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Open Editorial: You Named Your Baby WHAT???
Onyx Magazine ^ | March, 2006 | Josephine Hammond

Posted on 03/30/2006 12:41:35 PM PST by twippo

Someone needs to sit our people down and have a healthy discussion about the names we as African Americans are giving our children. We are hurting our kids and putting their futures in peril from the moment they are born.

That’s right, I said it. We are KILLING our kids and crippling their futures with the names we give them. Don’t you want your kids to get JOBS someday? Good jobs, and serious careers? With a name like Jaquez Ja’Quan Diante’, you’re dooming your sons to a life of drug dealing on some seedy street corner.

Our Black men face enough challenges. I do not subscribe to the notion that we are giving our children names that “convey pride in their African Heritage”. We’re way off the mark. I’ve got dear friends from all over Africa, and their children have beautiful cultural names like Akos, Ama, and Fia.

Notice how neither of those names had a “quita” in it? Or an “eisha”? Or more than four syllables? That’s because even in the motherland, they don’t give their kids the crazy names that we do in Black America. Many Africans even RESENT the implication that these names stem from their culture. I’ve yet to meet anyone from any African nation named Shaquandiniquah Takei’sha, or any other of the ‘colorful’ monikers we’re pinning on brand new precious lives.

Parents, we are stacking the odds against our children from birth. We’ve been doing it for generations, but we get mighty cross when white and mainstream America laughs and mocks us. With a name like Quieshianiquita (I know, I can’t pronounce it either), you’re dooming your children to employment at no better than a dollar store or the nearest fast-food joint.

You are automatically relegated in the minds of many to second-class citizenry, because when they hear the name, they instantly categorize you as ignorant, ghetto, incompetent, uneducated, and not worthy of much respect or basic human considerations.

We hear so often about African American students who excel in school, etc. and “beat the odds.” Well, guess what? Often times, the “odds they have to beat” is the tough challenge of being taken seriously in America with the atrocious name you gave them...names like Jaqui’sheia Sha’qu’an Tai’isha. If they can get someone to look past the name (and quit laughing), there is remarkable talent there in that person.

Unfortunately though, much of mainstream America isn’t willing to find this out. Come in with the wrong name, and you are nothing more than fodder for stereotypical, distasteful jokes. We as African Americans face enough challenges as it is. Our kids deserve a better start and a way better shot than this.

You’re angry with me? I can live with that. Now answer this: when have you ever seen an IBM Executive or a fancy New York office with a fancy highrise office door nameplate that says “Quandaniquah Roshel-Shaquita, Chief Executive Officer”? When? You don’t, and you never have, because the reality is, corporate America and a huge chuck of mainstream doesn’t have a high regard for those names. Quite frankly, you won’t be taken seriously.

I’ve been behind many a closed door with white corporate America. Oddly enough, many of them still see the Negro in the room as ‘non-existent’ or invisible, so they talked like I wasn’t even in the room. I hear everything they say. When Nakia Shaniquah-Quashiqua fills out an application, they have a field day in the office. Once they get their fill of ghetto and ‘weave’ jokes and ripping you to pieces sight unseen, they usually toss the application, or it gets stuck in the ‘bottom of the pile’. If they do hire you, you’re relegated to some meaningless, inconsequential task behind the scenes so they won’t be embarrased by you.

I’ve learned the harsh truth that right or wrong, no quality mainstream company wants someone named (oh just pick a name) representing them in the forefront. We don’t hear that, though. We just want you to get the name right, and look at you funny if you don’t. I recall a time a young woman got really cross with me because her name was LaShi’quita and I forgot to capitalize the ‘S’ and left the little accent mark off the first ‘i’ - how was I supposed to know? But lawd ha’mercy...what did I do THAT for? She was mad, hostile, and ready to FIGHT! It was a BIG ridiculously overblown embarassing ordeal (for her), and that’s OUR fault, parents.

She wouldn’t have such a huge chip on her shoulder and be so defensive, confrontational and mean if we had just given her a name that the average person can pronounce or spell. No spell check in the world can help, so most of her existence is spent correcting the spelling of her name, and feeling disrespected because people can’t get it right. We set her up for this constant and unnecessary battle.

I do not advocate naming all our children Bobby and Susie. But let’s do our babies a favor and keep the syllables down to a minimum, leave out the suffixes “quita”, “sheika”,“eisha”, “niqua”, “quan”...anysuffix with the letter ‘Q’. I could go on, but you get where I'm headed.And if you want your child to have an authentic African or other ethnic name, do a little research. Don’t just make up a name and expect the world to be able to spell and pronounce it. You're not being original or cute. That child has to LIVE with that horrible name, and that's not funny...or cute.

Amen. Now pass the cornbread.


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: africanamerican; aquanetta; babynames; black; brerrabbit; byanyothername; children; deandre; dejames; ebonics; jaquezjaquan; lemonjello; name; names; nintendo; orangejello; spechal; unusualnames
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To: Victoria Delsoul

I think all girls should be named Victoria. Then they would all have a national holiday in Canada named for them. :-)


881 posted on 03/30/2006 6:50:09 PM PST by Alberta's Child
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To: stands2reason
But MICHAEL is a MALE Biblical name. So what's you're point?

I'm talking about little girls ( well, they are now women ) I knew, who were named MICHAEL; not MICHAL.

882 posted on 03/30/2006 6:50:33 PM PST by nopardons
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To: linda_22003

"This guy is named Josephine, which is a problematic name for a man"

I had a good buddy who's name was Gail. I saw nothing wrong with it, but he hated his parents for giving him that name.

I would never give a child a name that was unusual, or even less than common for someone of that gender.


883 posted on 03/30/2006 6:50:57 PM PST by Beagle8U (John McCain, you treasonous bastard)
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To: Alberta's Child

Well, Victoria is a really nice name, and it's my real name as well. :-)


884 posted on 03/30/2006 6:52:24 PM PST by Victoria Delsoul
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To: onja

I was expressing aggravation about something I didn't make clear. I apologise for the misunderstanding.


885 posted on 03/30/2006 6:53:49 PM PST by cyborg (I just love that man.)
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To: MarkL

Anakin! Poor kid- he's doomed to get 'Annie' as a nickname.
We have a Luke- can't tell you how many 'Beru' moments I've had calling him inside...' Luuuuuke!' lol


886 posted on 03/30/2006 6:55:17 PM PST by ClearBlueSky (Whenever someone says it's not about Islam-it's about Islam. Jesus loves you, Allah wants you dead!)
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To: cyborg

"many of the names are from the bible."

Then you know that Jemimah and Keziah were the names of Job's daughters. Kerenhappuch hasn't quite caught on as much, though.


887 posted on 03/30/2006 6:56:08 PM PST by twippo (Mutt-American #2.)
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To: twippo

good grief *lol* Okay on that note, I'm heading off to sleep!


888 posted on 03/30/2006 6:57:20 PM PST by cyborg (I just love that man.)
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To: All

I like Micah, Joel or Jasper for a boy; for a girl, I have more favorites. I think Keaira/Keira/Keara is pretty. It's an Irish name but it blends well multiculturally.


889 posted on 03/30/2006 6:59:41 PM PST by twippo (Mutt-American #2.)
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To: Nita Nupress

Not guilty!


Yo Bro


Sheetswa


890 posted on 03/30/2006 7:01:02 PM PST by razorback-bert
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To: colorcountry
Who knows what the future will bring for people named LaShawn or LaPrielle or Janeisha. Time will tell. I suppose those who are smart, talented and driven will rise to the top.

I agree. Since my husband and I had a very common last name, we named our first born with a first name that we made up. This was in the 1970's We were thinking how that name would sound in the NFL (we decided it was great). Since then, that name has showed up in the top 1000 in the Social Security Administration's names for newborns. I have to admit that our son did not appreciate his name while in grade school. However, when he got older, he refused to use his "ordinary" middle name and was glad that he stood out. He and his wife have also given their son an unique name (at this time). Who knows, it may be common soon. As it turned out, he was never interested in the NFL, but, at this time, is involved with teens that are confined to group homes. I couldn't be prouder.

891 posted on 03/30/2006 7:02:34 PM PST by DejaJude (Admiral Clark said, "Our mantra today is life, liberty and the pursuit of those who threaten it!")
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To: cyborg; cardinal4
I had a friend about 25 years ago. She went to graduate school at Catawba College. She SWEARS that she went to school with a woman named "Bo-Peep."

I had a flight commander in the Air Force, male, first name "Beverly."

892 posted on 03/30/2006 7:03:19 PM PST by Ax (since when?)
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To: linda_22003
"The City Administrator in Washington, DC is named Robert Bobb."

LMAO...It could be worse.

How about Neil N. Bobb ?
893 posted on 03/30/2006 7:04:36 PM PST by Beagle8U (John McCain, you treasonous bastard)
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To: Victoria Delsoul

;-)


894 posted on 03/30/2006 7:04:39 PM PST by Alberta's Child
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To: TheSpottedOwl

Jenna's good.

We decided on Grace and Spencer. At the time they were rarely used but not bizarre. Seemed to become more common after we used them, but still fairly rare.


895 posted on 03/30/2006 7:06:36 PM PST by Gone GF
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To: Alberta's Child

You know it's true, hehe.


896 posted on 03/30/2006 7:06:44 PM PST by Victoria Delsoul
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To: MineralMan
Named my oldest son Kristian - the Scandinavian spelling of Christian - wanted him to have something unique.

Too bad that the year he was born, Kristin - the female name - was the most popular. I spent years getting letters about my daughter, Kristin.. No one bother to see if was the masculine spelling!!

Named the rest of the boys less exotic names, Daniel, Joshua, and Martin. Though we did have one event in Little League where Joshua got a trophy with a girl ballplayer on on it. Don't even think there's a girl's version of Joshua.
897 posted on 03/30/2006 7:07:32 PM PST by KosmicKitty (WARNING: Hormonally crazed woman ahead!!)
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To: Victoria Delsoul

No argument here. LOL.


898 posted on 03/30/2006 7:07:35 PM PST by Alberta's Child
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To: Denver Ditdat

"Cokie Roberts "

Real first name is Corinne, my daughter's name. Still waiting for it to become popular enough to buy her tschockes.


899 posted on 03/30/2006 7:07:38 PM PST by jocon307 (The Silent Majority - silent no longer)
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To: colorcountry

Bilqis is popular with Hispanics spelled as Belkys. I've also seen it as Anabelkys. IIRC, it's the name attributed to the legendary Queen of Sheba.


900 posted on 03/30/2006 7:07:49 PM PST by twippo (Mutt-American #2.)
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