Better him picking up the slack than to find out his baby was sexually molested or worse...
There's the FIRST mistake. The answer should have been NO.
************
Pathetic.
Huh?
I hope this lady is not in a job that requires coherent communication, because I'm perplexed. What kind of work does she do that involves going to a coffee shop?
And if her husband doesn't want to spend time with his child (I assume it's his child, and that's the "slack" she mentioned), then why do they have one?
I'd suggest she get a cat, but it's too late ...
Ping list for the discussion of the politics and social (and sometimes nostalgic) aspects that directly effects Generation Reagan / Generation-X (Those born from 1965-1981) including all the spending previous generations (i.e. The Baby Boomers) are doing that Gen-X and Y will end up paying for.
Freep mail me to be added or dropped. See my home page for details and previous articles.
Sounds like she is complaining because she wants it all. Why did she have kids if she wasn't going to watch them? And why get a babysitter just to go to a coffee shop?
She should call Andy Willoughby and find out about the 3 Step Scam.
Cry me a river. How about not having kids if they're that much of an imposition? How about rearranging your priorities and living within your means? How about *Grow up and quitchyerbi%&*in?*
When my son was 3 months old, we decided to let a really nice neighbor young lady watch him in her home, instead of going the day-care route.
I got off early one Friday, and arrived at "Marge"'s house to pick up my son. After knocking on the door a few minutes, with no answer, I let myself in, thinking "Marge" was tied up and couldn't come to the door.
There in the living room was my 3 month old baby, asleep in a baby swing, with his pacifier in his mouth, and a piece of TAPE across his face, holding the pacifier in place.
"Marge" was not in the house. She was next door visiting with the neighbor.
Needless to say, our relationship ended right quickly with "Marge".
We had to go the day care route after that. But at least I knew there was more than one person there to monitor what was going on.
Thank God, my son is now healthy and happy at 12, but I will never get that picture of him in that swing out of my mind, and the horror of thinking that he could've choked had he spit up.
Sorry for the long post....
It's interesting how the mommy in this piece keeps referring to her child as "the baby" and not "my daughter" or "my son." Could be nothing, of course, but if you ask me, that's very telling right there of exactly where this mom's mind is at.
I had to read this about 10 times before I understood why she was upset. It sure sounds like he did as told.
On my 11th reading, I think I grasp that the guy should have walked a sleeping baby over to the coffee shop.
I think the mother is the problem. I see poor decision making and unclear directions.
While, of course, demanding that her husband work more absurd and inflexible hours to "pick up the slack."
Dumbass.
We are long past the days of Ozzie and Harriet and Leave it to Beaver where Dad goes to work every day and Mom stays home and raises the kids. Many people who thumb their nose at families where Mom works speak from experiences 20 years ago or live in more rural or less economically vibrant areas.
They young lady needs to write on the chalk board:
A child is not a pet
A child is not a pet
A child is not a pet.............
What bizarre instructions. Seems like the lawyer doofus did what he was told.
More fundamentally, why did this woman have a kid if she didn't want to be around it?
Our company taps into top-tier stay at home moms regularly for all kinds of consulting work.
This lady's a whack job, but her point is valid. You don't need to go to work to maintain some sort of connection to your career, and you can do it in the context of staying home to raise your kids.
However, don't expect to CLIMB some sort of ladder while you are raising 0 to 5 year olds.
The technology available in the home is MOST DEFINITELY good enough for great talent to contribute in specific ways. We get talent we couldn't even discuss affording at incredible rates simply because we accommodate stay at home moms.
In large organizations, this is a nightmare. Small to medium, this is very workable.
I don't know why people want to have kids in todays world....it's just so expensive, lots of worry and work. Why do you have kids? Honestly.
FREERIDER I HATE IT WHEN THAT HAPPENS PING!
Cry me a f#%$ing river, lady. Corporate America doesn't exist to accomodate the wants and needs of people with kids. I'm sick and tired of covering for parents who aren't at work because their kid's babysitter is sick, they have to go to Junior's soccer practice, or some other such thing. This kind of crap makes me not want to hire any parents of young children, even though I know that they are not all selfish, irresponsible boobs.