted her to a nursing and rehab. She only had 30 days of the rehab and it seemed to be working. We could get her up to a walker but she could not quite manage it.
After a couple of weeks, Mother had been working on her own trying to get to where she could walk. If she could walk she could have gone home with Daddy who tho older than her, was in good enough shape to help her.
Mother asked us to take her home and she would show us that she could walk. We did and it broke my heart seeing how much Mother wanted to be at her home and how hard she tried to walk, but she just couldn’t do it.
One of us made sure we visited her every day and that was clearly the height of her day. In only a few weeks her systems began failing. Finally she told the nurse she was ready to go home, by which she meant to go to heaven and see her loved ones who had preceded her. They gave her morphine and no food or water. I wanted to keep her alive but I realize now that living under those conditions, and knowing it was constantly getting worse, Mother wanted to take the burden off her children and made her decision.
One of my cousins was with her praying with her when she expired. He said she moved her lips just as she died. She had been in a coma for 10 days. I am certain in my mind that her last words were of her children.
She was the best person I have ever known.
Thanks for sharing your touching story. I have a similiar one. It is almost 16 years and I still miss her so much.
Golly, thanks for your story...it’s very much like ours with my mother....
The hardest was no food and water...she couldn’t swallow but it was just so hard...bless you ....
How is your Dad doing?