Posted on 11/13/2008 6:12:32 PM PST by Gordon Greene
LINCOLN, Neb. – The mother was running out of more than patience when she abandoned her 18-year-old daughter at a hospital over the weekend under Nebraska's safe-haven law. She was also running out of time: She knew that state lawmakers would soon meet in a special session to amend the ill-fated law so that it would apply to newborns only.
"Where am I going to get help if they change the law?" said the mother...
To the state's surprise and embarrassment, more than half of the 31 children legally abandoned under the safe-haven law since it took effect in mid-July have been teenagers...
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Not at all, in fact, your comparison is a rude slam against the system in China. When people go to China to adopt they actually come home with a child. In your case, since you are dealing with liberal know it all socialist services professionals you may pay the money and come away with nothing but less money.
It is expensive to adopt in China, but well worth it IMO. Her brothers and sister adore her, and she is a treasure, a gift from God. I like to dress her in red and call her my little red Chinese.
I grew up in Buffalo NY, There is an orhanage that used to be called Father Bakers, after Fr. Nelson Baker. Every kid in my neighborhood (and I mean every kid) was threatened more than once with being dropped off their. I later found out that most if not all of my cousins had been given the same threat. I am pretty sure every kid that ever grew up in that area was given that threat.
I later met people that had gone through there and every one of them had good things to say about it. The staff was loving and kind and worked very hard to find foster parents and adoptive parents for as many as they could.
why don’t they dump chuck hagel while they’re at it?
Will they take a 31-year-old?
“flakey at times”?
Kids?
Nahhhh ;-)
You can’t say that, “retarded”. That is horribly insensitive and politically incorrect or some such garbage.
There are some kids I’ve seen that if were mine I’d have left em at the grand canyon too.
Why did she need to abandon an 18-year-old?
I never adopted from China, but I have adopted from Korea, Kazakhstan, and Vietnam. Most of the money I paid went to plane tickets to get the kids home, nominal court fees, fees for US VISAs, passports, and the like. In some cases, it went to my own hotel fare and meals.
It sure beat waiting years for a domestic adoption, with the legal complications, potential reversals, and birth family’s strings attached.
Russia, here. The fees were high — but still, worth it. People spend WAY more for a Suburban, and this is life we’re talking about.
LOL!!! — I know, you’ve been there and done that!
You know... I’m very proud of your adoption and I’m so happy you’ve given that child a place to grow up where she can be free, but “a rude slam against the system in China” is probably a bit of a stretch.
The lack of freedom the Chinese face is more than oppressive and atrocious. When America behaves like a communist country and children are sacrificed to the state, the comparison is not so far out of line. Whether the adoption situation worked for you is actually an aside to the rest of Chinese government and how it deals with society... they rip children out of their parents arms to have them perform service “for their country”. There’s no guarantee the adoption system doesn’t work the same way. It’s just in some cases it turns out wonderful for the child and adoptive parent. You may come home with a child, but there’s no telling what the Chi-Coms did to prepare the arrangements.
When my kids were younger, there were a lot of times I threatened to get a seller’s account on Ebay and auction them off. But I didn’t. I was afraid I’d get bad feedback from the winners after they took delivery. ;-)
“Retarded” used in a derogatory manner is absolutely rude, but the word itself refers to a lack of development in some area. In the purest sense of the word, retarded is actually the proper term.
Of course, I’m not given to being politically correct. A handicap doesn’t make you “handi-capable”. It’s just what it sounds like... that being said, handicapped people accomplish incredible things, sometimes more than perfectly able people because of their drive and determination.
Words mean things. Sometimes our associations with those words make them to be something they are not. But there is always a more correct word for a given situation than another... political correctness aside.
I would have agreed with you if I had not recently spoken to an old friend of mine whose life was entirely ruined by an adoptive child. He was a demon child...nothing they did helped. She begged the courts to take him when he was 16, but they charged her instead. This is a good woman. By the way, the adopted child was a different race. I now understand how this could happen.
Wow. How awful for her. I know all too well how some courts can make it all worse. I had a colleague or two in my time that certainly shouldn’t have been on the bench.
One of my coworkers adopted from Russia.
He said he had to hand out hundred dollar bills “like a rapper in a strip club.” (his exact words)
But in the end, he thought it was worth it.....
Alabamy, eh?
Me too! Glad to see a homey on.
And, I suppose, until you get ahead.
I don’t get it. An 18 year old is an adult. No one can “abandon” them. They aren’t minors any more.
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