"I find it interesting you referred to women who made more than the man...yet still received alimony. What state was this in? I don't know many women who make more than their male counterparts....if they're on the same level scholastically."
California. In TX, women still are not paid as well as their male peers. OTOH, I could not do the job my husband does as it requires knowledge of industrial facilities and all the infinite things that can go wrong due to people and/or eqpt.
In fact, the field of qualified persons is so limited that he's on the last stretch of his BS degree which the position required and couldn't find anyone with it who was capable!
You're a pretty special person, I think, and I apologize for what you could have taken as a bit of a nasty post. I'm glad you see I did NOT mean it that way.
What you describe happened to my parents. Mom put dad through med school, working all the time, and then he hung around with a nurse and she ditched him. She shouldn't have; he'd never have married that strumpet and she wasn't ever happy after dumping him and he never paid child support. We were better off without him - sorry, [/rant]
I thought I could make things work....with a very uncooperative spouse. Afterwards...it took a few years to get over the fact I'd lost my "superwoman cape"...and realize the only person we can change .....is ourselves.
I do miss the security I felt in having a marriage....but don't miss the turmoil. :)