“No way should she be blamed for his adultery and crimes”
No. She should NOT be blamed for his adultery and crimes. But she SHOULD be blamed as an enabler, at minimum, for now encouraging him to fight through this and remain in office...or so I’ve read reports. I’ve quickly lost any sympathy for her. She is enabling him and continuing a horrible disservice to her/their children.
Obviously, you've never gone through anything so devastating as your husband committing adultery. He's her husband and she loves him. Can she just turn that love off because he made a mistake? It doesn't work like that. If she could, then she never loved him in the first place. She took that sorry pos for better or worse, and if she wants to stand by her man for the sake of their children or just because she loves her husband, then God bless her. If she divorces him after the full impact of what he has done sets in, then God bless her! She may be encouraging him to fight it based on the information he has given her. Let the dust settle and when the whole story comes out then we'll know what her decision is. Until you walk in her shoes, you shouldn't be so hard on her!