Posted on 11/13/2007 7:08:30 AM PST by Responsibility2nd
My point is that since most homosexuals are constantly trying to redefine marriage and constantly pointing to faults in a heterosexual relationship that it devalues it to a great extent. This devaluation causes women to hate men, men unable to cope with the new woman and boys to hate their own masculinity. A boy must be raised nongender specific when you listen to some people speak like the Gay and Lesbian Alliance.
These days a woman is taught that a man is just a donor and that she doesn’t need a man to have a “family”. This is not only a redefinition but rather a situation that helps the homosexual agenda in that lesbians will be better able to argue their interests in child raising because their social statistical profile fits closer to a single mother than a mother and father family.
Yeah. My ex was convinced that if I came home 5 minutes late on a 40 minute commute that I must be having a affair.
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A friend of mine had a similar experience. Ex-husband always checking up on her....giving her heck for being late, and yes, actually accusing her of stepping out on him.
Turned out that it was HE who was having the affair.
My friend said that when your spouse or companion accuses you of having an affair, chances are he/she is the one who is.
Ack. LOL. And phew.
OTOH, I have studiously avoided getting entangled ever since.
And stay out of debt, and DON'T borrow money...
Ahhhhh, Glasshopper! Your understanding is complete!
“Feminism destroyed marriage and the family, as many conservatives predicted.”
Bingo and ring the bell! Reality is, our country has a legal system that swings like a giant pendulum. Before the 1960’s women were taken advantage of. Now, the pendulum has swung the other way. When local government profits from domestic abuse cases through programs and fines, it becomes that much harder to restore equellibrium. Our whole legal system stinks right now. The rich get off repeatedly and evereone else gets to be judged and fleeced for dollars. Local judges can make their own set of rules, also known as activist judges. Bin Laden can’t be shot in the head in 1997 by special forces because the Clinton Justice Department felt it didn’t have the right ‘legal’ precedence to do so.
The real threat to our way of life is that the United States has become so legalistic instead of moralistic that we can’t get anything done. We’re becoming easy pickings for our enemies while we endlessly debate if it is legal or not.
*sigh* yeah.
Agreed and that is sound advice. Find a women who has both a mom and dad that are still married. See how this women respects or disrespects her parents. That is how she will treat you if you marry her.
The main thing is to wait. There is no hurry, 40-45 is fine for this. Be established, which means have your business and income and portfolio in order so when she divorces you there will be something substantial she can take with her.
Not saying that I followed that advice :)
However, my wife and I had a huge, literal, “come to Jesus” after the birth of our first child.
One of my brother's who is a member in the bitter bachelors club is a strong advocate of shared custody.
AKA 50/50 custody.
I have pointed out a thousand times how that is an unworkable solution. It assumes that both parents will cooperate, but still does not address the fact that the kids are no better off living one week with mom, the next with dad.
“It is well known that half of all marriages end in divorce.”
False canard. And “old” by now, too.
What it means is half of what could be married couples are divorced in the subject year, not that half of “all” marriages ever divorced.
Where is this "bitterness" posters keep talking about? I just don't see it.
I sympathize with you! My son is going through a similar situation. He currently has custody (His wife went completely off the deep end including paranoid delusions and accused him of molestation of his daughter. Fortunately he found some good folks in the law enforcement and legal community who helped him fight back.) the situation has cost him several hundred thousand dollars.....fortunately he is fortunate to have a lucrative job with supportive people. He lives in fear of some bleeding heart family mediator reversing the custody arrangement, sending his daughter to live with a diagnosed mentally ill mother who refuses to believe she has a problem or take medication to help her! Some of the self righteouse folks on this thread need to realize that there but for the grace of God go they..... He also married a nice Catholic Girl.
Who restarted the He-Man Woman-Hater’s club? LOL
And stay out of debt, and DON’T borrow money...
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Especially from your relatives and friends.
“The central problem is the divorce laws.”
RONG!
The central problem is that people have lost sight of the meaning of selfless, all-forgiving love.
Advice to young men: Do not marry, do not have children
And stay out of debt, and DON’T borrow money...
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And worship God with all your heart and all your mind.
And you will then be like Paul of Tarsus.
The central problem is that people have lost sight of the meaning of selfless, all-forgiving love.
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Not to mention greed and an unwillingness to sit down like adults and work out problems, rather than running to the courts every 5 minutes.
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