http://whatmenthinkofwomen.blogspot.com/2007/10/predatory-female.html
*chuckle*
Posted on 05/07/2008 11:07:19 AM PDT by buccaneer81
Get what you want this Mother's Day. Twist the ex's arm
REBECCA ECKLER
From Tuesday's Globe and Mail
May 6, 2008 at 9:05 AM EDT
On behalf of my four-year-old, who has a Yahoo account in her name, I recently sent an e-mail to her father, who lives in Alberta.
"Hi Daddy," I typed, as my daughter was fast asleep. "Mommy has been talking about Mother's Day. I only have 143 pennies in my piggy bank. She's the best mommy ever. She's been pretty exhausted. I'd like to get her something nice. Can you help? Love you."
It was a slightly pathetic, but possibly cute, way of reminding my daughter's father about Mother's Day.
On what is perhaps the Hallmark holiday of all Hallmark holidays, what's a single mother to do to get some sort of recognition? It's certainly not going to come from a child who still licks glue and is too young to understand the concept.
But modern single mothers, whether they've chosen to be single, still get along with the father of their children, or have no contact with the father at all, are finding new ways to make Mother's Day special (and, in some cases, more fruitful).
All mothers of young children rely on gifts made by someone else. For the single mom, feeling the need for something more than a crumpled card in a knapsack - something that comes with a gift receipt - presents a particular dilemma. You can't very well hand over $20 to your three year-old to do your shopping.
So some have learned to lobby on their own behalf.
"I've drilled it into him," says Toronto-based Vanessa Craft, the author of Out of Character, about her three-year-old daughter's father, who lives in England.
"Growing up, Mother's Day, like most holidays, had always been recognized in my house. So it's a big deal. I even remind my daughter's father that on her birthday I should also get something, for the fact that I gave birth," Ms. Craft says.
"Her dad knows to make me cards, at the very least, on behalf of our daughter," says Ms. Craft, adding, "I've never had a bad Mother's Day being a single mom."
Carolyn Weaver, the popular television host of five book shows, made the decision to become a single mother via a donor at a fertility clinic, so she has no relationship with her son's biological father.
Last year was her first Mother's Day with her son, Throne.
"In my 30s and having not met the right man in the right circumstances, I decided to try to become a mother. I realized continuing to wait for all the stars to be aligned in the Hollywood movie sort of way was a risk I wasn't willing to take," she says. "In my picture and my son's picture, there will never be the Leave it To Beaver family picture of Mom and Dad."
That doesn't mean, however, that Ms. Weaver and her son don't have a lovely family picture of their own.
Ms. Weaver was shocked at what she says was the "unexpected support" she got on her first Mother's Day. "I received a lovely basket of fruit, with a card saying what a wonderful mother I am, from my son's godmother."
Ms. Weaver's mother, like her father, had at first been unsure about the route she chose to become a parent, but was "extremely thoughtful" on Mother's Day, buying Ms. Weaver a beautiful diamond necklace.
"These sorts of gestures of support are very meaningful to a newly single mother who is still getting her stride in the social context," Ms. Weaver says.
Many single mothers, like Ms. Weaver and Ms. Craft, receive phone calls from friends wishing them a happy Mother's Day - something that non-single mothers rarely get.
Stacey Otis, a single mother of three, says that without a partner there is "such a greater connection with your children," and that Mother's Day is always "awesome."
She celebrates the day at her house, or at one of her siblings' houses, and has turned it into "Family Mother's Day."
Unlike many of my mother friends, who moan about husbands forgetting Mother's Day entirely, or who complain about partners not even giving them two hours of alone time, Ms. Otis says, "My Mother's Days are always special. When my kids get excited to give me what they made at school, it's like gold. When you know all you have is each other, it makes the day really special."
Some single, non-traditional mothers such as Ms. Weaver still think of Mother's Day as a "traditional" holiday, but one that gives unique families an opportunity to define themselves, their tone and outlook on life.
As for me, the e-mail worked. I'll be at a spa, thanks to my four-year-old's request via her mother's e-mail.
Rebecca Eckler is the author of Toddlers Gone Wild!
I hope her ex reads this and sues her for fraud.
I always remind them to call their mother as well.
/johnny/
What a pathetic shallow woman. No wonder she is divorced.
This just proves that Eve’s the one who got us all kicked out of the Garden of Eden.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-bloggers/2012529/posts
Slightly different, and a different source.
Single, not divorced!
AND whatever you do don’t do as I did with my wife when asked ‘whqt you getting Treva (name of wife) for mothers day’ and I said ‘Nothing, she ain’t my mother’
OK, I’m confused. Why does it say “ex” in the title?
>>”Hi Daddy,” I typed, as my daughter was fast asleep.
Pathetic! This “Daddy” should consider himself lucky to be away from that lying, materialistic, greedy good-for-nothing!
My ex has mothers day every month on the first when I write her the support check.
I’m usually muttering something under my breath that starts with “Mother”
I’m confused, then. I thought it meant ex-boyfriend, LOL.
One Sick Puppie.
Pity their children.
http://whatmenthinkofwomen.blogspot.com/2007/10/predatory-female.html
*chuckle*
“I thought it meant ex-boyfriend”
That makes sense. I was only thinking ex-wife. I guess there are other kinds of ex’s.
They forgot the last part of that sequence.
The legs re-cross with the wedding band
The best Mother’s day gift one could ever hope for, is the four year old sleeping nearby.
Dad won’t even see her on Father’s day. At least you’ve got that to be happy about.
I always remind my son to send his mother a Mothers Day Present, Letter Bomb, sarin, things like that. I had custody after she walked out on them, my daughter would shoot her down like a rabid dog, she felt that betraied.
Can someone explain to me why a four year old would have a Yahoo account in her name?
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