Obviously, you've never gone through anything so devastating as your husband committing adultery. He's her husband and she loves him. Can she just turn that love off because he made a mistake? It doesn't work like that. If she could, then she never loved him in the first place. She took that sorry pos for better or worse, and if she wants to stand by her man for the sake of their children or just because she loves her husband, then God bless her. If she divorces him after the full impact of what he has done sets in, then God bless her! She may be encouraging him to fight it based on the information he has given her. Let the dust settle and when the whole story comes out then we'll know what her decision is. Until you walk in her shoes, you shouldn't be so hard on her!
He didn’t “make a mistake”! This has been going on for TEN YEARS if you believe all the reports coming out. No, I haven’t gone through my husband committing adultery, but I do know that ten years of it is no mistake. It’s a pattern of behavior that I would not be forgiving and I would certainly NOT be encouraging him to “stay and fight” so that every juicy detail of those ten years can be in the spotlight to do further damage to my children. She’s enabling him and it’s going to hurt those children immensely.