Gals gone whack-y - Many abuse males: survey

NY DAILY NEWS ^ | May 24th, 2006 | JORDAN LITE

[neverdem]

Violence Against Women Act abuses the rights of men

[kinghorse]

This isn't fair! Wome should only fight other women. The males role should be to standby and make sure the women don't start kissing during the fight. He would be required to break that up.

[lesser_satan]

You'd break it up if they started kissing? WTF?!?

[gusopol3]

why is this surprising (to them, no offense to you); this has been known and documented for 20 years or more.

[avg_freeper]

Not to mention the unfortunate lack of Jello involved.

[lovecraft]

Or mud....

[lesser_satan]

Jello, oil, mud, KY, whatever, 'sall good.

[neverdem]

This appears to be the paper in pdf format, 32 pages.

Paper presented at conference on Trends In Intimate Violence Intervention, sponsored by the
University of Haifa and New York University. New York University, May 23, 2006.

DOMINANCE AND SYMMETRY IN PARTNER VIOLENCE
BY MALE AND FEMALE UNIVERSITY STUDENTS
IN 32 NATIONS¹

Murray A. Straus
Family Research Laboratory, University of New Hampshire
Durham, NH 03824 603-862-2594 murray.straus@unh.edu
Website: http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2

[Tzimisce]

Feminists only believe in "good" equality. If there are "bad" numbers then it's sexist.

[Mazda3Fan]

I hear ya, but the only problem is, guys get arrested even if they're the ones with a black eye and she hasn't even suffered a small bruise. Guys get scared that they'll be seen as monsters and be put in jail and I can't blame them.

[ken5050]

FYI..here ya go..

[dersepp]

Sorry to tell you, but in the People's Republic of California, restraint is also a form of assault.

My employer was having words with his wife in their kids' playroom. She decided to throw a "Big Wheel" (large and heavy) type toy at him and missed, but almost clobbered their daughter. She went on to throw a few more items at him before he put her arm behind her back and took her into the hall to calm down.

When the police arrived after complaints by neighbors, they found her having tea in the kitchen, crying and trying to compose herself. When the Santa Clara PD asked him what happened, he stated the story just as above, which in this community is an admission of of assault. She admitted to the events just the same as happened. He had no marks on him, but she had the marks of his hand(s) on her forearm, so he was taken away.

Their marriage ended soon after because my employer could not trust his wife and have his liberty in such question. My role as a witness to the incident helped not at all. I love both of these people and disappointed that the state has ruined their home over such a small matter.

In California, if either party is the least prone to being physical, the marriage is over. I suppose you have to let the violence get out of hand and also hurt your children before anything matters.

[himno hero]

" Women should only fight other women"",..in..the..mud

[dirtboy]

Even in the worst of cases, you can restrain without fighting

Your generalizations are sweeping and baseless.

[Sax]

I hear what y'all are saying, but I've never really considered laws when dealing with any husband/wife type arguements and I've still managed to keep out of jail.

Maybe just lucky, maybe just choose wisely, dunno..

[Sax]

Your responses are vague and vapid.

[Restorer]

But Gentile said men usually become violent as a way of controlling women, while women who are violent often become so to prevent the man from attacking first.

This conclusion is based on ...

BTW, this research exactly mirrors the conclusions of Erin Pizzey, who started the first battered women's shelters in London decades ago. She was a major feminist heroine until she published her observations that the majority of violence in relationships was started by the woman (although usually finished by the man.)

She immediately became one of the most hated women in the world.

See http://www.fathersforlife.org/pizzey/planned_destruction_of_family.htm.

[dirtboy]

I've never really considered laws when dealing with any husband/wife type arguements

You also have never dealt with women who are capable of kicking a lot of men's arses in their own right.

And in my case, I am large enough that I have to be extremely careful in how to deal with an abusive woman, given that I can severely injure her even if I am just trying to restrain her.

So I take serious umbrage at your statement "Get your pair out of her purse." That was pure idiocy - in fact, I would call it worse, but it would not pass the posting guidelines.

[dirtboy]

"If you have two people in a relationship and the guy is 6-foot-2 and weighs 230 pounds and the woman is 5-foot-4 and weighs 130 pounds, just because they're both hitting each other doesn't mean it's equally violent. Her hitting him may be seen as a joke to him and his hitting her may terrorize her," Brandwein said.

Oh, that's special. She can initiate the violence and it's just a big joke.