Posted on 08/29/2007 2:18:39 AM PDT by Caipirabob
A few years ago, my husband, Mark, and I were at one of those hip downtown restaurants sipping mojitos and nibbling on lime-spiked seviche when one of my bosses appeared from a cloud of Cuban-cigar smoke and patted my shoulder. When I introduced him to Mark, he naturally asked what he did for a living. We both froze.
"I do some freelancing," Mark said.
"He studied film at NYU," I said at the same time.
Mark looked at me and shrugged. "I stay home with our daughter," he said, as my colleague quietly balked.
"He makes it possible for me to do my job," I said, laughing. But inside, I was mortified. Technically, I had it all back then, including a gorgeous toddler and a cool job.
What I didn't have was a husband I felt proud of.
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I got the link to this article from the site "AmericanWomenSuck" this morning. I was there visiting after reading about that site on the thread about Languishing 30 something females, by fembot Marisa Micallef which depicted the state of modern feminism and it's impact on the dating scene in Malta.
Quote: "Everywhere you go, and never more so than in summer when everyone is out displaying their wares, via plastic bag filled boobs, pert bums, over arched eyebrows, waxed of hair female and male bodies, you see hordes, or groups of thirty something girls who may never marry( unless they find a foreigner), who may never have kids,(unless they decide to go it alone), and who are in a sense doomed to the frustrations and none of the glamour of the lives of women we saw in Friends, on Ally McBeal, on Sex in the City."
And of course I became intrigued. It's sad that so many women have fallen for the lies promoted by feminism. What they think has "set them free" has doomed them to a life without children and man who's willing to stay with them long enough to provide them any comfort.
And worse, the same movement has fostered a generation of men who are just as willing to embrace the lack of any real responsibility for themselves, any children they have throughout their random encounters or the women who are willing to produce them.
I mean, yes, they were there before, but now society seems to celebrate their like instead of castigating them for the disaster they are creating for our country.
OK, I could rant for hours, but frothing at the mouth is hard work and I have a long, long day ahead. I'll be content to check in and see how my fellow FReepers receive this post.
To be honest, I see some of these ladies every day. Career oriented, goal driven and fierce competitors in the corporate world. And Alone...a point that strikes as obvious on any given company event or outing. To be honest, I pity them and it's very sad. To work so hard and then to look back on your life and realize that you wanted something else? Feminism has been very cruel to these women. It's heartbreaking.
To counter this, we have several mothers we work with in the group. They are high level and yet each have several children and either a good marriage or relationship. They are indispensable and I do not know what I would do without them, we rely on each other AND they are a joy to work with. They are happy and fulfilled and it shows. The former group seems very bitter and full of complaints in comparison.
Oh, and here's the link to the thread at the other site in the event people are curious about the debate there. Most of the threads are similar to this.
As far as American women? They are wonderful. There is no difference between them and foreign women that would place any benefit in the latter's court. You just have to meet the right one. Just find one that hasn't been "lost" due to "MTV exposure" and remember that MTV is shown around the world...
There’ll be a book about this story, Why Ken Sucked At Being A Mommy, required reading in every school library. Man, so sorry lady that some guy had the audacity to want something more out of life. Bet you’d cluck your tongue at a woman who did that...
Oh, no, you’d pass the name of a good lawyer to her.
The purpose of feminism is to destroy Western civilization. Period.
This woman wouldn’t be happy with anyone. As soon as she lands a new man, she’ll find something wrong with him. She emasculating these metrosexuals.
She goes right back out and marries exactly the same kind of guy!
In retrospect, I realized I had this preconceived idea of what a sexy, attractive man should be like. I imagined being married to, well, someone like me. Someone whose job sounds interesting to other people. Someone who walks out the door with a pressed shirt on, a leather briefcase, and a confident gait. Someone who wins bread. Does that make me a sexist? "I always felt embarrassed and guilty—you had all these ambitions for me that I felt like I wasn't living up to," Mark said to me after our divorce.
So nobody was more surprised than I was when I went ahead and fell for another stay-at-home dad.
Here's the difference, though: Jason knows what he wants—and it's not a corner office. He wants to have his afternoons free to hit the park with my daughter or paint or translate the writings of Pablo Neruda. There's nothing thwarted or self-pitying about him. When we're cooking dinner together on Friday nights in a kitchen fragrant with curry, or trying to drink coffee in bed on Sunday mornings while my daughter dances around us, I'm so attracted to him that it's all I can do not to rip his clothes off then and there.
Put it this way: Whether it's me or the fort he's holding, I think it's damn sexy.
I'm shaking my head here...
Children need a father! This is just so very crucial.
We separated a few months later.
Well, sure.
HE objects to the way YOU treat him, and it's up to HIM to "offer" some "alternative" ???
Pardon moi, your majesty.
” She emasculating these metrosexuals “
Hmmmm...
Is that an oxymoron or a redundancy???
“Is that an oxymoron or a redundancy???”
Yes! But I repeat myself......
Pinging a few ping list managers. This thread might be interesting following the discussion of the Malta Dating scene in the "Languishing ladies" thread.
“She emasculating these metrosexuals.”
isn’t that an oxymoron?
One thing that is really sad is even when we have a republican ‘family values’ president or governors the feminist ideology is still taught in schools. I would say most children, especially girls become indoctrinated into really believing what they are taught there.
Its not until the mid 30’s for most women that I know/have seen in my life.. that they start questioning feminism. Start wondering what would really make them happy.
There is really no way to unteach feminist indoctrination either.. its like trying to convince a woman that her religion is wrong. Not going to happen.
rogue yam: “The purpose of feminism is to destroy Western civilization. Period.”
At its core, I believe feminism is a rebellion against the ultimate male authority figure, God. The feminists refuse to submit to anyone. They are their own masters, beholden to no one.
That is not a path to spiritual success (or a happy marriage).
” She emasculating these metrosexuals “
Hmmmm...
Is that an oxymoron or a redundancy???
.
sorry, hadn’t read down to your post when I posted mine... GMTA
” sorry, hadn’t read down to your post when I posted mine... GMTA “
Great minds, and all that.... ;~)
Yes
she makes me sick.
You mean Mark's daughter, you bitch.
When we're ... trying to drink coffee in bed on Sunday mornings while my daughter dances around us, I'm so attracted to him that it's all I can do not to rip his clothes off then and there.
You want to rip his clothes off in bed while your daughter is there? You'd probably consider it a good learning experience for her to watch.
Just read the whole thing on why she left her beta. What a fool. She finds another stay-at-home husband who turns her on, for now at least. Seems clueless that she is just repeating her mistake and this time with a man who will stay at home with her daughter, when he’s not her father.
Yo, Amy! One day when you realize you haven’t made love in a year, pray he’s been with someone who doesn’t have AIDS. Then pray he hasn’t been messing with your little girl either.
“So nobody was more surprised than I was when I went ahead and fell for another stay-at-home dad.... Here’s the difference, though: Jason knows what he wants—and it’s not a corner office. He wants to have his afternoons free to hit the park with my daughter... or trying to drink coffee in bed on Sunday mornings while my daughter dances around us...”
While the real father of this little girl misses out on this and the little girl misses out on her daddy. A failing relationship is one thing, but this articles makes it completely another.
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