The true goal of the left is the total destruction of the traditional family,
and this topic is but one of the cracks in that institution.
Flame suit on, but I’m going to tell a truth, and it will make some mad.
Though I recognize that for some this is a short term necessity, it should not be “normal”, nor should it be considered even acceptable, long term, that the man stays at home while the woman takes on the role of provider.
You won’t get any guff from me.
I totally agree.
I will tell you though, I have seen women stay at home and turn the children against the father. Every once in a while you’ll get that gem that has no restraining bolt whatsoever.
Men could do that too though, so I’m not trying to make the case it could only be one-sided.
That philosophy went out with the idea that women should marry up. That was back when a man would have been severely threatened if his wife earned earned as much as he earned, let alone multiples of his income. In my lifetime it's not been uncommon to see female doctors and lawyers marry non-professionals who honestly don't have the same earning potential. No one bats an eye these days.
I stayed home with my children, because it was an easy decision. Didn't believe in daycare, so we could live on X if I worked and she stayed home, or live on 5X if she worked and I stayed home.
I knew a couple that did this - the husband’s career, teaching, would survive interruption better than the wife’s, a research field. And he was a bit burned out by teaching in an inner city school for troubled children.
He did a fantastic job as a father - warm, affectionate, playful, instilled good discipline, taught his children independence and a scientific frame of mind. And he was quite masculine.
When the children were all old enough for school he went back to teaching.
If my man simply could not find work temporarily, that's one thing. But to voluntarily not be the provider, and be okay with it, would be an industrial strength turn off in my eyes.
I do think most women would have a problem with a guy staying at home long term without any job...but I do see a ton of situations where the wife/gf makes double or triple of what the husband makes and the women don't have a problem with that at all as long as the guy is happy and successful with what he does.
My gf makes double what I do but she is in a very highly paid career and never looks down on me...we both have degrees. 90% of men don't make what my GF earns per year.
I know a ton of men who make less than their wives and that is a growing trend as more women graduate college.