Posted on 12/23/2006 5:15:33 PM PST by Dallas59
I was so wrong, it took me years to understand my mistakes. I doubt it will hit you over the head but there are a few posts here that do hit the nail on the head but they would only be understood by someone that aleady gets it.
The key word to understand is trust. As most understand you can not truly love someone without trust (this is a given.) The man is the protector of our species (this is a given.) An empowered woman or a woman that is equal by definition is not giving her trust to her man.
The link I mean LOL
Hey, some men aren't such great treasures either. If she think Thai men cheat, she should meet some of the husbands I know...LOL.
'Fraid so.
Or as Capt. Willey used to say "You victim of the California state educational system, we have a ____ rule here..."
NEVER mess with a Thai.
And NEVER ever speak ill of the king.
Folks have no idea...
I know an Indian couple whose marriage was arranged. They've been married around 30 years or more and are very happy and love each other. I couldn't say whether that's just dumb luck, different culture, or what. But it's true that the success rate of American marriages based on "love" isn't very high.
Just a personal observation, but I'd be really uncomfortable with a husband who always dropped me off at a class and then always picked me up after.
It seems childlike, first, and also would signal to me a lack of trust. If I couldn't have a relationship in which I was trusted enough to go to class and get back on my own, I would feel stifled in that relationship. Maybe that's one of the big differences here. Asian women don't feel stifled and belittled by that. I think most American women would.
All Thai men cheat, but its part of the culture for a married Thai male to seek out a prostitute once or twice a month.
I think alot of it has to do with religious belief levels of the people getting married. You have to believe its right to make it work.
I didnt mean to make it sound like its a common accurence though. Most of them in the community I was in married a local girl they had known for years, but there had come up a couple of times that one oddball who didnt find that girl.
She can't very well wrap her own! Besides, I wanna see the glow on her face when she unwraps that brand-new broom and dust pan!
What if the ER nurse with the pink shirt wants grandchildren for his mother?
An American woman might object to being used in a loveless marriage as a social prop and baby maker for a Gay man.
I can see the ads for Gay Magazines: Give Mom the Grandchild she's always wanted - fool the uptight boss, and and live the good life with an unpaid maid and cook... Call now for ThaiBride - your ticket to the good life.
"Arranged" marriages around here are rare as hens teeth. I am not familiar with the way the Mennonites in your neck of the woods operate. There is, of course, a difference between Amish and Mennonite. Just as each sect has differing customs. As fast as this area has grown, both Amish and Mennonite have adapted and flourished within the constraints of Scripture and allowable uses of technology. Marrying time is about over, but not once have I heard from anyone about a desperate suitor or needing to be driven hundreds of miles for a spouse.
Well, we seriously disagree. Men and women, once they form a lasting relationship, have to trust each other. It's not a one-way street of women putting their trust in men. So I don't see any tip in the equality argument there.
If you say that women must trust men and men don't have to trust women, I say hogwash.
LOL...not even a Swiffer? You are a difficult man.
Well, I wouldn't use the word "maneuver". Let's just say my wife gets her way a lot more than I get mine when there is a difference of opinion on how to do things, and it comes about without confrontation or arguments or bad feelings or the feeling that one person is dominating the other. I guess I don't know exactly how it happens but believe me, Thai women are not passive but do know how to get their way.
Not so. Anyone who engages in voluntary act of sexual intercourse involving a married person and someone other than his or her spouse is an adulterer. This standard definition is completely independent of which party is married or whether they even know the other person is married.
"And NEVER ever speak ill of the king."
Yeah, I remember Yul Brenner in that role, pretty tough guy, and a mean waltzer to boot.
When it comes to protection. Yes it is.
Speak ill of the king in Thailand, and you will have a heel to your teeth, followed by much shots to the head.
Its almost cult like.
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