Posted on 04/18/2012 6:59:33 AM PDT by Kaslin
Your profile page didn’t make mention of your sex. Okay, then take all those points you feel objection to and reverse them. I sure don’t want to come home to some fat slob wearing a woman beater shirt with a beer in his hand.
It sounds like something an immature 20 yr. old might write.
There’re a dime a dozen where I work. Always interested in themselves and an over inflated ego about their appearances...and how wonderful they are. Trust me once they speak they have little to offer.
It’s simply the mindset of the too many young woman today.
But I’m a Protestant.
Still, Jameson isn’t bad. Not a bit of it.
That’s not what husbands are....sounds like you might have neet a few loosers along the way like that....might want to up your standards.
The article said nothing about the guy whatsoever...it was completely focused on what a little girl would get from her father...clearly not a husband.
[A relationship is in deep trouble when one or both parties decides it’s too much work to keep the other happy.]
True. It also indicates a lesser degree of love and caring.
I grew up watching a most perfect love story - the marriage of my parents. There was never a fight, an argument or a sharp word spoken. Frankly I was unprepared for real life, lol.
I think the point is that if you want a man that meets your list - then you better be a woman that strives to meet the same standard.
IOW - the devotion you describe doesn't happen in a vacuum devoid of outside influence. Rather it tends to be the result of mutual reciprocity.
Love works best as a dance of mutual partners.
Which of course is a much different than the dance style popular today: pole-dancing, g-strings, Chippendale's, etc...
And I was being rhetorical. Sorry if it it didn’t come across.
Portland, Oregon a bastion of liberals, worse than Seattle.
I agree it’s mutual.
I have the complete opposite problem. My GF's libidio is higher than my own and I have a normal drive of a mid 20's guy. The problem with her high libidio is it correspondingly makes her a ultra toucher and hugger the rest of the time. Sit alone on the couch enjoying a movie, no way, she is right there with me wanting to hug or hold me near 24/7. I consider myself a very passionate and romantic guy but sometimes I need my own space.
TBH some times I would just rather watch a movie or lift but I rarely turn her down.
Portland, Oregon a bastion of liberals, worse than Seattle.
A single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.
Well, I originally meant like where is she looking for men locally (like church, online, or what have you) rather than where, but if she’s in Portland it probably doesn’t matter. Finding a straight conservative Christian man in Portland might be impossible.
I just figured I would ask because if conservative single women were looking in certain places in one part of the country, they might be looking there elsewhere.
You are blessed and in the vast majority of things, I am, too. We all get better than we deserve. I totally agree with your assessment of our “lost” world.
Thank you for your intercession; “the prayer of a righteous man availeth much”.
If she loved him, she would make an effort to keep him happy. If she's not interested in making an effort, then she doesn't love him.
Hey, I’m a gal and I totally agree with you.
It's good that you try not to turn her down. Women don't take it well, and feel rejected, even if they don't verbalize it.
It would be nice if that’s all men had to do. In my own family, two women in good marriages to good men became dissatisfied, dwelled on their resentments and escalated them, initiated divorce and broke up the foundation of their children’s lives. Their husbands wanted to try to save the marriage even after it got really bad, even after infidelity in one case.
This is my advice to women:
Find a good man.
Marry the good man.
Now comes the important part:
Spend the rest of your life appreciating him and being thankful for your good fortune.
You know his weaknesses - never attack him there.
You know his strengths - build them.
Make love to him often.
Feed him well and healthily.
Stay fit.
Don’t be a control freak. Minimize criticism and nagging.
Forgive all the little things. Don’t let resentments build.
Teach your children to hold him in honor and respect.
If there are problems in your marriage, and they are not because he is abusive, adulterous, addicted, or abandoning, try changing your own behavior first.
Positive reinforcement is better than negative reinforcement. (look that up in terms of animal training.)
Let him see your happiness with him.
Excellent comments. I would add, for both men and women:
No other person can totally make you happy. Real happiness comes from within, from who YOU are, not from who someone else is. If you are happy within, you will help your marriage immeasurably and see the good in your husband (or wife) even during rough times. There are always rough times.
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Very interesting discussion on the thread. I will add another comment: Feminism is one of the main drivers of the ruination of marriage by ruining women's actual femininity and the real value of womanhood.
I was responding to #55, in which the poster asked an analogous rhetorical question about women. Read before you accuse, please.
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