I think the point is that if you want a man that meets your list - then you better be a woman that strives to meet the same standard.
IOW - the devotion you describe doesn't happen in a vacuum devoid of outside influence. Rather it tends to be the result of mutual reciprocity.
Love works best as a dance of mutual partners.
Which of course is a much different than the dance style popular today: pole-dancing, g-strings, Chippendale's, etc...
I agree it’s mutual.