Posted on 05/15/2006 8:48:55 AM PDT by Blue Turtle
Women who juggle career and family tend to be thinner and healthier as they approach midlife than long-term stay-at-home moms, a new study suggests.
Researchers tracked the health of a group of British women from their mid-20s to their mid-50s and found that full-time homemakers were the most likely to be obese in their sixth decade.
Women in long-term relationships who had raised kids while they held jobs outside the home were least likely to be overweight, and they also reported being in better overall health.
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Actually, he did not have multiple teachers. Each "class" had one teacher and the kids were moved up as they progressed. My son got so attached to one teacher, the one we still know, that they ended up moving the teacher up to my son's new class because he did not want to leave her. But he never confused her with his mother. I was thankful that he was so close to the people there. I think it's good when children have adults in their lives, besides their parents, that they love and are close to.
You have a very limited understanding of why people make the choices they do, and that's fine; I'm sure your life is going well within your own limited range of choices. Try to consider that not everyone lives the way you choose to do, and definitely consider that, much as you might like, they don't have to live the way YOU find desirable or acceptable.
'kay? :)
You're trying to convince him of something outside the parameter he has assigned to it; as you've seen from his posts to me, you're wasting your time. :)
People prioritize their time by what they truly think is important. Work obviously took precedence over you in mommy's life. (If mommy had to work for financial reasons, that's quite a different thing. She chose to leave you when she didn't have to.)
One teacher, alone in a room with her group? How many kids per teacher?
But he never confused her with his mother.
Perhaps you haven't actually read my posts. I never said the child was 'confused'. I said the child slipped and called the nurturing one 'mommy.'
I'm not quite sure why you are being so defensive. You had to work for financial reasons. That is far different from a mom who doesn't need to do so choosing work over her child.
Y'know, I give up. You know so much more than I could hope to.
She didn't hold me and read to me so I could read by the time I was three. She didn't continue to read to me even after I could read, so we could snuggle.
She didn't teach me to knit, cook, ride a bike. She didn't hold my head when I was sick, or give me chipped ice in a bowl when I had a fever.
She never had long talks with me late into the night, when Dad couldn't stay awake.
She didn't take me abroad, buy me my first perfume in Paris, take me to my first opera at the Paris Opera House, buy lace with me in Venice.
She didn't bike on the beach with me, or pick me up and carry me when the sand was too hot for my feet. She didn't fly several hundred miles just to see me in a college play.
She didn't encourage me to be whatever I wanted, to get graduate degrees, to marry a man because I wanted to and not because I needed someone to support me, to live a meaningful, involved life.
She didn't do any of that silly crap, and I didn't keep a vigil at her deathbed, and I don't visit her grave in Arlington National Cemetery, because Mommy never loved me. I made it alllll up, you're right, you caught me.
This conversation is over. And you're still an idiot. :)
For some reason, I felt a need to correct your assumptions, which is really silly on my part. I'm over it now, though. Thanks for the conversation.
LOL Another strawman. I already acknowledged she had done so. Will you at least acknowledge that was before she went back to work? No, of course not. You'll just continue to set up strawmen.
And you're still an idiot. :)
Strawmen and ad hominems. That seems to be all you've offered in this exchange.
I had the same urge, but it's passed. He can keep showing what he is without our aiding and abetting.
"Would you call that the "Find Fault Syndrome"? Kind of like most democrats/lefties find fault with Bush, no matter WHAT the situation?"
It could be that. Unfortunately it does seem misogny is still alive and kicking.
"It shouldn't matter whether someone stays at home or not if they are there when needed."
Well said. Being at home doesn't necessarily mean you are doing a good job. Being at work doesn't necessarily mean you are either.
All we can do is the best we can do given the situation we are in. No one is perfect.
"Hey, don't get a tattoo, that'll open a can of worms here, that you do not want to see."
I'm trying to understand what you're saying...but I'm not getting very far.
Thank you. Why do I feel like I have to justify anything at all to someone on an internet forum? I need to get a life.
"I'm surprised nobody thought about this but ofcourse working moms will be thinner. Women stay thin to either attract men or be prettier than women they are in competition with. A stay at home mom already has a husband and has no boss or coworkers. A working mom has men around the office, and other females who are also judgmental about other women. They stay thin because they want to compete with other women in the office."
It would be easy to react quickly and describe this as a sexist statement. But unfortunately the more I think about my experiences with other women in the workplace - the more I realize this is right on the money.
"I always thought it'd be interesting to run the numbers, but I've always thought that a women with no real career, who makes an average to below average salary would be much better staying at home. With the tax laws, the day care costs, the transportation costs, the costs of paying others what she could be doing herself at home. I think its very likely that a good fraction of families would have a much better standard of living with the mother staying at home."
When I first made the decision to cut back to part time, and then eventually to stay home, it was because I wanted to be with my children, but it was also because we crunched the numbers and realized working costs money too - and we weren't actually clearing enough to justify my time away.
Tattoo threads get vicious here.
your mom sounds really cool. I'm sorry for your loss.
"There are a bunch of people here who have very negative views about tattoos especially on women.
Tattoo threads get vicious here."
Oh ok. No tattoos here. I haven't really given that much thought actually.
Thank you. Until I hit this thread, I was under the impression that I'd had a loving, secure, and privileged upbringing. :)
And I still think so.
Sorry for the unclarity, I was agreeing with you.
This lady looks disciplined.
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