Posted on 03/11/2008 5:30:41 PM PDT by Cecily
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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Well our kids are 15 and 12 so we send them out to play and ... I think they are on to us though.... my 12 year old son asked “you guys still take naps in the middle of the day?”
Exactly-— the marriages were already broken, but adultery was the ‘You made me do it’ excuse.
Ha Ha! Obviously, you've never listened to her program. She's like a chainsaw cutting a log of Balsa for most of the men that dare to call!
“I’ve never once heard a plausible excuse for adultery.”
I have... I heard a good excuse when reading about one of those poor teenage fundamentalist mormon girls who suffered an arranged marriage to a nasty-already-married man who already had children with his first wife.
She quickly learned her role was to babysit and clean during the day and then “service” the pervert at night.
She decided he would not tolerate adultery - so she had an affair with a boy her own age just so she would get kicked out of the house.
Other than that - I would think anyone contemplating adultery really ought to decide whether they are “in” or “out” of the marriage.
If they are “in” - they need to get to counseling.
If they are “out” - they need to make a break before dishonering their spouse.
YOU should have Dr L's job!
You’d have to call me Master Najida (thats a Masters in Nutrition, but hey, if she can do it......)
Well, with you in it — duh!
FWIW, I've known a Hindi couple nearly all of my life, and they've been married well over thirty years now, and they're a delight to be around...the kind of couple that you can just tell really bring joy to each other. That's probably a rarity for arranged marriages.
There is a thread on Amazon about “Can you choose to love someone” and one of the posters is from an arranged marriage...and very happy in it....
HOWEVER, she did admit that they met several times prior to the wedding and got to know one another a bit...and that they both knew they could opt out of the marriage.
Very well said, FRiend.
Do the wives of men that are bald , have beer bellies and rely on others for the condition of their clothes have clean, lean, muscular, handsome men on the side?
When a man cheats he breaks an oath he took before God. It shows that he lacks honor and faithfulness. What a legacy to leave to your kids.
Congrats on the garbage disposal! :)
As for the mice — we have a wonderful cat now. I haven’t needed a mouse trap for years! ;)
Does that excuse the sin? Do the 10 commandments say adultery is a sin only under pristine marriage conditions.
Seems to me there is something there about “better or worse”
Sounds like she is trying to justify her fornication with a married man and leading to the breakup of his marriage...it was his wife's fault ....not HERS
When I first posted on this thread I posted to Dr. Laura’s comments and reiterated that it should ‘go both ways’.
When I later actually read through the thread I was [and always am] surprised by the animosity of people. There is too much ‘anti women’ and anti men’ by both sides.
Way too much animosity and not enough ‘trying’ and talking and trying to work things out nowadays. And, there is too much ‘me, me, me’.
Also, I don’t think talking about one’s sex life on an open forum is the thing to do, but I am old fashioned and more modest.
Some women surely share the blame for lousy sex lives that leads to their husbands’ cheating.
But a guy as crazy as Elliot Spitzer, who has the kind of inner demons that cause him to throw away his entire life for forbidden thrills, would have cheated if he were married to a sex bomb/tramp like Anna Nicole Smith and having sex with her every night.
Sex addiction is very complex. How complex? How about this: one day in San Francisco at a gathering of friends, a cute young guy came in and soon was telling everyone in the room, “I had unprotected gay sex last night with a lot of guys in Golden Gate Park. But I really do love my mother.” How crazy is that?
Ms. Veto!
Laura, a homewrecker? I hadn’t heard that—I have heard she had a lousy relationship with her mother.
Sounds like somebody isn't getting any lately. ;-)
I don’t think Laura was saying that it excused the sin. She was saying that there were contributory factors.
Let’s say that a spouse turns a blind eye to playboy/playgirl being in the house.
Let’s say that this liberal household regularly proclaimed that gay and bi-sexual is just fine for those “made that way.”
Does it contribute? Yes.
Does that remove Spitzer’s culpability? No way.
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