Posted on 09/08/2009 4:47:10 AM PDT by Kaslin
Every time I write about how the modern culture seems dead-set on destroying the confidence of America's little boys, I am swamped with e-mail. It seems that everyone with a son or grandson has a story to tell about how manhood and chivalry are under attack. Last week I heard from a dad, Bill, who echoes the sentiments of many: "The boys are getting emasculated and wimpy/passive as they're now intimidated by girls due to fear of sex harassment charges and pro-female/anti male societal/educational tilts."
Sadly, he's right. As a mom of two sons and a youth leader I have seen how boys cringe when television shows depict boys as crude and stupid while the girls are always smart and powerful. I've experienced their confusion when girls snub them for opening the door. One day I observed the pained looks on the faces of male highschool students when a teacher explained that a major assignment would be to watch a movie of their choice and write a paper on how women in the film are discriminated against.
The attacks on our boys are endless and very purposeful: if they are taught to be nothing more than crude dolts then they will become emasculated men who keep to themselves. And the women will end up wearing the pants.
I've also observed on countless occasions a minor, but powerful, display of how ours is quickly becoming a culture where men are having trouble being men: females struggling alone to lift a heavy suitcase into the overhead compartment on a plane all the while surrounded by men who pretend they don't see.
My reader, Bill, also said:
"The feminists that sold us on there being no discernable difference between men and women except their plumbing have done an immeasurable disservice to women, the family, and hence society."
I would add that this trend toward emasculation is also destroying the dignity and potential of countless young boys.
Decide to raise your sons to be gentlemen - that means teaching them to be both courageous and considerate. To create young men of valor, you have to spend a significant amount of time deprogramming them of the lies the culture bombards them with at every turn. Talk about the raunchy scenes in TV shows, commercials and music that depict males as irrelevant or disposable. Or better yet, filter out those messages altogether.
If you are a dad or the primary male in the life of a boy, the most effective method to ensure that he becomes a man of dignity is to consciously model the behavior for him. If you are a mom with no positive adult male to help you raise your son, find one.
Seek out great organizations like the Boy Scouts or find a church family that will help you. In the meantime, develop a habit of reading stories of brave, kind men so they can imagine themselves becoming that way too. One great resource for books, tapes and movies to help you raise boys you can be proud of is www.VisionForum.com.
America really needs more than just a few good men - help your son be one of them.
>>”I would recommend getting rid of the term “fairer sex” because some of us find that a demeaning term.”<<
With all due respect, you’re just going to have to tough it out. That’s how it’s always been and how it will always be. It is a term of endearment when coming from a man. Why do you find it so objectionable?
Yeah, why is that demeaning?
After my years of worldview studies, I immediately spotted this complaint as inspired (corrupted) by the secular humanist (ie, satanic) worldview.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
Yeah, must have been written by an “angry white man”.
He took little Susie to the Junior Prom
Excitable boy, they all said
And he raped her and killed her, then he took her home
Excitable boy, they all said
Well, he's just an excitable boy
You raise an important issue by tangent.
One of the current problems in society is these single mothers by design who think “some man” will automatically want to raise her fashion accessory child as if his own as long as the sex is available with the mother before marriage. THEN he will legally adopt the child and be subject to child support if SHE has to divorce him. (...and they are surprised they are still alone.)
skorts? on a boy? nope, never seen that
My son is writing a paper about the Navy in our homeschool. That would be son #3, son #2 is in the Navy.
The principle meaning of emasculation is castration. I think the author was trying to stay away from the sense that men were being physically emasculated. But you are correct, I don’t think demasculation is even a word.
Are you counting Utilikilts in that statement?
The reason, to me, is obvious and simple -
the destruction of the role of the male as FATHER,
and the subsequent destruction of the family unit.
the destruction of the role of the male as FATHER, and the subsequent destruction of the family unit.
Post of the thread.
You my friend hit the nail on the head.
So Hoover wasn’t a complete disaster, if he wrote that (even if it was before he was elected).
That’s what a couple years of praying for discernment and an equal amount of time studying worldviews will get you.
Then there is the explosion in the gay boys population.
Well, what was his problem? If a man wants to learn about domestic violence and women he has to subject himself to violence from women, right? The only way to teach him not to beat women is for women to beat the lesson into him, right? You just have to understand the new paradigm.
Seriously, just as most whites were ready to drop their racist attitudes the black population has decided to become more racist than whites ever were and just about the time men decide to stop beating women the women are deciding to become overbearing, violent hags that no normal man will want to be around because he cannot defend himself without being locked up as the bad guy regardless of what the facts are.
As knowledge increases wisdom disappears. I can no longer stand to watch most television because those who talk like idiots are taken seriously while anyone who speaks wisdom, truth, common sense or whatever you wish to call it is branded an idiot or worse by the mindless chatterers of the left. If the founding fathers rose from the crypt they would pick up their swords and declare war on those who have destroyed what they gave their all to build.
Why?
Because when it’s put like that, “fairer” makes it sound as if women are weaker, which is subject to interpretation, and less important. Women may be “weaker” in certain areas .... but better/stronger than men in others....so would that make men “the fairer sex” in those instances?
ah, Beachy, it's the traditionalist in me.
Exactly why gay marriage and marijuana are so important to the leftists...
THE QUITTER by Robert Service
When you’re lost in the Wild, and you’re scared as a child,
And Death looks you bang in the eye,
And you’re sore as a boil, it’s according to Hoyle
To cock your revolver and . . . die.
But the Code of a Man says: “Fight all you can,”
And self-dissolution is barred.
In hunger and woe, oh, it’s easy to blow . . .
It’s the hell-served-for-breakfast that’s hard.
“You’re sick of the game!” Well, now, that’s a shame.
You’re young and you’re brave and you’re bright.
“You’ve had a raw deal!” I know — but don’t squeal,
Buck up, do your damnedest, and fight.
It’s the plugging away that will win you the day,
So don’t be a piker, old pard!
Just draw on your grit; it’s so easy to quit:
It’s the keeping-your-chin-up that’s hard.
It’s easy to cry that you’re beaten — and die;
It’s easy to crawfish and crawl;
But to fight and to fight when hope’s out of sight —
Why, that’s the best game of them all!
And though you come out of each gruelling bout,
All broken and beaten and scarred,
Just have one more try — it’s dead easy to die,
It’s the keeping-on-living that’s hard.
1 Peter 3’s interpretation of “weaker vessel” is that you can have a porcelain vase and an old beatup iron pot. Each is intended for different purposes and is best for that purpose. A porcelain vase has superior usage in certain roles, yet no one could argue that it isn’t the “weaker vessel”.
“Fairer sex” is just another way of saying “weaker vessel”.
I stopped in at the Herbert Hoover Presidential Museum in Iowa a few years ago and saw the essay there on a display. I was so impressed, I went to the gift shop and got a piece of paper and copied the essay word for word.
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