More Women Not Waiting For Mr. Right

CBS2CHICAGO ^ | 18 May 2006 | CBS2CHICAGO

[linda_22003]

I live in Virginia and don't remember anything like that; can you give some reference?

[JamesP81]

Why?

The two situations say two very different things about the people involved.

Military wives who lose their husbands during war intended to provide a home with a mother and father. They were willing to do what was necessary to give their children what they needed. This gives a strong testament to the character of both the mother and the father.

It does not give a strong testament to a mother when she doesn't even attempt to provide a home with a mother and father for their children, even after study after study after study shows that an environment with both parents is ideal for children.

[rintense]

That's not true. The majority of sperm banks offer photos of the donor, both as a baby and an adult. They also offer 'open' donor agreements where the sperm donor can choose whether they want any future contact with children. Some donors even write letters to their future children.

[rintense]

I'm not sure it was Virgina. Let me go check an email...

[roaddog727]

So much for a normal, 2 parent (Mom and Dad) family. Further leading to moral decay and a further incidence of dysfunctional youth.

BLAH!

[Little Ray]

Married a woman with two daughters. She always puts the girls first - and so do I!

[Pietro]

to purposely rob children of their patrimony is the greatest act of selfishness I could ever imagine.

The consequences of these stupid people will bear sour fruit indeed for us all.

[Seamoth]

I dated a guy who had a child (that didn't live with him). I didn't mind in the least bit. When his child visited, he kept emailing me saying things like he couldn't wait for his son to go home so we could date again. That was a huge turn-off as well as a big red flag, and we broke up not long after.

[Seamoth]

On a serious note, I suppose men don't value their chasity as much as they should nowadays.

Neither do women. The more convicted of women just lie about it.

[David Allen]

It's not Big Brother. It's the rest of us who are tired of paying for the dumb mistakes of halfwits who bring children without a father into the world, and think that's fine.

We all take up the slack for the women who naively think they can be mother and father to a child.

[JamesP81]

I dated a guy who had a child (that didn't live with him). I didn't mind in the least bit. When his child visited, he kept emailing me saying things like he couldn't wait for his son to go home so we could date again. That was a huge turn-off as well as a big red flag, and we broke up not long after.

Probably a good decision. It doesn't say anything good about him. The reason my relationship ended with the single mom I was seeing was because she absolutely refused to attend church with me. That's pretty much a show-stopper for me. My parents never worked that little detail out before they got married and it ended in total disaster.

[rintense]

Assuming you mean they will seek government assistance, I encourage you to look at the statistics of those who choose to be single mothers. They are financially secure and will not rely on the government for support.

[Seamoth]

The reason my relationship ended with the single mom I was seeing was because she absolutely refused to attend church with me.

Good decision. If I had to name the third strongest commandment in the Bible, it's not to be unequally yoked. It's a pattern that is echoed throughout the Old Testament as well as repeated in the New Testament. God even forced a prophet to exile his pagan wife & children (can't remember for the life of me which one that is, though), and there's also Esau and Solomon and Samson, among others.

[TheSpottedOwl]

I don't mind progress, but some of these people have a sinister agenda. I get a little nervous when man plays God. Who wouldn't like to manipulate genetic material for a truly good reason? I'm worried about what happens when you get the ones who do it for other purposes.

Lol, I'll try and relax ;-)

[David Allen]

If you think the bulk of these single mothers are paying their own way, you're wrong. We take up the slack financially almost across the border, but the bigger cost is the result in the kids. Boys and girls running loose, getting in trouble, having kids, and generally NOT being good citizens.

If she doesn't have a man, she shouldn't be making babies. The arrogance of women today who think they're smarter than nature! YOU'RE NOT A FATHER, LADIES!!

[David Allen]

Make ^^^that "almost across the board."

[LWalk18]

If you think the bulk of these single mothers are paying their own way, you're wrong.

The bulk of women who choose to become single mothers by using a sperm bank are paying their own way- artificial insemination isn't cheap, for one thing. These women tend to be professionals in their 30's or older.

[David Allen]

Those make up a small number of the problem, but certainly, that group is better able financially and typically not a drain on the local treasury. But the fact that they can afford an illiterate nanny from Salvador to raise their fatherless child is not a good thing, either.

If you're too busy to find a husband, you're too busy to have a child. Besides, we don't NEED women like that having children. They're failed the life test, so why should we help them perpetuate themselves?

[rintense]

Must be nice to live in that quaint box. Societies ills aren't all because of single mothers. There's a fair share of screwed up kids from allegedly happy homes too. It is sorry to say, but we no longer live in an ideal world.

Let me ask you the same question I asked another person; if these women chose to sleep around and get pregnant, would that be a more satisfactory situation?

[gidget7]

"So you think having a father, any man who fell on a woman and created a child AND is completely worthless as a father, a father who is absent as a father, let alone human being, is better than having no father at all?"

No absolutely not, which is why a woman waits until she meets someone who actually wants to have children, and will be a good father. You seem to feel all men are lousy fathers, and that is just not true. Most of the "father problem" in this country is due to women/girls having relationships with men who obviously are not the type to stick around, and then even though they are fully aware of that, they have kids with them anyway.