Frank was also a religious man and a member of the vestry at the Episcopal Church of the Advocate in Carrboro, North Carolina and for those of you who do not understand what a vestry is it is “an elective body in an Episcopal parish composed of the rector and a group of elected parishioners administering the affairs of the parish” so it is easy to see that Frank was nearly a man of the cloth in Episcopal terms and equivalent to a deacon in other denominations. It turns out Frank was a close friend and fan of Rev. V. Gene Robinson the controversial gay bishop from New Hampshire who was “the first openly gay, non-celibate priest to be ordained a bishop in a major Christian denomination” listed on his facebook page.
Frank had it all living in the Eno Commons gay commune in Durham, North Carolina. He even had community mandated shared meal time 2-5 times/week or so the web site for the commune listed with 38 adults and 22 children with a total of 22 households which proudly listed that “11% identify as 'people of color' (all are children)”. This breaks down to 7 children of color and no adults of color in a gay commune for those who need help with the math. Two of his neighbors Cathy Surles and Kelly Rimer are listed on the website as a being profiled in an article to demonstrate exactly how “Open to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and/or Transgender members” the commune is. The two white lesbians have something in common with Frank and his partner in that they also successfully adopted two children “aka people of color”. The story in which they were profiled states that “Neither Rimer nor Surles wanted to experience childbirth, so adoption was the obvious route. After talking to friends, they decided on international adoption.”
Frank offered his own take on why to adopt “people of color” which is where Frank’s perfect southern life began to unravel. He told an undercover cop under his screen name “Perv Dad for Fun” “that they (black kids) are easier to adopt than white children…” and he went further to say “that the abuse of the child was easier when the child was too young to talk or know what was happening” but just to be sure that he had “drugged the child with Benadryl during the molestation” something which he had been observed doing on webcam by an informant. Frank was such a friendly guy that he invited an under cover cop to come and participate in sex acts with his 5 year old African American child one of the two “people of color” in the house at the time. The authorities arrived and instead of entertaining themselves with the children removed the two children from the house placing them in protective custody leaving 5 other “people of color” who are also children in the commune.
Frank is in a different kind of commune now after having been arrested by the FBI who as well as seizing and charging Frank, who now faces the maximum of 20 years in prison, collected his two webcams, five computers and a sex toy and as well as other miscellaneous items. No one answers at Frank’s house now and the neighbors who shared meals with him several times a week have nothing to say. There is an eerie silence from those who not long ago would talk about the gayby-boom and how adopting children made homosexuals more acceptable to the old fashioned religious folk who think such a lifestyle is wrong. No talk about how horrible Frank is or was or how they didn’t know and are aghast and disgusted. No rushing to have their children checked out to see if they had also been molested by this close neighbor. You would almost think Frank Lombard didn’t exist let alone was gay. Even the Eco Commons web site advertising the Gay Friendly nature of the commune has been scrubbed clean. They do still advertise a biodiesel van to transports the 5 remaining kids to the Central Park School for Children.
Frank has also been deleted from the Duke University web site though the ghost of his career that existed only last week still remains in google cache which is a testament to the digital world where very little is ever truly gone. Needless to say Frank is person non-grata at his church now; he is listed simply as “inactive” on the vestry page something that occurred not long after the authorities paid him a visit. Facebook deleted his facebook page though it also still remains in cache. The media still largely refuses to acknowledge he is gay or that he lived in what is essentially a gay commune. Like a weird combination of the spirit of J.K. Rolling’s “Lord Voldamort” the “He Who Shall Not Be Named” and James Dickey’s “Deliverance” with a bit of “Invasion of the Body snatchers” mixed in we see absolutely no media attention for this story outside the local news.
The same media and Duke staff that rushed to condemn and protest the Duke LaCross players can not be found. The black preachers and black outrage can not be found either or maybe rather it is being managed carefully by a media that “Controls all you see and hear” and seem deathly afraid of this story. It would be different if the precedent had not already been set but child molestation by public figures especially priests, evangelicals, or even the foot tapping of politicians in bathroom stalls is fair game and of course I still recall Nancy Grace calling down fire from heaven on the Mormon Commune when based on one anonymous phone call hundreds of children were removed from a Mormon fundamentalist ranch in Eldorado, Texas with the only concern that they might have been molested. We don’t hear any such admonitions to officials concerning the Eno Commons commune on Indigo Creek Trail North Carolina.
The silence betrays a question. We have been force fed the idea by this same silent media that the research suggesting a connection between molestation and homosexuality was incorrect and bringing such a thing up is almost automatically confronted with the cries of outrage and finger pointing that to suggest such a thing one must be a bigot and a homophobe. Even many conservatives will rush to the fire wall against such heresy it has been so well drummed into us. It as if the research from the time prior to the beginning of modern homosexual activism did not exist and that only the studies by homosexual activists and their allies are valid concerning matters of human sexuality. There have been many studies that debate exactly this very thing but the media incidentally almost never reports the ones which suggest a connection between homosexuality and pedophilia something which was widely accepted by researchers prior to modern gay activism unless it is to deride them. A good example is a 2004 study by Marie E. Tomeo PhD at the California School of Professional Psychology, Fresno, California which found that
"gay men and lesbian women reported a significantly higher rate of childhood molestation than did heterosexual men and women. Forty-six percent of the homosexual men in contrast to 7% of the heterosexual men reported homosexual molestation. Twenty-two percent of lesbian women in contrast to 1% of heterosexual women reported homosexual molestation."
This is just one of many such studies though this specific one adds further questions especially if one accepts the mainstream idea that those who are sexually abused have a greater tendency to abuse. Men who are sexually abused as children have also been shown more likely to act out and become perpetrators of sexual abuse. I personally know of one individual who was abused by a homosexual uncle. I also know that he had fairly normal interest in girls up until that point. I certainly do not know everything that went into his sexual identity but I am very concerned that many people like him will remain trapped without help with desires that may be destructive and society that feeds a modern mythology that not only tells us a Mom and Dad are not to be preferred but that little boys should be placed in the hands of men many of whom have been molested as children. That I think is unwise and dangerous.
I do not know if Frank Lombard was molested, that really isn’t important now. The crime he has been charged with is heinous but the crime that is being perpetrated on us all as we see a growing number of child pornography rings (there was a big bust just last month) and pedophilia tied to homosexual activists that seem not to care and a media that seems happy to even refuse to call an openly gay man a gay man when he commits such a crime is one of omission. This crime is especially grave as more and more children are being rushed into the hands of gay men wishing to add a child to their life with a seemingly disproportionate number of those children being children of color who already come from disadvantaged backgrounds. There are already cases where social workers have ignored the signs of molestation because they were afraid of being labeled homophobes where homosexuals are involved. Not allowing this debate does a disservice to those children and to us all.
There is one more thing we can be certain of and that is if Frank Lombard had been the deacon of a Traditional Baptist Church living in a backwoods commune and the head of a conservative Health Studies program on abstinence in the rural south at a well known college the world would know his name and his poor victimized adopted son’s also and all kinds of grand open ended questions would be asked. We'd be lucky if the very foundations of religion were not put on trial. We’d also hear about how individuals like him were all secretly sexual perverts because they were so up tight about sex and religion. Let us listen closely; cup your hand to your ear. The silence is deafening but if you listen close enough you just might be able to hear the screams of that little African American boy who ended up in the hands of a monster with no mother to protect him simply because he was black.
