A member of the ambiguosly gay duo turning to his life partner when his wife insists on speaking to the press for him?
Posted on 08/14/2007 5:57:01 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
When many of us hear the words "domestic violence," we automatically assume the victim would be a female and the attacker would be a male. After all, men are traditionally viewed as the more aggressive of the two sexes, and the victims of most domestic abuse situations are indeed women. But a surprising number of domestic violence episodes do involve women as the aggressors, creating a new category of victim known as the battered husband. A battered husband suffers the same emotional, verbal and physical abuse as a battered wife, but is less likely to report these crimes to authorities.
The relationship between a battered husband and his abusive spouse can be very complex. A battered husband often employs the same defensive tactics as a battered wife, including denial, withdrawal and disconnection. The shame of owning up to a spouse's abusive behavior could cause a battered husband to defend her around others. Some excuses may be that his own actions triggered her violent response, or she's only reacting to post-natal stress. Denial can be a powerful coping mechanism for a battered husband, especially if he dreads the idea of having meaningful discussions with his abusive spouse.
Another characteristic of a battered husband is the tendency to disconnect from his own domestic problems. A battered husband will often spend more and more time at work, or take up a hobby outside of the home. In order to avoid potential conflicts, a battered husband may decide to sleep in the family car or spend his waking hours in a private den or office. A violent spouse may also be abusive towards children, either in the form of physical attacks or excessive punishments for minor infractions. A battered husband could remain in the abusive home strictly to protect his children from further abuse.
A battered husband may also find it difficult to pursue legal remedies against an abusive spouse. A number of states have domestic violence laws requiring law enforcement officers to arrest at least one of the combatants if physical injuries are visible. A battered husband may have been the victim of severe mental and emotional abuse for hours, but one defensive slap could tip the balance in the abusive spouse's favor. Enforcing a temporary restraining order against an abusive wife could also become problematic for a battered husband, especially if children are involved.
There are a number of support groups dedicated to sufferers of "battered husband syndrome." These groups also provide online information for men who may want to break away from a violent relationship but fear the aftermath. Some studies suggest that over 800,000 men become victims of domestic violence every year, but only a fraction ever report the abuse to authorities. Many men fear the social stigma of admitting they were powerless against a violent spouse, or the loss of meaningful time spent with their children following a divorce.
Been there, done that.
Nahhh, that could never ha-
Hold it...
A member of the ambiguosly gay duo turning to his life partner when his wife insists on speaking to the press for him?
I have actually seen the double standard. Battered women’s shelters are very “in vogue” with the liberal woman lawyer set. At one fundraiser I remember chatting with a woman lawyer who said men can’t be real victims because they have the possibilty of fighting back because of their strength. Before I could even comment one of the councelors who worked at the center which was the subjecto of the fundraise jumped in and said that battered does not always need to be physical.
Her statement was that women are just as vicious with the mental abuse and demeaning attacks because men generally do not hit women because of the physical unfairness.
It was an interesting moment to see a non-laywer social worker type zing a feminist lawyer.
A battered husband would be some that had been sort of breaded. He must have fallen into a vat of batter. Thats all I can figure.
I am.
Opps you're not talking about leather, chains, and whip toy's are you?
My bad. /;-)
Few of the PC crowd acknowledge this. On top of that, men are expected to defend our nation, to see all sorts of horrifying violence, and then come home and act as if none of it ever happened.
Such is the lot of the majority of US males.
And we laugh about it. We are what makes our nation great.
Pass the watermelon.
a battered husband is one that allows his dominating wife to bitch slap him into submission to her will 90% of the time.
( a common malady in todays Liberal family unit)
a battered husband is one who has failed to promote
domestic democracy within the family unit.
peacefulness and mutual respect , happy willingness to compromise on both partners behalf , no power tripping and no
yelling and screaming and brow beating .
And if one of the two feel inclinations to physical violence , take up karate , at the dojo , as a white belt...
You’ll get over it fast :^)
The more pseudo-masculine man-haters we train, the more women will shoot, stab, bludgeon and drive over their husbands.
The following are Fortune 500s that filed briefs in favor of “affirmative action” in the Michigan “Grutter v. Bollinger” (Michigan University) case.
http://www.umich.edu/~urel/admissions/legal/gru_amicus/32_internatl.pdf
3M
Abbott Laboratories
American Airlines
Ashland
Bank One
Boeing
Coca-Cola
Dow Chemical
E.I. Du Pont De Nemours
Eastman Kodak
Eli Lilly
Ernst & Young
Exelon
Fannie Mae
General Dynamics
General Mills
Intel
Johnson & Johnson
Kellogg
KPMG
Lucent Technologies
Microsoft
Mitsubishi
Nationwide Mutual Insurance
Nationwide Financial
Pfizer
PPG
Proctor & Gamble
Sara Lee
Steelcase
Texaco
TRW
United Airlines
General Motors Corporation
http://www.umich.edu/~urel/admissions/legal/gru_amicus/gru_gm.html
Who Controls Education Policies?
Eagle Forum
Phyllis Schlafly
http://www.eagleforum.org/psr/2003/aug03/psraug03.shtml
Caving in on Title IX
“The Bush Administration has just re-affirmed the Clintonian feminists’ Title IX outrages, which impose a gender quota-like system on college sports. The feminists are squealing with joy and the National Women’s Law Center calls it a “huge win” — for the feminists, of course. Bush is dreaming if he thinks they will ever reward him with their votes.”
Vicious, You hit me with a flower, You've got that kind of power, Baby, you're so vicious(Lou Reed Vicious)
The reason many men are battered is that they know if they respond to their wife’s violence, even in defense, they themselves will be charged with abuse. Things generally go downhill from here.
BINGO! My ex knew I wouldn’t lay a hand on her and took advantage of that fact.
I never struck mine back, but I did hold her down when she attacked me. After I ended things, she hooked up with a poor fellow that she slapped around at will. She eventually shot and killed him.
Whoa. Can tell you’ve never actually been in a relationship with a woman before.
“Leave the b*tch.”
Most of my unhappily married friends will tell ya...
“it’s cheapa-ta-keep-ha”.
Otherwise you have battered husbands wallet syndrome.
Have you? 
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