Posted on 12/07/2007 7:52:26 PM PST by yorkie
Not the father, apparently.
I was sitting here with my jaw dropped at the brattiness of the thread. A man just watched his wife die, his kids ae without a mother, and somehow between all of this, he's got to grief and be a father at the same time.
Sheesh, the names may be family names, surnames, Grandpas name, the names the MOTHER wanted or dreamed of naming her kids.
All these insults being posted by folks with silly made up internet names.
Oddly,
that is one of the reasons more girls are aborted in India and China....
Girls cost more (due to dowrys etc) therefore are harder on the family and boys continue the family line.
I agree with the poster who said that both genders appear to be equal in value and raising. Thank God that attitude prevails.
One of the virtues of family names is the give the child someone real and (maybe still) alive to identify with and develop a sense of the continuity of life. If you have a made up or trendy name that relates to no one, you miss that conection.
I agree with you, BG. We’ve had another very special young couple join FR recently, as you know. Her new husband is an outstanding young man who lost both legs in Iraq.
One of her first questions was about why someone had posted that they didn’t like her name!
As a mother, I would think that a lot of love went into the choice of names for this dead mother’s babies. None of us has the same preferences in anything - including names. It is a shame that one of the last things she did for her sons is being ridiculed in light of such tragic events.
A friend of mine used to respond to that question with “we’re hoping to one day have 3 children - one of each. So whatever is fine.” As they looked at her trying to figure out just exactly what she said, she’d just walk away.
LOL! That’s priceless!!
The video was on and he had left the room for us four to be alone to watch. One of the coffins was guaranteed not to leak and to last for "life". I started laughing and couldn't stop and my brother and sisters looked at me like I was crazy. What's so funny , they asked. I said, gauranteed for whose life, Moms? ours, or the life of the coffin itself? I got them laughing too and when the attendant came back he was shocked to see us all laughing until we had tears in our eyes. He asked what was going on and we asked him whose life the coffins were guaranteed for. Then he started laughing with us. It made a hard chore turn out to be a fun thing.
You and I are saying the same thing.
The daughter has less value and costs the family more money. The son has greater value (Passing on the family line, bringing IN money via a dowry AND caring for his parents).
Why anyone bothers with having girls is beyond me ;)
Prayers for the babies & daddy ~Pandy~
I want to believe offense wasn’t meant, but we should all think before we speak. Some can call their comments trying to lighten things up.....I ask you would this poor man and his family see what you have said as lightening things up?
There is a lot of speculation that has been said here.
Did anyone stop to consider the poor man is still in shock. He is only 28 and had to make the official call there were no hopes of recovery based on the doctors best medical knowledge.
Unless you have been there you have no idea how difficult and heartbreaking that is. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
In this day and age, we don’t expect to loose the Mother during childbrith and have such a bittersweet outcome. The poor man still has the babies health and futures to worry about.
My heart is breaking for this man and the family’s. It is such a tragic thing.
Hopefully, the children will be strong and proud should there be teasing because of their names. There is a heartwarming story behind the names. If they truly find their names that much of a problem, they could legally change them. I doubt they will....because of the loving intent of how they received their names. It was not to be cute or different....but a much sadder reality.
I think it is a given that most parents first prayer and wish is their baby be HEALTHY. The fact he said.... all he had wanted was a son. That in no way means he didn’t want and wouldn’t be delighted with a daughter!!!
Why wouldn't it be as easy to speculate that a boy would have completed their family and then would have the privilege of son's and daughter's that many people privately think is the "ideal" family?
Some of you may have been referring to the extremes, and thankfully rare, people that truly want only a boy or a girl. Personally, my belief is people with that definite of “wants” shouldn’t be having children for the poor child’s sake.
To say that boys or girls are easier to raise than the other....either haven’t applied the EXACT same standards and rules to/for their boys and girls and/or they didn’t have a child that was strong willed.
Thank you for you indulgence. And before everyone jumps all over me....I only joined here in order to respond to the comments on this one thread and will be unsubbing now.
I just had to speak out on behalf of this poor family.
Prayers for this family ~Pandy~
Thank you!
Surtanlee.
~Prayers~
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