This usually got my attention:
Posted on 01/09/2007 3:03:21 PM PST by presidio9
If you think you’re the only parent struggling to rear an unruly child destined to become a careless member of the society, think again. Almost one-third of parents believe their disciplining styles are ineffective.
In a survey of more than 2,000 parents of children between the ages of 2 and 11, researchers for the first time examined four common ways of disciplining kids —“time-outs,” removal of privileges, yelling and spanking.
More than 45 percent of the parents reported using time-outs as a disciplinary action. Almost 42 percent removed their child’s privileges, followed by 13 percent who resorted to yelling and 9 percent who opted to spank their children, the researchers report in the January issue of the journal Clinical Pediatrics.
Almost 31 percent of participants reported they believed their methods were not effective, and more than 38 percent were using the same discipline methods their own parents used on them as a child.
“There was actually an inverse relationship between self-reports of yelling at children and perceived effectiveness of discipline,” said lead study author Shari Barkin, a physician at the Monroe Carell Jr. Children’s Hospital at Vanderbilt. “But we strongly suspect that both yelling and spanking might be underreported, because we know when parents perceive their methods are not working, as one-third reported, then emotions can quickly escalate,” she said.
Barkin and colleagues think pediatricians should address discipline when parents bring their children to the doctor’s office for visits.
“Discipline is a central element of what parents do every day, and it’s important to develop systems to support parents so that they can apply positive parenting to improve outcomes in children,” Barkin told LiveScience.com.
“In this study, we altered the manner in which we asked families about discipline," she explained. "This created a shared dialogue rather than a lecture."
Of course.
My wife succeeds so spectacularly, I think, because she has always modeled perfectly approriate behavior, self-control, and discipline in her own life without being harsh and while remaining cheerful and pleasant. Our sons have amazingly high regard and respect for her. Our two oldest are now married and, to their credit, they sought out and married women similar in temperament to their mother.
I couldn't be more blessed or happier. My boys are all good, obedient, thoughtful, and successful because of their mother. I am one incredibly lucky guy.
This usually got my attention:
You sure are. And you are a very wise man to choose a woman like her. Please give her my warmest regards!
That's the best thing any of us can do for them once they fly the coop. Joining mine to yours right now.
Father God,
We lift up to you these grown children of Marysecretary for your special attention and guidance. Convict them with a right spirit of humility and dependence on Your Will and Purpose for their lives, Lord. We are weak, but You are stronger than every human appearance and circumstance. In Your time, Lord, we pray, illuminate their hearts and minds with Your healing grace, and comfort the heart of your faithful servant, "Marysecretary". We pray to you believing in the Name above all names,
Amen!
You got money for failing???? :D
Nooo, in the olden days "E" stood for excellence. Silly....
Bless you and your beautiful prayer on my family's behalf. Love, Maryxxx
You might be surprised if you actually knew anything about the issue. The real problem with this study is that it missed the most important attributes of child rearing. Whether you use time-out, spanking, suspending privileges, whatever, the critical factors are clarity of expectation, consistency, and followthrough.
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