BTW .. the other shoe fits as well. I was very stupidly and naively too trusting in my 20's and 30's. Yup: 2 nuclear-level toxic men........ one an alcoholic (I didn't know then you could be an alcoholic from drinking *just* beer), and the other, who it turned out inherited the family cruelty and control disease >> talk about not trusting my own judgement .. whew!
Yes, "Ve too soon grow old unt too late schmardt!"