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Why I Left My Beta Husband
MSN Lifestyle ^ | August 2007 | Amy Brayfield

Posted on 08/29/2007 2:18:39 AM PDT by Caipirabob

A few years ago, my husband, Mark, and I were at one of those hip downtown restaurants sipping mojitos and nibbling on lime-spiked seviche when one of my bosses appeared from a cloud of Cuban-cigar smoke and patted my shoulder. When I introduced him to Mark, he naturally asked what he did for a living. We both froze.

"I do some freelancing," Mark said.

"He studied film at NYU," I said at the same time.

Mark looked at me and shrugged. "I stay home with our daughter," he said, as my colleague quietly balked.

"He makes it possible for me to do my job," I said, laughing. But inside, I was mortified. Technically, I had it all back then, including a gorgeous toddler and a cool job.

What I didn't have was a husband I felt proud of.

(Excerpt) Read more at lifestyle.msn.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; Philosophy; Unclassified
KEYWORDS: divorce; feminism; marriage; narcissism; narcissist; relationships
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To: durasell
I didn’t see the story as encouraging other women to act like her — but yeah, I agree, if the typical middleclass woman in a family struggling to keep their financial head above water acted like she did, then it would be a mess.

We'll agree to disagree re her encouraging others. Why write such an article otherwise? Magazine columns don't pay much. Perhaps part of it is that she's trying to assuage her guilt.

She obviously has the kind of options that most people don’t enjoy.

Clearly, yes.

Another poster said it well: that social disapproval for her ilk is called for, while new laws are not.

261 posted on 08/29/2007 12:49:09 PM PDT by stillonaroll (Rudy: pro-abortion, pro-gay, anti-gun)
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To: Caipirabob

This woman simply swapped the devil for the witch. After the “new” wears off, this new guy will suddenly look as shiftless and unattractive as the old one did. Oh, and I think this is probably an imaginary story with some basis in fact. People do tend to pick the same types over and over, expecting different results every time - all the while in denial about the truth.


262 posted on 08/29/2007 12:52:44 PM PDT by Twinkie (Faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God . . .)
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To: durasell; ArrogantBustard

The Mojito was actually invented at Yuca in Miami Beach in the early-90s. Like a mint julep except BETTER.


263 posted on 08/29/2007 1:05:38 PM PDT by Clemenza (Rudy Giuliani, like Pesto and Seattle, belongs in the scrap heap of '90s Culture)
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To: subaru
I really thought that men would be turned on by my Ivy League law degree.

I find intelligent, educated women highly attractive.

Law degrees, however, make me really nervous. I dated a lawyer once but I would not marry one. Nothing personal. Just being prudent. ;-)


264 posted on 08/29/2007 1:07:18 PM PDT by Polybius
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To: stillonaroll

These types of articles are popular in women’s fashion mags for the same reason they use size zero (sic!) models. The article, although no appearing in a fashion magazine, is basic fashion mag style.

Women, for reasons that escape men, like to read about clothing they can’t afford, look at bodies they don’t have, and learn about the lives they will never live. Men just like to look at pictures of cars and babes, or pictures of cars with babes draped over them. A much simpler formula.


265 posted on 08/29/2007 1:14:10 PM PDT by durasell (!)
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To: rogue yam

>>The purpose of feminism is to destroy Western civilization. Period.<<

It depends on how you define feminism. If you go back it used to be “the doctrine of legal equality between men and women.”

Its only when its warped that feminism becomes bad.

Unfortunately its so often warped these days.


266 posted on 08/29/2007 1:14:35 PM PDT by gondramB (Preach the Gospel at all times, and when necessary, use words)
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To: GOP Poet

She needs an old-fashioned wife.


267 posted on 08/29/2007 1:17:29 PM PDT by Patriotic1 (Dic mihi solum facta, domina - Just the facts, ma'am)
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To: durasell

Some people’s best judgement is abysmal. I scorn such people, loudly and publically. The author of this piece is one of them.


268 posted on 08/29/2007 1:23:18 PM PDT by LexBaird (Tyrannosaurus Lex, unapologetic carnivore)
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To: riverdawg
Well, "power couples" don't have real relationships. While I want someone who is intelligent and doesn't sit around the house eating Haagen Daz while watching DVDs of Sluts in the City, nor do I want someone who has ZERO time for me when I would like her around. Not would I want someone who is OBSESSED with what her peers think regarding her social life.

Its great being a man in the corporate world, as when we are not working we're typically golfing, while the ladies I guess have time to really give a sh-t what one thinks of their significant other/social standing.

269 posted on 08/29/2007 1:24:56 PM PDT by Clemenza (Rudy Giuliani, like Pesto and Seattle, belongs in the scrap heap of '90s Culture)
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To: LexBaird

Some people’s best judgement is abysmal. I scorn such people, loudly and publically.


I bet you’re a real hit at the local mall.


270 posted on 08/29/2007 1:25:39 PM PDT by durasell (!)
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To: Caipirabob

I don’t understand the point of the story. I’ve read it over and over. She left one stay-at-home husband and married another one just like him? What’s the point to the story? Help me out here, people! Aargh! < ;o


271 posted on 08/29/2007 1:31:40 PM PDT by my_pointy_head_is_sharp (Deport 'em all.)
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To: Caipirabob

Are any of them worried about the 6-month old baby who was abandoned by her mother?


272 posted on 08/29/2007 1:32:08 PM PDT by donna (A new study says that Ritalin may stunt growth. Men ARE getting shorter than women!)
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To: durasell
Women, for reasons that escape men, like to read about clothing they can’t afford, look at bodies they don’t have, and learn about the lives they will never live. Men just like to look at pictures of cars and babes, or pictures of cars with babes draped over them. A much simpler formula.

Actually, it's pretty much the same formula. We like to look at pictures of cars we'll never be able to afford and look at pictures of women who are waaaaaay out of our league!

273 posted on 08/29/2007 1:32:37 PM PDT by Drew68
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To: Drew68

The women’s thing is more encompassing —it’s an entire lifestyle deal: from orgasms to window treatments. Look at the cover lines on the magazines, they’re like a dialogue inside an insane person’s head.


274 posted on 08/29/2007 1:36:12 PM PDT by durasell (!)
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To: durasell
I said loudly and publically. I didn't say indiscriminantly. ;^) Mz. Brayfield has chosen to air her narcissism in print and publish it to the world. She deserves whatever comes her way.

Doesn't mean being in a mall would stop me, if I thought it warranted, though.

275 posted on 08/29/2007 1:41:35 PM PDT by LexBaird (Tyrannosaurus Lex, unapologetic carnivore)
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To: normy

“For some reason too many women think they are way better than they are.”

Men are MUCH more inclined than women to think they’re better than they are.


276 posted on 08/29/2007 1:44:48 PM PDT by MayflowerMadam
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To: Drew68
We like to look at pictures of cars we'll never be able to afford and look at pictures of women who are waaaaaay out of our league!

You are one funny guy! A refreshing change from the "American women are terrible" and "All women are beeaches" crowd.

277 posted on 08/29/2007 1:51:24 PM PDT by ladyjane
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To: durasell

But she is continue bothering people: her daughter by helping destroy her marriage and her ex-husband who hopefully will get a job in his field.


278 posted on 08/29/2007 1:54:16 PM PDT by thebaron512
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To: durasell

and picked up another bum in the same position? That might be what she was thinking, but don’t make it right.


279 posted on 08/29/2007 1:57:04 PM PDT by thebaron512
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To: LexBaird

I know what you meant, I was just kidding.

On the other hand, this is one of the reasons why people come to places like NYC — to live the kinds of lives they want to live.


280 posted on 08/29/2007 1:57:27 PM PDT by durasell (!)
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