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Why I Left My Beta Husband
MSN Lifestyle ^ | August 2007 | Amy Brayfield

Posted on 08/29/2007 2:18:39 AM PDT by Caipirabob

A few years ago, my husband, Mark, and I were at one of those hip downtown restaurants sipping mojitos and nibbling on lime-spiked seviche when one of my bosses appeared from a cloud of Cuban-cigar smoke and patted my shoulder. When I introduced him to Mark, he naturally asked what he did for a living. We both froze.

"I do some freelancing," Mark said.

"He studied film at NYU," I said at the same time.

Mark looked at me and shrugged. "I stay home with our daughter," he said, as my colleague quietly balked.

"He makes it possible for me to do my job," I said, laughing. But inside, I was mortified. Technically, I had it all back then, including a gorgeous toddler and a cool job.

What I didn't have was a husband I felt proud of.

(Excerpt) Read more at lifestyle.msn.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; Philosophy; Unclassified
KEYWORDS: divorce; feminism; marriage; narcissism; narcissist; relationships
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To: B-Chan

Good point.


101 posted on 08/29/2007 5:01:47 AM PDT by SIDENET (More fun than a beer left in the freezer.)
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To: SC Swamp Fox
You don’t know how their custody works. She may be painting a picture of every other weekend.
102 posted on 08/29/2007 5:03:29 AM PDT by poinq
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To: Labyrinthos

NYC is the fairest city in the world. If you’ve got talent, brains, ambition and a little luck, then the city showers you with riches, glory etc. If you lack any of those, then even your wife will kick you to the curb.


103 posted on 08/29/2007 5:04:10 AM PDT by durasell (!)
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To: Fred911

Really if your an atractive successful man in todays society you have no need to get married. UT brings in a new group of singles 2 times a year. The 2 girls I’m dating now are younger by 8-10 years which is perfect for me; their not looking to settle down their into upscale parties, trendy nightclubs, and Devil’s cove on Lake Travis which by a crazy coincidence are my intrests too. People always ask me why i won’t settle down, and then they meet my girls and know right off the bat the reason “why buy the cow when you get the milk free”. I learned that at 30 your “stable” and the younger ones just fall all over themselves for you. I would not give a woman like the one from this article the time of day. The kid from another man is a total deal breaker right from the get go. Why raise someone elses problem. Men stop being so dang metro stand up for yourselves girls like men who behave like men at least good southern Texas girls like real men not to sure about up north as i refuse to live in any yankee hellhole.


104 posted on 08/29/2007 5:04:49 AM PDT by JDinAustin (Better to be tried by 12 than carried by 6.)
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To: AppyPappy

It is truly disgusting!

LLS


105 posted on 08/29/2007 5:08:00 AM PDT by LibLieSlayer (Support America, Kill terrorists, Destroy dims!)
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To: CitizenUSA

Even non feminists don’t like the “submission” bit. For crying out loud “submission” is not something I believe belongs in marriage.


106 posted on 08/29/2007 5:08:33 AM PDT by cajungirl (no)
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To: Caipirabob
I envisioned us as hard-core academics, reading passages from Joyce to each other while I put together a fancy dinner of organic rutabaga soup with apple crème fraîche swirls on top.

Sounds like they deserved each other. Yeeech.

107 posted on 08/29/2007 5:11:01 AM PDT by Aquinasfan (When you find "Sola Scriptura" in the Bible, let me know)
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To: poinq

“The Bacardi company is working very hard to make this drink common because Rum and Coke has become so passe.”

- It’s become the most popular mixed drink in bars throughout the Caribbean mainly because the crushed mint gives the drink a cool tartness that is more refreshing than a sugar filled rum and coke.


108 posted on 08/29/2007 5:12:13 AM PDT by finnigan2 (>)
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To: normy
"My wife and I have more influence over my kids than some damn school curriculum."

Exactly! Parents united can and will make the difference. It takes effort, energy, and consitency, and is well worth the end result. That being, young adults who can think logically for themselves, with the ability to make informed decisions, not being swayed by popular opinion. Good job!

109 posted on 08/29/2007 5:12:58 AM PDT by semaj (Just shoot the bastards! * Your results may vary. Void where prohibited.)
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To: poinq
How did he make her proud? What did he do to even have pride in himself? At some point he has to take responsibility and be culpable in this relationship too. He didn’t even clean the house, care for the child, do laundry, or make dinner! Stay-at-home Dad? He complained about being the nanny/gardener/etc., but according to the article he wasn’t even successful with that!
110 posted on 08/29/2007 5:13:47 AM PDT by EBH
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To: CitizenUSA
At its core, I believe feminism is a rebellion against the ultimate male authority figure, God. The feminists refuse to submit to anyone. They are their own masters, beholden to no one. That is not a path to spiritual success (or a happy marriage).

We have a winner! And the assault on the family is an attack on the image of the Trinity.

111 posted on 08/29/2007 5:13:52 AM PDT by Aquinasfan (When you find "Sola Scriptura" in the Bible, let me know)
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To: Caipirabob
. . . Does that make me a sexist? . . .

No, my dear, it makes you an egoist: shallow, self-centered, and vain, with no concern for others.

112 posted on 08/29/2007 5:15:08 AM PDT by Logophile
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To: SC Swamp Fox

I wonder as well why he does not have custody. One of the statutory factors in every states “best interest of the child” standard is consideration for the one who nurtures over the one who provides.


113 posted on 08/29/2007 5:15:57 AM PDT by kjhm
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To: JDinAustin

” Really if your an atractive successful man in todays society you have no need to get married. “

30 going-on 12, huh??

Sorry — the Penthouse Letters office is two doors to the left and down the stairs....


114 posted on 08/29/2007 5:19:21 AM PDT by Uncle Ike (We has met the enemy, and he is us........)
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To: poinq
This lady is so image centric that she is putty in Bacardi’s hands. They want her to buy rum and so all they need to do is put a mojito in the hands of one of the sex and the city gals as well as a Cosmo model and this lady is divorcing her husband to find a man who can make a good mojito.

Oh man. That's the cherry on the turd.

115 posted on 08/29/2007 5:20:57 AM PDT by Aquinasfan (When you find "Sola Scriptura" in the Bible, let me know)
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To: JDinAustin

Oddly, the girls don’t seem to care much about grammar.


116 posted on 08/29/2007 5:22:12 AM PDT by durasell (!)
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To: caver
She emasculating these metrosexuals.

They've already done it to themselves.

117 posted on 08/29/2007 5:22:40 AM PDT by Oberon (What does it take to make government shrink?)
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To: EBH
I agree. I have nothing to say in his behalf. Its her logic thats so offensive. She is writing the story. As I said before, she could have had me on her side if she did things for the right reason. But the child seemed like someone else's. And she seemed more interested in her lifestyle than her life. At what point do you feel that this women knows she is part of a family.
118 posted on 08/29/2007 5:23:25 AM PDT by poinq
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To: Locomotive Breath

“She has a kid with a loser husband (film school? Give me a break!) and then ditches him.”

Guess he didn’t turn out to be the “next Spielberg.”


119 posted on 08/29/2007 5:23:36 AM PDT by PLMerite ("Unarmed, one can only flee from Evil. But Evil isn't overcome by fleeing from it." Jeff Cooper)
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To: ArrogantBustard

Mojito: A blood-sucking insect high on feminist fumes. ;-P


120 posted on 08/29/2007 5:26:20 AM PDT by MortMan (Have a pheasant plucking day!)
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