From a comic, I don't remember who: And the other half end in death.
And one of the best innoculations against divorce is modeling a successful marriage for your children.
Integrity and commitment are everything to a child.
Personally, after seeing my parents' divorce when I was nine, I was more committed to making sure that 1) I had the right partner when I did marry, and 2) I didn't get married until I knew that I would be with this person for the rest of my life.
If a guy wants to stay single his entire life...no problem.
But be honest up front with the women one dates, so they don't hold on to the hope they'll someday get married.
But I, personally, see marriage as a great thing, for men and women. In our family, though, all marriages have been "long term" (parents on both sides 56 and 53 years respectively, siblings on both sides, 40,32,26,24,and 22years, and we've been married 26 years also.)
But I do understand how divorce could play into "trust" issues and make it harder to take the "leap."
That has a nice ring to it... I've been saying; "When you get married you're spouse is supposed to be your best friend; loyal, loving and trustworthy. Like your dog.
My ex taught me; sit, stay and fetch. One of the guys at work taught her; lie down, roll over and come"
There's truth in comedy.
Actually divorce is all about who has the better lawyer. My ex got to keep her broom AND she got custody of my ruby slippers!
"It turns out he still had deep emotional scars from his parents divorce when he was a child, "
Ah, that old line...she buys it, hook...
Some people aren't "the marrying kind." They are people who aren't deeply, truly, passionately in love.
In the past few years I've seen quite a number of my male friends, relatives, and acquaintances get married. Some of them were guys who had had their clocks cleaned in divorce court and you'd think they'd be embittered. They'd all had previous relationships with perfectly nice women who were all too anxious to put out for them and by being too compliant had eroded the boyfriend's respect for them. Then these guys found Miss Right and went down like a ton of bricks. I'm betting these marriages last because the men weren't coerced into them.
When a man is crazy in love he'll want to pop the question. He won't need nagging or ultimata.
Why *should* he marry her. Thanks to her, he gets the intimacy of marriage without the commitment or responsiblilty. If you are a guy into that sort of thing, it does not get better than that.
It reminds me of one of the campfire skits put on at my son's scout camp. (Despite a galloping allergy to camping, I did it for a week because my son's troop needed a second adult.) One scout grabs two members of the audience has them hold up a log, which forms the counter for his "camp store." A series of other scouts (in his troop) come up and ask for different items, which the store is out of. Finally, the last scout asks, "Don't you have anything?" The clerk points to the two holding the log and says, "I have a couple of suckers." That's the woman: a sucker.
Dating since the '80s? Even if she gets wise now and ditches the guy -- assuming she does not attract another such -- she has likely cheated herself out of kids. (Maybe it's good for the gene pool that these two do not perpetuate themselves.)
I think I'll go ahead with my plans for building an Assisted Living Facility for elderly singles. With the way people refuse to commit and build families for themselves, there are going to be millions of them in the future with no spouse or children or extended family to give a rats rump about them. I may as well take in the self-induced lonely and bitter crowd.
Well, Mother Government will take them in too, of course. I have a feeling that she'll be cool with that. The downward slide of our society is aimed at falling into her lap, just the way she intends it to be. :)
She's a sly one. Most people don't even see what's going on all around them. That's to her advantage, too. ;)
Did you all see the link at the bottom of that article? There's a picture of a serious-looking nurse and a banner that says, "Join the fight against BACHELORISM! Just 13 cents a day." It goes on about this disease, "Find out more!" as if it were some hideous tropical blight that's killing innocent villages in Third-World countries. But the ad is by Match.com. Pretty funny.
Fifty Percent of American Marriages End in Divorce-Fiction!
http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/d/divorce.htm
appears to have originated from a misreading of the facts. It was true, he said, if you looked at all the marriages and divorces within a single year, you'd find that there were twice as many marriages as divorces. In 1981, for example, there were 2.4 million marriages and 1.2 million divorces. At first glance, that would seem like a 50-percent divorce rate.
Virtually none of those divorces were among the people who had married during that year, however, and the statistic failed to take into account the 54 million marriages that already existed, the majority of which would not see divorce.
Short version: Liberal men don't want to marry.
They aren't the marrying kind because they can get "it" for free. If women don't value themselves, why should the men in their lives?
I bet he wasn't too "emotionally scarred" for a sexual relationship. Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free?
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Marriage is an instinct, not a cultural ritual. Marriage will always be around. This is from a child of divorce and split custody.
For many (most) guys, free sex eliminates the need to marry!
Why buy the cow if you're gettin free milk?
The 50% is not accurage. Far less than 50% of first marriages end in divorce; subsequent marriages have a higher rate of failure which brings up the averages. There's other ways the stats have been twisted; it's a leftist trick to make people want to give up on the traditional family.
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(The Palestinian terrorist regime is the crisis and Israel's fist is the answer.)
As long as you put yourself on other people's level, you'll end up doing nothing in life. "Gee, I'd like to start a company, but they say that over half of all new businesses fail, so that's a waste of time." Or, "I'd like to go back to school, but over half of adult's who try end up dropping out, so that's no good." And so on, and so on. You are an individual and you make your own life. It doesn't make you.