Posted on 01/15/2007 7:16:36 PM PST by Lorianne
Any guy who plays golf all day when his wife has been up all week with a baby feeding at 11:00 p.m., 2:00 a.m. and 5:00 a.m. (and taking care of a two year old and four year old during the day) would be considered a selfish jerk by a lot of people, including my husband!
I don't put my kids up for adoption, but I have adopted. Your advice is noted, however.
Don't we all ... and I think they call that love .. ;)
Awwww .. c'mon now. Maybe going a little too far?
hahahaha
Yea, you gotta just keep on walking when you see a gal who spends more on shoes than some 3rd world nations national GDPs.
If I was in NYC, the ONLY women I'd even remotely consider dating would be 1st or second generation immigrants... I've spent enough time in Manhattan to know those are the only marrying kind you are going to find there.
Well marrying kind that aren't going to suck the soul out of you anyway.
"I find it interesting you referred to women who made more than the man...yet still received alimony. What state was this in? I don't know many women who make more than their male counterparts....if they're on the same level scholastically."
California. In TX, women still are not paid as well as their male peers. OTOH, I could not do the job my husband does as it requires knowledge of industrial facilities and all the infinite things that can go wrong due to people and/or eqpt.
In fact, the field of qualified persons is so limited that he's on the last stretch of his BS degree which the position required and couldn't find anyone with it who was capable!
You're a pretty special person, I think, and I apologize for what you could have taken as a bit of a nasty post. I'm glad you see I did NOT mean it that way.
What you describe happened to my parents. Mom put dad through med school, working all the time, and then he hung around with a nurse and she ditched him. She shouldn't have; he'd never have married that strumpet and she wasn't ever happy after dumping him and he never paid child support. We were better off without him - sorry, [/rant]
BTW .. the other shoe fits as well. I was very stupidly and naively too trusting in my 20's and 30's. Yup: 2 nuclear-level toxic men........ one an alcoholic (I didn't know then you could be an alcoholic from drinking *just* beer), and the other, who it turned out inherited the family cruelty and control disease >> talk about not trusting my own judgement .. whew!
ty for the welcome.
Aw Fred, the majority of us gals are not like that.
IMHO, the Bible explains the true definition of love in that love is about sacrifice and that's without a doubt, always a 2-way street in marriage.
Regardless, I completely agree with your observations and assessments. Hmmmm. Just think what may run through one's mind at the end of their time here on earth when, if there's any true conscious to be found still in their heart(s), that all they managed to do in a lifetime is focus on image, material possessions and the constant application of deceit and selfishness to obtain it and flaunt it?
I thought I could make things work....with a very uncooperative spouse. Afterwards...it took a few years to get over the fact I'd lost my "superwoman cape"...and realize the only person we can change .....is ourselves.
I do miss the security I felt in having a marriage....but don't miss the turmoil. :)
I can't tell you how many times I have been asked that question. I have never asked it of any man. The real world is not like FR where the men think they are innocent victims of evil, gold digging skanks. There are plenty of opportunistic male gold diggers out there who want nothing more than a woman to support them.
It's natural to feel grief when a marriage is lost. Been there, done that! I worry that our girl is engaged to a man who's very 'thrifty' and makes much more than she does, yet expects her to pay half of everything...even after they marry!
She already admitted she has no money left after bills, yet she wants her own account to make purchases without having to get permission. Sheesh, no wonder his first wife dumped him.
I'm glad you're a good mom and that you are free to enjoy your life!
Well...knock that girl down and drag her backwards from the altar! She has no idea what she's getting into. :)
I wonder if 'Desperate Housewives' has anything to do with this? :)
Thank you, Froufrou, for adding me!
I trust you completely, but may I ask you to what thingie I've been added?
;-)
The singles ping list (but you were already on it)
Hi!
Usually during day I work & take FReep breaks. Today I FReeped & took work breaks.
Like today better than other days
Hello, Dolly!
Sounds like today is a good day for you... it's good here, too - it's cooooold and I luuuuv it!
Mutual respect in the context of a marriage with God present forestalls any hidden agendas where selfishness dwells or emotional baggage prevails.
But I've only learned this from all my buddies who don't hold marriage in the idealistic esteem I do. Of course they are all married and I'm not. :)
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