Posted on 08/30/2010 2:37:01 AM PDT by RogerFGay
A series of high-profile cases of lesbian-perpetrated domestic violence has sent shock-waves through Massachusetts communities in recent months:
1. On February 16, a Suffolk Superior Court jury convicted Nicole Chuminski on two counts of second-degree murder, following a fire that killed the two daughters of her lover Anna Reisopoulos. During a heated argument between the two, Chuminski reportedly fell into a fit of rage. A few hours later Chuminski returned to her partner’s apartment and hurled an acetone-laden firebomb into the front door.
Sophia and Acia, ages 2 and 14, were burned beyond recognition, so dental records were needed for positive identification.
2. On March 29 Annamarie Rintala of Granby, Mass. was found dead by strangulation in the basement of the house she shared with her domestic partner Cara. Cara had been previously charged with domestic violence after she struck Annamarie in the back of the head with a closed fist.
3. Eunice Field of Brockton, Mass. found herself on the losing end of a bitter ménage à trois. So on August 9 she marched to the apartment of Lorraine Wachsman. There she grabbed a serrated knife and stabbed Wachsman in the back and neck. Dispelling any doubt about her intentions, she then penned a note admitting she had killed Waschsman “for taking away the love of my life.”
Ms. Field is now being held without bail pending a September 3 court appearance.
Experts on lesbian domestic violence were shocked, but honestly not surprised by these incidents. Last November a report by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs reported a 125% increase in domestic violence fatalities in lesbian and gay couples around the country during the prior year. According to Beth Leventhal of The Network/La Red of Boston, “partner abuse in LGBT communities can be just as lethal as that in heterosexual communities.”
Ms. Leventhal’s commentary actually understates the extent of the problem. Earlier this year the UCLA Center for Health Policy Research published the results of a survey of over 51,000 California adults . The UCLA study found 28% of persons in lesbian/gay relationships had experienced intimate partner violence, compared to 17% of persons in heterosexual relationships.
It’s also believed that lesbians are more likely to engage in partner violence than gay men. According to the Boston Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project, one in three homosexual women experience partner aggression, compared to only one in four homosexual men. Kaitlin Nichols of The Network/La Red notes, “The myth of women’s communities as safe communities has prevented many women from reaching out for support. If they have shared what is happening, they are met with disbelief from their community.”
And why are lesbians more likely to abuse?
According to Nomi Porat, an abuse-prevention expert, the reason is poor limit-setting: “An issue common to women, particularly battered women, is the fear of demanding physical and emotional boundaries. In part, battered lesbians are afraid their lovers will leave or become more violent if any limitations are set in the relationship.”
A nearly impenetrable double wall serves to keep lesbian battering tucked away in the proverbial closet. The first wall is the stigmatization invoked by lesbians themselves who believe in a sort of same-sex utopia, the feminist belief that maintains female-female relationships are inherently more peaceful, gentle, and “pure,” compared to male-female relationships.
In Naming the Violence: Speaking out About Lesbian Battering, Barbara Hart maintains that female batterers should be subjected to a form of shunning by the lesbian community: “one of the consequences of [female batterers’] violence is that they may have to limit any contact with the person they assaulted/abused. This may mean that the batterer cannot attend public gatherings or movement meetings.”
The second wall is the broader domestic violence industry that maintains a cult-like belief in the notion of patriarchal sexism, the theory that men abuse their wives due to an innate and irrepressible urge to oppress women. So every time a woman pummels, rapes, or otherwise abuses her female partner, the patriarchal dominance theory takes a body-blow.
These ideological blinders serve to justify shelters policies that turn away of needy women. According to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, the problem of abuse shelters that discriminate on the basis of gender identity is widespread.
Intimate partner aggression is not a problem limited to any particular sex, or gender identity, or economic group. Indeed, research shows women are at least as likely as men to engage in partner abuse.When the Sisterhood gets over its denial of the truth, we’ll stop seeing so many women and men victimized by domestic violence.
It all stems from the modern propensity (pathology, really) of having to blame someone/something for every action taken, ignoring completely the moral reality of evil. They can't answer because they will be be driven into the unavoidable wall of admitting that there is an "uncaused" action committed by humans, and that this is the root of volition, which can be allowed control by evil. "Science" will never admit to this reality.
That was my brother until 4 years ago. He met the "love of his life" (AGAIN) and now they want to marry and my brother worked on some Rainbow committee in NYC. Haven't heard from him in 3 years.
No. They are not. It is a behavior. And it is rooted in having issues with one or both parents. They like to fool themselves and everybody else that they "can't help it" but they can. They CAN get help. It is a mental illness.
Mental illness usually isn’t biological. When it is, there’s medication for the brains chemical imbalance. There is no “gay gene”. And no scientist is trying to push that anymore. 20 years later NOTHING points to such a gene.
You want to excuse behavior by making it a physical problem. It's a mental illness. They are NOT "born that way". I watched my brother change and saw the reasons intimately. When his friends were being honest, every single one of them had bad or no relationship with one or both parents.
I think you’re right, fwdude. You hit the nail on the head.
I also have a question. I know two women, each recently divorced, one with multiple divorces, who moved in together. Does anyone know two women (with children) who live together who aren’t lesbian?
I don’t. But maybe my experience is limited.
Here’s the deal about being “born” homosexual.
There are countless numbers of former homosexuals.
No one has ever been able to discover any genetic component to homosexuality.
A very large (over 70 to 80% roughly) percentage of homosexuals were molested/seduced when children or young teenagers by older homosexuals, often with drugs or alcohol involved. Sometimes by their own relatives.
And just for the sake of argument, if someone was “born” with the proclivity for same sex attraction, what about liars? Some kids just seem to lie early on, does this mean they should not be taught to be honest and tell the truth? Or that it is okay to lie since they did it since they were children? And isn’t it likely that they became liars because of conditioning or bad example, rather than naturally lying with a baby lisp because they were born that way?
Homosexuality is a mental illness, character fault and it is immoral and unhealthy in the extreme. There are many secular and faith based organizations that help people who want to change, get out of the “gay” life.
Unfortunately, the “gay” agenda pushers shove the information about these organizations and the fact that help is available into the darkness, calling such help “hate”. How crazy is that?
Except that it should read “the other 98.5%”.
All humans who are born with normal reproductive organs are heterosexual. It’s not just a “predisposition”.
Their self-loathing will not wane, even if society “accepts” them, which is being forced upon us currently.
Their self-loathing is their consciences. That voice will never be silenced.
Trade school, not college!
While I think homosexual women and men are much more violent than heteros , I personally think gay men are more violent towards each other.. than lesbian women....JMO of course.....
Maybe it’s all their pent up frustrations with “lifestyle” decisions.
I'd much rather have an office environment with all men than with all women. I don't know what it is, but women seem to need to be tempered with a man's qualities and strengths; all-woman offices usually seem to be rife with back stabbing, cat fights, nursed grudges, and magnified imagined slights.
This carries over into politics. It would be an unimaginable horror to have an all-woman political body (legislature, city council, etc.) but all-men bodies have and do usually work fine.
Yes, men and women are fundamentally different, and I make no apology for this statement.
Perhaps liberals on this thread need to rise above their snooty rationalizations in defense of the indefensible.
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