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Teaching Good Sex
NY Slimes ^ | November 16, 2011 | LAURIE ABRAHAM

Posted on 11/18/2011 10:30:36 AM PST by Antoninus

“First base, second base, third base, home run,” Al Vernacchio ticked off the classic baseball terms for sex acts. His goal was to prompt the students in Sexuality and Society — an elective for seniors at the private Friends’ Central School on Philadelphia’s affluent Main Line — to examine the assumptions buried in the venerable metaphor.

“Give me some more,” urged the fast-talking 47-year-old, who teaches 9th- and 12th-grade English as well as human sexuality. Arrayed before Vernacchio was a circle of small desks occupied by 22 teenagers, six male and the rest female — a blur of sweatshirts and Ugg boots and form-fitting leggings.

“Grand slam,” called out a boy (who’d later tell me with disarming matter-of-factness that “the one thing Mr. V. talked about that made me feel really good was that penis size doesn’t matter”).

“Now, ‘grand slam’ has a bunch of different meanings,” replied Vernacchio, who has a master’s degree in human sexuality. “Some people say it’s an orgy, some people say grand slam is a one-night stand. Other stuff?”

“Grass,” a girl, a cheerleader, offered.

“If there’s grass on the field, play ball, right, right,” Vernacchio agreed, “which is interesting in this rather hair-phobic society where a lot of people are shaving their pubic hair — ”

“You know there’s grass, and then it got mowed, a landing strip,” one boy deadpanned, instigating a round of laughter. While these kids will sit poker-faced as Vernacchio expounds on quite graphic matters, class discussions are a spirited call and response, punctuated with guffaws, jokey patter and whispered asides, which Vernacchio tolerates, to a point.

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TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: fornication; fornications; homonaziagenda; homopsychoagenda; homosexualagenda; nyslimes; pederast; pederasts; pederasty; premaritalsex; sexualcorruption; sexualperversion; sexualpromiscuity
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To: PGR88

See post #20


21 posted on 11/18/2011 11:10:15 AM PST by Conservaliberty (If Paul and Palin were running mates, would their foreign policies be like matter and anti-matter?)
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To: Antoninus

Wow. I’m a libertoonian and even I’m offended by this.


22 posted on 11/18/2011 11:10:19 AM PST by Hemingway's Ghost (Spirit of '75)
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To: Anitius Severinus Boethius

I always thought as follows:
1st, kissing
2nd, breast groping
3rd, oral
Home, intercourse
grand slam, all of the above on the first date.

I learned these terms in college, which was only about two years ago; however that’s not to say that the terms are universally defined.

To be honest though, I am not surprised. A number of my classmates were obsessed with talking about sex—most of them girls!


23 posted on 11/18/2011 11:15:33 AM PST by Conservaliberty (If Paul and Palin were running mates, would their foreign policies be like matter and anti-matter?)
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To: Antoninus

I noted the school in question was “Friends School” in Philadelphia. A typical modernist, expensive, elitist puppy mill that decades ago abandoned its mainline religious/protestant roots.

I took my oldest daughter to a similar school in our city for an open-house, as she was preparing to enter high school. I asked one of the trustees on hand if there was any particular religious ethos that guided the school, particularly in their many courses about “social justice” or “rights.”

He sniggered like I was some kind of caveman and said “no, no - none of that stuff”


24 posted on 11/18/2011 11:19:08 AM PST by PGR88 (I'm so open-minded my brains fell out)
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To: Conservaliberty

I thought a “grand slam” meant having such great, passionate sex with your wife that she cooks you dinner, does the dishes, takes out the trash afterwards, and lets you watch the football game without interruption. But I’ve been married for 20 years and maybe I’m out of the loop.


25 posted on 11/18/2011 11:30:11 AM PST by andy58-in-nh (America does not need to be organized: it needs to be liberated.)
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To: PGR88
I noted the school in question was “Friends School” in Philadelphia. A typical modernist, expensive, elitist puppy mill that decades ago abandoned its mainline religious/protestant roots.

I took my oldest daughter to a similar school in our city for an open-house, as she was preparing to enter high school. I asked one of the trustees on hand if there was any particular religious ethos that guided the school, particularly in their many courses about “social justice” or “rights.”

He sniggered like I was some kind of caveman and said “no, no - none of that stuff”

I had a similar experience when I was visiting TCU. When the coed guiding the tour said, "Let's talk about the C in TCU..."

The reference was that was one of their founding principles but NOW, we are an inclusive campus so it doesn't matter if you're Bhuddist, Christian or Muslim you're welcome at TCU.

Uggghhhh!

Regards,

TS

26 posted on 11/18/2011 11:43:21 AM PST by The Shrew (www.wintersoldier.com; www.tstrs.com; The Truth Shall Set You Free!)
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To: Anitius Severinus Boethius
For example “second base” now refers to oral sex. That was stunning for me, and I’m fairly jaded.

You can thank Bill Clinton. His little escapade legitimized it for "the youngin's".
27 posted on 11/18/2011 11:46:42 AM PST by BikerJoe
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To: BikerJoe

After my initial shock wore off, a question entered my mind. If oral sex is second base, what the heck is third base to these kids?


28 posted on 11/18/2011 11:52:24 AM PST by Anitius Severinus Boethius
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To: Conservaliberty
From the article, describing the teacher:

master’s degree in human sexuality.

The fact that such a degree exists and is taken seriously is certainly part of the problem.
29 posted on 11/18/2011 12:10:33 PM PST by BikerJoe
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To: Anitius Severinus Boethius

“After my initial shock wore off, a question entered my mind. If oral sex is second base, what the heck is third base to these kids?”

Not to be too graphic but it involves going in through the out door if you catch my drift.


30 posted on 11/18/2011 12:23:29 PM PST by trapped_in_LA
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To: Antoninus
Prior to the 1970s, a 47 year-old man having a "frank and open" discussion about sexual intercourse with teenagers who weren't his children would have been considered a pervert and would probably have been arrested for corrupting the morals of a minor.

I agree. Perverts will wrap themselves up in the cloak of being called "an educator" to get away with their sick fantasies.

31 posted on 11/18/2011 12:27:55 PM PST by dragonblustar (Allah Ain't So Akbar!)
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To: Anitius Severinus Boethius

Second base is oral sex? As of when? I was in high school in the 90’s and “second base” did not mean oral sex.


32 posted on 11/18/2011 12:37:17 PM PST by POWERSBOOTHEFAN (Straight and proud.)
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To: Antoninus

I love how he told the one boy that penis size doesn’t matter...*snicker*


33 posted on 11/18/2011 12:40:40 PM PST by POWERSBOOTHEFAN (Straight and proud.)
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To: struggle

Giving her a ring will not guarantee sex—it will make it guarantee it less...obvisiously never been married. I learned sex the old fashion way-—from my brother and from the street...

“You mean, it doesn’t matter that I call them in the morning?”

“Nah...they like it like that too...let me tell you about the walk of shame...something men never have to do.”

The only problem with teaching sex in school is that a)you are always stuck in the class with kids who have behavioral problems or the teacher is a child molester.


34 posted on 11/18/2011 12:41:52 PM PST by gman992 ("I'm a conservative. I'm just a happy conservative.")
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To: POWERSBOOTHEFAN

That was my reaction! But I asked several teachers from several different school districts, and they all said “Yeah, when kids talk about “second base” they mean oral sex”


35 posted on 11/18/2011 12:49:38 PM PST by Anitius Severinus Boethius
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To: Anitius Severinus Boethius

I remember when third base was oral sex. Sheesh. I graduated in 1995 and it’s hard to believe that it’s been 16 years.


36 posted on 11/18/2011 12:52:49 PM PST by POWERSBOOTHEFAN (Straight and proud.)
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To: andy58-in-nh
I thought a “grand slam” meant having such great, passionate sex with your wife that she cooks you dinner, does the dishes, takes out the trash afterwards, and lets you watch the football game without interruption. But I’ve been married for 20 years and maybe I’m out of the loop.

Nope. That's a home run. A "grand slam" is all of the above except she does that for a week and asks for it every night until you have to roll over and say, "Not tonight, honey, I have a headache."

I've been married 14 years. I was not without my adventures before getting married. They were all worthless in comparison. The problem is getting my kids to grasp that flings do nothing but get you into trouble. It's (naturally) nasty when the father discusses it since he's talking about their mother (I have all boys). My wife is a personal trainer and she has some super hot friends. I'm tempted to have one of their husbands (they're all my friends) have a bonus chat with my oldest so at least he can look at this dude's wife and actually *believe it* when the dude tells him it's *way* better now than just messing around and getting surprises you don't want.

37 posted on 11/18/2011 1:00:07 PM PST by cizinec ("Brother, your best friend ain't your Momma, it's the Field Artillery.")
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To: gman992
Giving her a ring will not guarantee sex—it will make it guarantee it less...obvisiously never been married.

This is the kind of stuff that drives me crazy. What kind of advice is this?

My experience is the exact opposite. For the most part, if you have the self-discipline to remain chaste before marriage, marriage will be bliss to you. If you have the morals of a hound-dog in heat prior to marriage, it will seem like the dog pound.

It's really that simple.
38 posted on 11/18/2011 1:14:27 PM PST by Antoninus (Take the pledge: I will not vote for Mitt Romney under any circumstances. EVER.)
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To: gman992

>>Giving her a ring will not guarantee sex—it will make it guarantee it less...obvisiously never been married. I learned sex the old fashion way-—from my brother and from the street...

People say that over and over, and though I’ve been married 10 years, it really boils down to how well you continue to connect with your wife.


39 posted on 11/18/2011 2:06:42 PM PST by struggle
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To: EQAndyBuzz

LOL!!!


40 posted on 11/18/2011 2:14:22 PM PST by therut
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