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Lesbian teen sees activism as 'my job'
The Oregonian ^ | Thursday, December 28, 2006 | STEPHEN BEAVEN

Posted on 12/28/2006 10:36:24 AM PST by presidio9

Thanksgiving in Salem at Aunt Teri's house and the family is picking at Sasha Villarreal, asking questions, pushing buttons.

So, are you lesbian? What if you meet a nice boy? One uncle says he'd rather his teenage daughter be pregnant than gay.

It makes Sasha nervous, brings a little flutter to her heart. She's 18. Family is important to her. But she doesn't back down. She comes right back at them, kidding, asking questions of her own.

Well, why do you like girls, Uncle Tony?

Their response? Uncle Tony puts his hands over his ears, like he doesn't want to hear another word. But Grandpa just laughs, and Sasha feels good about that.

She remembers the ride home to Portland that night, rehashing the day with her supportive mom, grateful to pass another milestone in an already momentous year.

Takes on activist role

Sasha's been out for a while. But in 2006, she pushed aside the last vestiges of her fundamentalist upbringing and stepped to the forefront of queer youth activism in Oregon.

She helped organize the Oregon Queer Youth Conference last February. She helped put together the Oregon Gay-Straight Alliance, a school-based group that fights homophobia, and now serves on its board.

In the summer, she traveled to San Francisco for a national gay-straight conference, which inspired her to get even more involved.

"I told myself that it was my job to try and make my school, Portland and eventually the state a better place for queer youth," she says at a Starbucks near her Southeast Portland home.

As always, she's decked out in a cool kid uniform: Six hoop earrings, black Motorhead T-shirt, black pants, tongue stud, lip stud, nose ring and heavy mascara. She's tall, and her hair is chopped short, framing a full, unlined face.

Coming out to her deeply religious extended family started late last year and has continued slowly throughout 2006. Their grudging acceptance was a relief and gave Sasha the confidence to speak out on behalf of herself and other queer teens.

Her mom, Gina Hansen, has noticed a marked difference in recent months as Sasha makes her way toward adulthood.

"This year, she's 100 percent out," Hansen says. "She has no shame at all."

Struggling with confusion

The Sunday school teachers told her homosexuality was disgusting, a sin punishable by eternal damnation.

And Sasha was a kid, so she believed them.

Sasha and her three siblings lived with their grandparents in Salem for several years while their parents were in and out of trouble with the law. Twice a week, grandma and grandpa took them to church, where the teachers hammered home the lessons of conservative faith.

"I remember them telling us that people who were homosexual would go to hell if they didn't cleanse themselves," Sasha says, "that they were disgusting and basically godless, very low people."

When she was 11, Sasha moved to Portland to live with her mother, who is divorced from her father. That's when she started questioning the teachings of her old church.

Hansen, who is now remarried, has a liberal philosophy about sexuality and a wide circle of gay and lesbian friends.

One lesbian couple, in particular, was especially close to the family, coming over for barbecues and movies. Sasha loved them but felt bewildered at the same time.

"It made me really confused as to why these people were so 'disgusting,' " she says. "They seemed like really good people to me."

About the same time, Sasha began questioning her own sexuality. What followed were several years of silent struggle after she realized she had a crush on her best friend. Ultimately, Sasha decided her Sunday school teachers were wrong.

"I wasn't completely positive at first," she says. "It was scary and weird. I still felt like it was so wrong, but my feelings were so strong I thought it couldn't be fake."

Growing more comfortable

Sasha sits in a crowded downtown coffeehouse surrounded by four adults, making plans for the statewide Gay-Straight Alliance convention next spring.

Listening to her hash out the details of a needs assessment questionnaire, watching her pull out an appointment book so she can organize her week, it's easy to forget that she's a baby-faced senior at Cleveland High School who's just now applying to colleges.

But it's true. Her bedroom is cluttered with the detritus of teenhood: porcelain dolls, stuffed animals, makeup, jewelry, posters featuring the Grateful Dead, Slayer, Kurt Cobain, Angelina Jolie, Queen and "Brokeback Mountain."

Half the time, she dresses like a high school kid, circa 1982. One day she wears black-and-red tights, Pat Benatar mascara and a Judas Priest T-shirt.

At the coffeehouse, she's got a camo cap cocked sideways, a pair of purple Chuck Taylor high-tops, striped knickers and a black T-shirt featuring a pink outline of a plump mud-flap model.

She jiggles her leg, fiddles with her hair and hangs back while the grown-ups run through the nitty-gritty for next year's convention.

But the advisers draw her out, asking questions, trying to find out what young people want for entertainment, dancing, etc. And she delivers, providing a much-needed teen-centric perspective.

Like, don't invite so many adult chaperones to the dance this time. It makes the kids uncomfortable.

And how about a smaller room? More kids will dance if they're not standing in the middle of a cavernous dance floor.

OK, what about the music?

"In general," she says, "techno is the queer beat for kids."

In the past year, Sasha has grown more comfortable speaking to groups and communicating her ideas about activism, says Austin Lea, one of the adult advisers for the Oregon Gay-Straight Alliance.

Planning events and working with other kids, he says, "has really been empowering for her."

In addition to conferences, Sasha also is planning for her future. She hopes to study criminology at Southern Oregon University next year and wants to continue her advocacy for queer youth.

All of which makes her mother proud.

"She's turning out to be a very smart, powerful and beautiful woman," Hansen says.

But for now, Sasha's got homework to do, conferences to plan, college applications to finish.

Then there's her extended family. They love her but still think homosexuality is a sin.

Which is all right with Sasha. She understands how difficult it is to overcome church teachings. And she realizes the teasing and the questions might continue. She's willing to take it. Up to a point.

"I'm OK," Sasha says, "as long as they don't call me a fag."

Stephen Beaven: 503-294-7663; stevebeaven@news.oregonian.com


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KEYWORDS: homosexualagenda; lookatme; moralabsolutes
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To: guppas

"Regardless of whether she's lesbian, queer, gay, or (excuse me, Sasha) a fag, I'm certainly not in a position to be her judge. BTW, why do you people use name calling so much?"

I agree.

Before the BCC became a Christian, he played in rock bands and had relations with women he had no intention of marrying, smoked pot, and drank more than a ceremonial quantity of spirits. That's just for the "on the surface" stuff.

I look around and find no moral high ground on which stand!

We need to pray for this young woman and ALL sinners to come to a relationship with Jesus that will eventually compel them to live a life pleasing to God.


161 posted on 12/29/2006 4:59:00 PM PST by Blue Collar Christian ( The anti-American socialists can stop calling themselves Americans now. ><BCC>NRA)
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To: SuzyQue
"I'm also curious as to what mr. bbm's point is."

Is "girly man" OK?

162 posted on 12/29/2006 6:03:10 PM PST by bruinbirdman ("Those who control language control minds." -- Ayn Rand)
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To: bruinbirdman

OK? In what context? I'm not at all sure what you are asking.


163 posted on 12/29/2006 6:50:24 PM PST by SuzyQue (Remember to think.)
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To: SuzyQue
"In what context? I'm not at all sure what you are asking."

You haven't understood anyone's context or point for 163 posts. Why keep responding?

Or do you just want the last entry on the thread?

164 posted on 12/29/2006 7:40:50 PM PST by bruinbirdman ("Those who control language control minds." -- Ayn Rand)
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To: bruinbirdman

Beautiful. You write gibberish and then accuse me of not understanding you.

You might want to go back to your invective. You are obviously better practiced in that, and make just as little sense.


165 posted on 12/29/2006 8:11:12 PM PST by SuzyQue (Remember to think.)
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To: SuzyQue
"You write gibberish and then accuse me of not understanding you. "

I quote you: SinQue, "I'm not at all sure what you are asking. "

163 posted on 12/29/2006 6:50:24 PM PST by SinQue (Remember to think.)

You did not write gibberish in post 163. I paraphrased what you have been saying for about two days, "I don't have a clue what this thread is about."

166 posted on 12/29/2006 9:40:50 PM PST by bruinbirdman ("Those who control language control minds." -- Ayn Rand)
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To: wagglebee

What a sad case.


167 posted on 12/30/2006 6:55:43 AM PST by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: bruinbirdman

"SinQue" - just because I tell you that your language is out of line and you have expressed nothing in the way of thought? You have gone above and beyond in proving my original point.

Now, go away, unless you actually have something worthwhile to say.


168 posted on 12/30/2006 7:21:52 AM PST by SuzyQue (Remember to think.)
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To: presidio9
Hmm... there's not even one straight bone in her body

...and there never will be.

/rimshot

DING DING DING DING DING DING DING DING !

NO more calls, please. We have a winner!

169 posted on 12/30/2006 7:35:04 AM PST by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Riverman94610
I just can't see some 20 year old guy saying to himself"Gee,gays seem pretty cool.I was always straight but I think I'll let Barry,Tom and Dick bang me from the rear and then after graduation I'll go back to liking girls again" I mean,really!

Read C.S. Lewis's autobiography, Surprised by Joy concerning the widespread pederasty at Brit boarding schools.

Limey poofters. ;-)

Cheers!

170 posted on 12/30/2006 7:42:48 AM PST by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

With high school kids its all about the fashion.It transcends sexual oreintation.
When I heard the names of a couple of girls I heard who went the lesbian route,I was rather shocked.I thought they were the hottest items among the boys at the school!


171 posted on 12/30/2006 1:16:16 PM PST by Riverman94610
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To: grey_whiskers

Thanks for the tip.I have just started reading Lewis last year.


172 posted on 12/30/2006 1:17:15 PM PST by Riverman94610
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To: SuzyQue
"poofters"

Another good one for us "name callers".

173 posted on 12/30/2006 3:17:32 PM PST by bruinbirdman ("Those who control language control minds." -- Ayn Rand)
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To: presidio9
>>Well, why do you like girls, Uncle Tony?
 
Because Uncle Tony can correctly identify a member of the same species with whom to produce reproductively viable offspring.
 
Yes, after 4.5 Billion years of evolution - Uncle Tony instinctively knows that part A goes into part B and not part P.

Postegenderism is not reality, Sasha.

174 posted on 12/31/2006 6:23:59 PM PST by VxH (There are those who declare the impossible - and those who do the impossible.)
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To: meg88
Dr. Lisa M. Diamond of the University of Utah in Salt Lake City found that, among a group of women ages 18 to 25, one quarter of those who said they were lesbian or bisexual no longer identified themselves as such five years later.

And laws are passed because "it's genetic." "You can't just choose to be homosexual."

Waiting for the special rights for people who perform bestiality (because it's genetic - you can't just choose to do it with farm animals)...

175 posted on 01/01/2007 6:42:42 AM PST by 69ConvertibleFirebird (Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience.)
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To: presidio9
One lesbian couple, in particular, was especially close to the family, coming over for barbecues and movies.

These are the recruiters.
176 posted on 01/01/2007 6:52:24 AM PST by AD from SpringBay (We have the government we allow and deserve.)
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To: meg88
Dr. Lisa M. Diamond of the University of Utah in Salt Lake City found that, among a group of women ages 18 to 25, one quarter of those who said they were lesbian or bisexual no longer identified themselves as such five years later.

My kids and their friends tell me the highschools are filled with this trendy form of rebellion. From what I hear it also beoming trendy for the guys.

177 posted on 01/01/2007 6:59:52 AM PST by Fzob (In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. Jefferson)
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To: Riverman94610

"With high school kids its all about the fashion.It transcends sexual oreintation.
When I heard the names of a couple of girls I heard who went the lesbian route,I was rather shocked.I thought they were the hottest items among the boys at the school!"

They probably were...even men who are adamantly opposed to male/male homosexuality seem to find the female/female version much more palatable! I know high school girls who pretend lesbianism just to get the attention from the boys.


178 posted on 01/01/2007 7:13:34 AM PST by K. Anderson
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To: Antoninus

You were beaten as a child, weren't you?


179 posted on 01/02/2007 1:50:49 AM PST by Heroic_HPOA
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