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Gay and Evangelical, Seeking Paths of Acceptance
New York Times ^ | 12 December 2006 | By NEELA BANERJEE

Posted on 12/12/2006 5:12:42 PM PST by shrinkermd

Justin Lee believes that the Virgin birth was real, that there is a heaven and a hell, that salvation comes through Christ alone and that he, the 29-year-old son of Southern Baptists, is an evangelical Christian.

Just as he is certain about the tenets of his faith, Mr. Lee also knows he is gay, that he did not choose it and cannot change it.

To many people, Mr. Lee is a walking contradiction, and most evangelicals and gay people alike consider Christians like him horribly deluded about their faith. “I’ve gotten hate mail from both sides,” said Mr. Lee, who runs gaychristian.net, a Web site with 4,700 registered users that mostly attracts gay evangelicals.

The difficulty some evangelicals have in coping with same-sex attraction was thrown into relief on Sunday when the pastor of a Denver megachurch, the Rev. Paul Barnes, resigned after confessing to having sex with men. Mr. Barnes said he had often cried himself to sleep, begging God to end his attraction to men.

His departure followed by only a few weeks that of the Rev. Ted Haggard, then the president of the National Association of Evangelicals and the pastor of a Colorado Springs megachurch, after a male prostitute said Mr. Haggard had had a relationship with him for three years...

...A lot of people are freaked out because their only exposure to evangelicalism was a bad one, and a lot ask, ‘Why would you want to be part of a group that doesn’t like you very much?’ ” Mr. Lee said. “But it’s not about membership in groups. It’s about what I believe. Just because some people who believe the same things I do aren’t very loving doesn’t mean I stop believing what I do.”

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To: shrinkermd
The debate is largely over seven passages in the Bible about same-sex couplings.

I've showed more than 7.

I wonder just what 'seven' is refered to by Dr. (or Mr.?) Gagnon...

61 posted on 12/14/2006 5:31:52 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going....)
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To: shrinkermd
Justin Lee believes that the Virgin birth was real, that there is a heaven and a hell, that salvation comes through Christ alone and that he, the 29-year-old son of Southern Baptists, is an evangelical Christian.

Lots of that was probably true of the guy sleeping with his father's wife in 1 Corinthians. Paul never questioned his salvation, but he certainly insisted that he be kicked out of church until he repent.

62 posted on 12/14/2006 5:34:35 AM PST by DungeonMaster (Rudy 08...If ya can't beat em, join em.)
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To: shrinkermd
This word is of much more recent origin and at the time this book was written the concept of homosexual vs. heterosexual was not used.
 
Oh??
 

 

"Homosexuality," Plato wrote, "is regarded as shameful by barbarians and by those who live under despotic governments just as philosophy is regarded as shameful by them, because it is apparently not in the interest of such rulers to have great ideas engendered in their subjects, or powerful friendships or passionate love-all of which homosexuality is particularly apt to produce." This attitude of Plato's was characteristic of the ancient world...

 

 

 

http://www.fordham.edu/halsall/pwh/1979boswell.html

 
 

63 posted on 12/14/2006 5:42:46 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going....)
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To: shrinkermd

Acceptance does not salvation make.


64 posted on 12/14/2006 5:45:03 AM PST by MortMan (I was going to be indecisive, but I changed my mind.)
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To: shrinkermd

In a way, when the homosexual lobby says "everybody is gay", is a warped sense they are right, in that everbody is a sinner, we all have the ability to choose it. It is our actions, or even our thoughts that make the sin. Which is of course why we need grace, because NOBODY can be as perfect as Jesus. The law was given to the Jews, but it could not save them because no one could live the perfect life.

So we are all liars, cheats, and thefts, and adulterors (for even if you have looked at another women with lust in your heart, you have commited adultery), and what other sins you want to list. But we can be saved by his grace, (and as others have said) as long as we repent and ask for forgivness and strive to "go and sin no more".


65 posted on 12/14/2006 5:47:02 AM PST by machman
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To: padre35

Repentance, what is that???

Repentance is when we find our self in sin and, we ask God to forgive us, right? Repentance is saying we are sorry for what we have done and, we will no longer do this again.

God promises us He will forgive of our sins but not in our sins.

So, repentance is not a word we should use loosely.

If we are truly repentant, we will abstain from sinning again.
Please don't give me the old crutch, He is all forgiving, if you are going to take it out of context.


66 posted on 12/14/2006 5:59:01 AM PST by buck61
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To: Recovering_Democrat

The best reply I have read thus far.

Now, a Democrat would take issue with your post.


67 posted on 12/14/2006 6:01:15 AM PST by buck61
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To: shrinkermd
apologies to the author:

Justin Lee believes that the Virgin birth was real, that there is a heaven and a hell, that salvation comes through Christ alone and that he, the 29-year-old son of Southern Baptists, is an evangelical Christian.

Just as he is certain about the tenets of his faith, Mr. Lee also knows he is a thief, that he did not choose it and cannot change it.

To many people, Mr. Lee is a walking contradiction, and most evangelicals and theif people alike consider Christians like him horribly deluded about their faith. “I’ve gotten hate mail from both sides,” said Mr. Lee, who runs theifchristian.net, a Web site with 4,700 registered users that mostly attracts theif evangelicals.
68 posted on 12/14/2006 6:05:37 AM PST by AD from SpringBay (We have the government we allow and deserve.)
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To: AD from SpringBay

The sin that needs the most vociferous and hateful condemnation is always someone else's.


69 posted on 12/14/2006 6:27:10 AM PST by shrinkermd
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To: Elsie
Your author misquotes Plato. This has been a constant problem for people quoting Plato. What they are quoting is below:

"In his Symposium the ancient Greek philosopher Plato described three sexual orientations (through the character of the profane comedian Aristophanes) and provided explanations for their existence using an invented creation myth. [1] Aristophanes' fable is only one of many perspectives on love in the Symposium, and should not be considered identical with Plato's own ideas. Most of the Symposium's speeches are intended to be flawed in different ways, with the wise Socrates coming in at the end to correct their errors.

If you want an education rather than a means of affirming your a priori beliefs it would be wise to read Answers.Com entry on this subject which can be found here: http://www.answers.com/topic/terminology-of-homosexuality.

Incidentally, Foucault, a homosexual and an atheist, nailed the problem for Christians here:

...Post structuralist theorist Michel Foucault has argued that homosexual and heterosexual identities didn't emerge until the 19th century; before that time terms described practices and not identity. Foucault cites "Westphal's famous article of 1870 on 'contrary sexual sensations'" as the "date of birth" of the categorization of the homosexual (Foucault 1976). The point here is Christians condemn the sin but do not reject the sinner as beyond redemption. Just read any FR post on homosexuality and you find a hatred and rage that makes Hamlet's death wish seem like the chuckle of a freckle faced boy.

God knows everyone and uses everyone to make his point--even people identified as "homosexuals."

70 posted on 12/14/2006 6:38:29 AM PST by shrinkermd
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To: Elsie

Yes, you are quite correct, but note that what is condemned is homosexual sexual acts per se rather than a blanket condemnation of people.


71 posted on 12/14/2006 6:41:11 AM PST by shrinkermd
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To: shrinkermd

Sin is a sin - it does no good to pretend like it's not.


72 posted on 12/14/2006 6:54:50 AM PST by AD from SpringBay (We have the government we allow and deserve.)
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To: AD from SpringBay

I agree, and like everyone else you won't escape either.


73 posted on 12/14/2006 6:57:02 AM PST by shrinkermd
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To: TWohlford
Hi there...
I don't know if they're born that way or not..what I do know is that my best friend/former High School boyfriend is gay.

Having known him since the age of 5 years old, I guess we all knew he was a bit different but back then we didn't know anything about gays - it just wasn't discussed...especially in the small town we lived in.

To make a long story short, he confessed his turmoil to me while we were in college and then he battled with it. He turned to God, he prayed and he even considered suicide. I stuck it out for about a year before I ended it - it was the hardest, most painful thing I've ever had to do. I strongly felt I would better as a friend to pull him through than as his girlfriend - forcing him to make a choice.

I eventually moved on, married a wonderful man and I have 2 children and my friend has been a big part of my life every step of the way. I do not judge the way he lives his life and I feel very fortunate that we have a friendship instead of a doomed marriage. I have met many gay men who made the mistake of marrying women only to come out later and cause a whole lot of hurt - I'm very glad I'm not one of them.

Just recently, I heard him say he made a "choice" to be the way he is...I realize his statement is not PC and not true of all gay men. There are some who have never been with women and I can't even picture them with women! But perhaps true for him. When I ended things, I could see the weight lifted from his shoulders...something told me to sacrifice my happiness to end his suffering.

Regardless of our past, he is a very good person and he's happy with his life and that's all I've ever wanted for him. Having seen him through this has made me a more accepting, tolerant person.
74 posted on 12/14/2006 8:05:56 AM PST by martianna
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To: martianna

Good post. Evocative of a true compassionate spirit.


75 posted on 12/14/2006 8:33:45 AM PST by shrinkermd
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To: shrinkermd

Right!

Condemn the SIN, not the SINNER.


But Jesus told the woman: Go, and sin no more.

Obviously, that statement is for ALL of us; not just her!


76 posted on 12/14/2006 9:16:39 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going....)
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To: martianna
...he's happy with his life and that's all I've ever wanted for him.

Are you concerned at all about his soul and it's eternal abode?

77 posted on 12/14/2006 9:18:02 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going....)
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To: martianna
Having seen him through this has made me a more accepting, tolerant person.

Just what are some of the things you will tolerate?

78 posted on 12/14/2006 9:19:11 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going....)
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To: martianna
Just recently, I heard him say he made a "choice" to be the way he is...

Joshua 24:15

But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD."

79 posted on 12/14/2006 9:22:53 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going....)
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To: shrinkermd
Mr. Lee also knows he is gay, that he did not choose it and cannot change it.


Here is the point of the article, the ANNECDOTE is being used to bolster the myth that behavior has no choice.

The NYT is in propaganda push for 2008.
80 posted on 12/14/2006 9:29:46 AM PST by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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