Posted on 05/23/2011 6:28:05 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
It sounds like our choices are helicopter parents or tiger cages.
Yowza!
Asian women stay attractive for a LONG time.
Then one day they wake up and they are Master Po. ;)
Wrong..................
I think Rush said it best when he talked about this on his show, the Chinese Communist way is to make you Obedient to the state (our public education only triumphs in making people stupid)the Red Chinese want Smart Serfs, while American parenting should make you INDEPENDENT, some would say a fine line, but a line none the less.
i read the book, and i enjoyed reading it... i have some tiger mother tendencies, so i get it... i’m not a tiger mother to the extent that she is, but i do “persuade” my kids toward excellence... and they tend to meet the standards... they are good, loving, sweet achievers... our motto is scripture—the greatest commandment: love the Lord with all your heart, soul, mind and strength... so when my sons are practicing piano, declining Latin nouns, or learning how to ride a horse, they are doing it with all their minds...
When 900 years you reach, look as good you will not!
Is the Chinese approach to child-rearing superior ?
Far superior. Smug worker ants raising ever-harder-working worker ants to do ever-more work, and to cast back the positive reflection for to make the other members of the Joy Luck Club ashamed and jealous.
HA! Got news for you...Papertyger Father, right here!
Just yesterday I began teaching my 2.5 yr old asian daughter the Law of Identity!
She sounds so adorable saying “equa’s A”
You mean everybody shouldn’t get a trophy? We should actually keep score? We should reward success and punish failure? Who knew?
she is no heavyweight in the child-development field ...
And that is precisely why she should be taken seriously.She is not spouting the useless feel good dogma that has corrupted western education.
How about teaching her the law of non-contradiction?
Very important to understand in a world of “post modernist” thinking.
Getting there dude.
Hell, I was just trying to get her to stop asking me “why.”
btw...it worked :o)
i think it depends on what your definition of superior is.... when i was in 1st grade in a Taiwanese school, during the first term exam (on 4 subjects). i scored 397 out of 400. in my class of 40-50 kids, that score is only good enough to be ranked 14th. my parents made me repeat first grade.
i don’t remember anything else about my grades after that until my 5th grade, when i actually got good enough score in that years term exam to get my 1st rank in that class (the only time i placed first). i credit my mom for that as that year she was suddenly very strict and were tutoring me every day after school.
John 8:31-32
Jesus says that we must first obey, before we can understand the “why”.
I use this all the time. I make a point of rewarding the “why” if they obey first (if they’re still interested - usually “why” is just a stall).
The age old question... How to raise your child? Although I have rather high standards for my children with respect to grades, behavior, etc... I am rather “soft” on issues like what type of sports activity or musical instrument they would like to play. I also judge each child independently. If one child gets a “B” and I know they could have done better then I say so. However, if a child gets a “B” and that is the best they could do then I give a thumbs up. I would never humiliate verbally or throw back a greeting card if I didn’t think it was their “best” art work. I guess the Tiger Moms results will be seen in the future one way or the other. Time will tell.
My own personally observed example of "practice makes perfect"...."Pistol Pete" Maravich. Maravich was NOT particularly gifted physically for basketball (compared to, for instance, Michael Jordan and Shaquille O'Niell), but he practiced hugely, making himself into probably the greatest ball-handler and shooter basketball has ever seen.
My family upbringing is typical arab christian household, which are practically identical to jewish households and the way of parenting.
I feel blessed for having such a loving family, there is no doubt in my mind i would give my life for them. As to these parenting methods, I think tiger mom is a little too extreme, id be feeling a whole lot of resentment towards my parents if they raised me like that. The flipside, the average white american household, is too much about independence and we are all winners and you are the best, eventhough ur particular child sucks on every level possible. Then there are some, atleast from personal experiences friends have shared with me, that basically dont help their children financially once theyre over 18, eventhough they have the means. Like somehow this is supposed to make them a better person, and not full of stress and resentment because they now owe 300000$ once they finish university.
In general, parenting needs to be worked on, and no not everything is peachy, thats the type of mentality that resulted in this new generation of kids being a bunch of tools.
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