Posted on 05/15/2006 8:48:55 AM PDT by Blue Turtle
Women who juggle career and family tend to be thinner and healthier as they approach midlife than long-term stay-at-home moms, a new study suggests.
Researchers tracked the health of a group of British women from their mid-20s to their mid-50s and found that full-time homemakers were the most likely to be obese in their sixth decade.
Women in long-term relationships who had raised kids while they held jobs outside the home were least likely to be overweight, and they also reported being in better overall health.
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"That was completely uncalled for."
You're right... and I apologize for that snotty remark.
Thank you for the apoligy. FWIW, if you'd taken specific circumstances into account, instead of giving them a passing brush-off, I wouldn't have flown off of the handle like that. All I really got out of you was "Do it like X. Anyone who doesn't do it like X is a horrible mother."
The problem with X is that, even though in a perfect world it seems nice and the right thing to do, it doesn't take Y, Z, or even A, B, and C into account.
I have talked with many working mothers that I've met through my sister and other friends. Of them all, the vast majority would love to be able to quit working and be a stay-at-home mom. But they can't, not if they don't want to live in a 2-bedroom multi-family with a concrete back yard. The other option would be to not have children, and sometimes you have to weigh wanting to start a family with not living your desired lifestyle. This is your arguement, just from the other side. As I said in another post, one of the biggest sacrifices my sister and others have made is not spending the time with their children they would like to. But you know what? They wouldn't rethink their decision to have children for one second. Because the kids have enriched their lives in countless ways.
So long post short, I'm sorry if I misinterpreted your points, and I hope you see where I'm coming from.
You consider yourself to be a conservative male interested in protecting the interests of the American Family AND you profess to having affairs with married women?
Pick one - you don't get to be both.
I am a conservative male who respects woman and the American Family and I believe your post shows severe character flaws.
She would even drop them off at daycare on her days off work.
Sometime I think of doing that! LOL You know stating home is much harder than going off to work and sitting on my behind all day, that's what I do!
I wonder if this study included women who technically stay at home but have home-based businesses? In which category to they belong?
Frankly, I always thought of this as a good alternative to going out in the workforce (although, of course, some women have to).
awww! thanks hun!
hmmmm i've worked and been home too.
honestly lots figures into what any person
looks like but mostly how they feel about
themselves. no matter what a person chooses
to do professionally, they have to be impt.
to themselves and the ones they love.
You're welcome to the apology. You had it coming. Sometimes I'm a jerk. :)
I do believe there is a right way to do things. I haven't stated that anyone is a horrible mother. That is your extrapolation. Sometimes I wish people would make more considered choices. Many of the opinions I have are derived from a fairly diverse background and concentration on social history, including a lot of time overseas. My basic worldview can be summed up in Lee Kwan Yu's words, "Xuishen qijia zhigou pingtiaxia" or "Look after yourself, cultivate yourself, look after the family, look after your country. All is peaceful under heaven."
In other words, there are choices that follow that path, and choices that don't. I can honestly tell you that I don't see a lot of these problems in other countries. If we are going to have a country we can continue to be proud of, we have to make hard choices. Sometimes those hard choices will not be consistent with our personal happiness or desires. There is a greater good. Sometimes I get very frustrated when I see our country following a typical Western European path of feminism and secular humanism. It's destructive. It has undermined the basic unit of family and I'm sure you and I and all of us who have fought for and continue to fight for this country don't want to see this become the cultural norm.
I don't believe many women ever set out to be bad mothers. They might make destructive choices because of lack of guidance, skills or education. They might make bad choices because that's how they've been acculturated. Women have been sold a bill of goods for the past 35 years and it's clearly damaged our society. The fact that it is even possible to discuss it is a positive, given that the PC police would have had our hides, even just a few years ago.
In 99.9 percent of the cases, women are very different than men. In my own belief, God created us this way for a reason. I've been very open about the fact that I seem to be one of the unusual women who is not nurturing. The choices I made were consistent with that knowledge. It doesn't matter what I wanted or thought I needed. Like the National Hebrew commercial said, "I answer to a higher authority."
That's it in a nutshell. I'm not as inflexible as I might seem on the surface or on an Internet forum. However, I do believe there are ways to live that work - and ways that don't. I hope it is evident that my positions and opinions come from that framework. No, I don't look at personal stuff much - not even my own.
Is that the one you told us about?
Which one?
How many were there?
Give me some context, man! I have been writing my heart out on this board for six years - G_D knows what I told you about.
I've been ten or so pounds overweight in my life, never had children, worked those 12-hour days.
I guess I don't fit on this thread.
But I'm retired. Hehehehehehehehe!
You tell us... are you healthy?
Hmm...I've always been told by the media that being a stay-at-home mom is SOOO much work. Especially if you listen to those women shows like Deliliah or Oprah. You'd think they would lose weight from all that hard work.
I think the study is nonsense data.
Not included were figures on which of the non-working mothers were not working due to illness both physical and mental that began before the children.
If anyone questioned the non-working they would find a higher percentage of people with illness. They often aren't working because they are ill.
If you are a mom you are working, if you are a so called working mom who has a job and hand your kid off to a nanny for 8-10 hrs then you are not a mother.
Funny you should mention rocket science. I was telling hubby about this last night, and the job that came to mind that I would never seek would involve rocket science! Of course, there are others, but rocket science is not for me. I'm not a bit engineering fan either.
was P. Schlafly and other conservative women bad mothers because they had careers while they were raising kids?
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You misread my post. I was not espousing the idea, quite the opposite. There are others, however, on this thread, who do believe it.
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