Totally bizarre. I met a woman who was paying alimony to her husband, who preferred not to work, even though it was just about bankrupting her (she had custody of the child, and he paid nothing). He went out and bought himself a house with the alimony payments. She was just a normal employed person; she had a decent job, but not with an extremely high salary.
One of the other examples was a former judge who divorced his wife when he was 58 years old. He had to pay $110,000/year to his wife, who was earning $95,000/year and had assets worth $1.2 million. When he retired, the judge reduced his payment to $42,000/year.
Funny how the modern feminist movement, in insisting on “everything” being “equal” are strangely silent on issues like these.
Another reason to think long and hard before getting married.
Started my divorce back in the late 80’s. I got our 4 kids and all the bills. She got the house and most assets. Been paying her over $20K/yr ever since and I suspect she’ll live to be one day older than me.
If I’d have shot when I 1st wanted to, I’d have been out by now.
“Instead of getting married again, I am just going to find a woman I don’t like, and give her a house.”- Rod Stewart
WTF ! This is not right !
A few years ago I talked with a gentleman and he told me that his ex-wife had him called into court and she decided she wanted alimony. The kids were already gone and he was already divorced for 20 years ! By the time court was finished, he had to start paying her alimony ! This is in California.
Alimony should be limited to 5 years at the most, enough time for a non-working spouse to get trained, go to school and then hit the job market and work to support themselves. Other than the children, the former couple are considered strangers under the law and should be treated as such.
When I got remarried a few years ago, I set the prenup with a severability clause and that no alimony would be paid. It was also set where whoever owns the assets keeps the assets regardless of gain or loss in value.
The guy needs a better lawyer...
Hoping that the Gay State's legislature has *sense*?? What's this guy been smoking?
Terrible ordeal, to say the least.
One guy told me of his pain, and also said:
"If you find out your divorce judge is a woman, you are dead meat. If you find out your divorce judge is a woman, and she herself has been divorced, you are worse than dead - you are in hell."
And people wonder why men aren’t crazy about getting married. Where’s the incentive when you realize you have made a mistake and have to pay for it in this manner?
Is the financial risk worth getting married?
My advise to any guy wanting to marry:
Learn to play chess.
Play often.
Learn strategy.
I got both Sons, the house, and paid no alimony.
I don’t get child support, though. I don’t need her money.
It is very sad that the feminazi libs have done so well at the task of destroying the traditional marriage.
This makes the women whores and the state their pimps. Except the only sex involved is the poor guy getting screwed.
Now that women have stepped ahead of men in college admissions and jobs, will this stop?
I doubt it, as long as the democrats are beholden to their greatest supporters - radical feminists.
I often wondered about gay “marriage.” When they divorce, which one gets to be the “man” with the alimony, child payments, car payments, house payments, and which one gets to be the “woman” with the kids, car, house, and job?
NEVER EVER get married OR divorced in a state that has strong alimony laws. I do wonder how womens’ lib types justify alimoney.
We don’t have alimony here in Aus - although the child payments could bankrupt a lot of blokes and their is little or no cause for redress!
Here women probably get at least 55% of property plus child payments. If they can’t live on that and get a job then bad luck. Depending on their earnings they can get Social Security as well.
Mel
So move on down to Aus all you divorced Americans - I know a few who have!
If the feminists have a problem with that, tell them it's 'gender-neutral'!
I also forgot to mention about the destruction wrought by divorce.
Back in 1988, my dad owned a business and one of the kids working for him got married. He was not even married for a year when his wife divorced him. The guy was a college student, didn’t own anything except he bought a car before the wedding in his name. The girl was a “whore” who liked going to bars all the time and hooking up with guys. She worked at one of the top accounting firms making around $140,000 in today’s dollars.
I met the woman one time and she was very unfriendly and had this attitude. Before she filed for divorce, she cleaned all the accounts out and he didn’t even have any money to hire a lawyer. When the divorce was finalized, she got everything except the shirt on his back. She tried to get his truck but couldn’t since his parents owned it. Add on he had to pay alimony for several years and pay for her lawyer. All the items he owned prior to the marriage ? He had to give it to her as well.
After the divorce, he tried to move on with his life but the woman started to harass him and play mind games with him. He got so harassed by her that he made a dumb move and went over to her place with a gun. That sent him to prison for 6 years. After he got out, she couldn’t leave well alone and tried to file false charges against him.
wow. The standard in this state is one year alimony for every five years of marriage.