Posted on 12/08/2006 8:31:16 PM PST by rakovskii
Mary Cheney’s pregnancy poses problems not just for her child, but also for all Americans. Her action repudiates traditional values and sets an appalling example for young people at a time when father absence is the most pressing social problem facing the nation. With 37 percent of American children born to fatherless families, Mary Cheney is contributing to a trend that is detrimental to all Americans who will live with the ramifications of millions of children whose anger and frustration at not knowing their father will be felt in the public schools and communities of our nation.
Mary Cheney is among that burgeoning group of adult women over age 20 that are driving the trend of women who don’t want a man in the picture, but want to have a baby. These older women are pushing out-of-wedlock birth statistics higher and higher. At a time when teen births and teen abortions are declining dramatically, older women are having more un-wed births and more abortions, including repeat abortions (indicating that they are using abortion as birth control).
Well-educated, professional Mary Cheney is flying in the face of the accumulated wisdom of the top experts who agree that the very best family structure for a child’s well-being is a married mom and dad family. Her child will have all the material advantages it will need, but it will still encounter the emotional devastation common to children without fathers.
One Georgia high school principal reported, “We have too many young men and women from single-mother families that don’t have the role models at home to teach them how to deal with adversity and handle responsibility. They’ve seen their mom work 60 hours a week just to put food on the table; they end up fending for themselves.”
When fatherless children get to be teens, the girls tend to start looking for love in all the wrong places and the boys tend to find as their role model the bad-boy celebrities of MTV, NFL and NBA.
As they grow older, fatherless children tend to have trouble dealing with male authority figures. Too often children in single-mother households end up angry at their absent fathers and resentful of the mother who has had to be a father figure, too. Typically, the boys who have a love-hate relationship with their mother end up hating all women. Numerous of them look for vulnerable women where they can act out their anger and be in control.
Mary Cheney’s action sets an example that is detrimental for mothers with less financial resources who will start down an irrevocable path into poverty that tends to be generational –– children in households without a father tend to themselves have unwed births later in life. Experts from both the left and the right cite a disastrous litany of negative outcomes that are predictable when a child grows up in a fatherless family. Such children tend to get involved in drugs, alcohol abuse, and delinquency; they tend to drop out of school and have teen pregnancies. An assistant principal in a Junior High School said that many of the behavioral problems that teachers face in the classroom stem from households without a father’s influence.
Mary’s pregnancy is an “in-your-face” action countering the Bush Administration’s pro-family, pro-marriage and pro-life policies. She continues to repudiate the work to which her father has devoted his life. Mary has repeatedly said that “studies” show that children only need a loving home. Her statement is incomplete because the experts agree that for the well-being of children, they desperately need a married father and a mother.
All those people who talk about doing what is best “for our children” need to get back to the basics: children need a married mom and dad. Children can do without a lot of the trimmings of childhood, but nothing can replace a home where the mother and dad love each other enough to commit for a lifetime and are absolutely crazy about their kids –– enough to be willing to sacrifice their own needs to see that their children get the very best.
Janice Shaw Crouse, Ph.D., Senior Fellow at the Beverly LaHaye Institute, a culturally conservative think tank for Concerned Women for America, is a recognized authority on domestic issues, the United Nations, cultural and women’s concerns.
Yeah, but you know, I have a friend,
No you don't.
How are they a threat to you?
They aren't. I present a threat to them (strictly, of course, in challenging concepts of virtue and good moral judgment).
Grow up.
She is a good friend, and a great mother and a brilliant mind.
I feel sorry for you, you think you must be the home owner association of other people's lives.
Butt out, its not your business.
Yeah well maybe mom will beat them and sexually abuse them, who's to say. But we do know that they will NEVER know a father. And if they have a boy, how do you explain to him that he is anything more then a sperm donor.
The choice stolen belongs to the fatherless child.
Since no child would choose not to have a father, the crime is far more pronounced than any restriction that could be placed on gay parents.
Articles like this helps lose elections. Ain`t our business
Exactly, their is a whole pile of conservatives in a huge state of denial as to why the Dems won.
I found that bigotry and close mindedness is only ended via natural attrition.
We all have trials in life.When this kid hits puberty he/she will be asking what was a republican.
You don't know how things will turn out but if Mom and her "friend" are willing to love the kid then that's a hell of a lot better then some of the other horror shows that pass themselves off as parents.
And, some kids are simply better off not knowing Dad.
How can anyone mock fatherhood when most of the fathers, uncles and "grandfathers" in urban communities are in jail or dead? The numbers of kids being raised by grandmothers is staggering.
Better kids are raised by two women who are sensitive enough to expose their kids to male figures outside of the same sex relationship. It cannot get any worse than what is happening on the ground in too many communities in America.
Two loving parents, regardless of sex, is more important at this point.
As evidenced by biased, anecdotal opinion.
Great skeptic!
I know...I'm just irrational....
And you are in no position to judge, I know her, you don't.
And you would be surprised as hell as to who she was and who she worked for.
Just a tip, the world changes, if you stamp your feet and protest positive change, you get left behind, and become irrelavant.
Just look at the replies on this thread, most conservatives don't give a damn about this issue, because, as conservatives they believe that its none of their business to interfere in people's personal life.
But you do.
What a dumb title! Mary Cheney's pregnancy does NOT affect us all. It is indicative of a larger societal movement which may someday affect us all but eroding the moral fiber of the nation, but that's a different issue. This affects us all no more than any other lesbian/turkey baster pregnancy affects us all.
Note: the odds of that happening is remote..
"Who said gay was a behavioral disorder?"
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Gay = Queer = Sicko
I believe whatever the American psychiatric professional group was called did back when. That position was held by the group until they elected a closet gay honcho who got a board of fellow gay and fellow traveler shrinks to reverse it. That happened no earlier than the 1960s, and, I believe, no later than the '80s.
Of course a lesbian mom who is kind and loving is better than a hetero dad who is a drunk abuser.
That's not the point.
A child without a father is a tragedy.
It is tragic when a child loses his father through death. It is tragic when a child loses his father through divorce. It is tragic when a child is the product of a womanizer who never even attempted to be a father.
It is wrong, wrong, wrong, to deliberately deprive a child of his father. No matter how clean the house is or what great schools the children get to attend.
Of course if dad dies or runs off or divorces you do the best you can. But why deliberately have a child that way? It's like putting out his eyes and saying, hey, he can cope. Well of course he can, but why cripple the kid right out of the starting gate?
Men, do you not realize how critically important you are?
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