Posted on 05/11/2007 9:58:44 AM PDT by Congressman Billybob
John / Billybob
Live and learn as they say.
L
The secret to a successful marriage is lack of pride. Each partner must view the other as being more important. Love is a decision—not a feeling one gets. Love and infatuation are often confused.
What I found interesting was that Dr. Phil’s producers made the decision to feature this loon on four whole shows, whereas a normal show of his would cover two or more families in one hour.
I hear ya on that.
Dr. Spill ,, an Oprah uhh Harpo entity, well seeded as one anyway, continues to amaze folks with the drivel that TV delivers to homes these days. Thank goodness we have the internet to waste the rest of our time when we aren’t working, lurking, freeping, kivetching and such.
Does Phil’s House have High speed Internet connections and a sauna and jacuzzi, I wonder? I may volunteer my wife’s family for a stint... and that’s as personal as I’m gonna get.
btw, HaPPy Mother’s Day to Mrs. CB.
What Causes Divorce and How Can We Prevent It?
There are many reasons why marriages fail, but the exact causes of divorce vary for each couple. A study conducted by the OMI and Oklahoma State University indicates that the major contributors to divorce among Oklahomans are a lack of commitment (85%) and too much conflict and arguing (61%). Oklahomans gave the following other causes of divorce:
* Infidelity (58%)
* Marrying too young (43%)
* Little or no helpful premarital preparation (42%)
* Financial problems (41%)
* Domestic Violence (30%)
* Lack of support from family members (29%)
* Religious differences (21%)
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Your words are the ones that, in 1984, saved our marriage. We had to start over, almost like we were courting. And we have no regrets.
Love IS a decision, and every day, we get up and decide to love one another for another day. The sense of renewal is amazingly simple and incredibly complex.
I will stress, though, that both partners must commit. Otherwise it just doesn't work.
I'm glad it worked out for you.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
I plan on watching Dr. Phil this afternoon. I knew this Jeffrey person was full of it when he agreed to go to inpatient therapy to “fix his problem”. Imo, he had no intention of fixing his problem, because in his mind he isn’t the one with the problem. This won’t end until one of them is dead.
Dr. Phil’s guests seem to be chosen on the basis of sensationalism. I don’t watch the show as much as I used to because of that.
Congratulations on reuniting with your long-lost love! I wish the two of you all the success in the world.
As to Dr. Phil’s show, I’d only seen brief promos about this Jeffrey guy. I think I dated a fella who was the mouth-breathing, Neanderthalic version of him, LOL! No physical abuse but the man was absolutely paranoid about technology, and it was crazy the way his mind worked. Other than getting involved with him I behaved no differently from before, yet he kept checking with his brother and SiL living next door to make sure I wasn’t seeing someone else on the side. For a while I bent under pressure, thinking eventually he’d realise I was a good girl and he needn’t fear our differences (education level, hobbies, income). Hmmmph! My accidently catching him at an ongoing infidelity became the breaking point, but even if I hadn’t caught him, I never could have lived with the paranoid accusations. Took pressing charges (and a 3rd party supposedly threatening bodily harm) just to get the freak to leave me alone.
That Jeffrey’s marriage produced kids is a shame. Even once their divorce is done, he’ll be a continual curse on the lives of all involved. I wanna be critical of Jennifer for marrying Jeffrey in the first place, but I can sympathize to a point. You think after you’ve soothed his fears, the inquisition is over. It’s not. Once you’ve accomodated his paranoia, reassured him that all’s well THIS TIME, he simply comes up with ever more bizarre questions as to your daily routine. With no provocation on your part, you’re always on the defensive.
It sounds like this is going to have a happy ending for you, my friend.
Congratulations on your newfound bliss. I pray that it will endure the rest of your lifetime.
I married the love of my life when I was 21 in 1976.
There’s a lot to be said for that.
Good luck, don’t look back and dwell on what happened in the past, just look forward and enjoy the rest of your life.
No, the one where you wrote about her decamping to the Pacific gets that honor.
TC
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials John!
In my case, there were numerous failures in and of my first marriage on both my and my ex-wife’s parts. I’m still paying the costs.
Fortunately, I’m happily married the second time (to someone I met here on FR BTW) and when we have friction, most times I make an assessment to pick my battles.
Usually, the fight is not worth the acrimony.
Treat your bride the way you would like to be treated and you will do all right.
Congrats again.
Dave
May the years ahead be the Happiest of your life.
Best Wishes for a Wonderful Marriage.
bttt
Now, don't look back, just look ahead and enjoy yourselves. None of us are guaranteed another day.
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