Posted on 01/14/2006 12:02:09 PM PST by wagglebee
WHEN A MILITARY chaplain appeared on ABC News last week talking about how pornography is becoming a problem for troops overseas, I listened. When the chaplain said real women at home couldnt measure up to the impossible pictures, I thought of this woman I had seen years ago in a bookstore on base in Japan.
I shouldnt remember her. The woman was not one of those people you even notice, much less remember. She had no distinct hair color, no charm of face. She reminded me of wide egg noodles and cream of mushroom soup and Minute Rice.
But I noticed her when her sailor husband handed her a stack of magazines maybe 5 inches thick. Penthouse. Playboy. Hustler. Worse. He must have picked up every single porn mag the bookstore offered.
While I watched and the people behind me watched, the wife took the stack from him. She held it in hands that had probably stroked his face, patted his back, clutched his thighs. She handed the stack to a clerk. Then, in front of a line of 10 people, with her husband waiting impatiently by the door, she slowly signed her name to the bottom of her personal check. She did it as if pornography were something you brought home weekly, like milk or eggs or Minute Rice.
Until that moment, Id always thought pornography was no big deal, a boys-will-be-boys kind of thing. Seeing her in person shook me her pasty face, her quiet resignation.
So I paid attention to the news segment. It talked about these 11,000 sexual purity kits that are going to military members in Iraq. Following the popular Every Mans Battle series from New Life Ministries, the kits promote Bible-based abstinence: no pornography, adultery, nonmarital sex or masturbation.
I heard that and kind of winced. It seemed too old fashioned a solution for a time when pornography is as available as a paper-wrapped burger. It made me think of some of those goofy venereal disease movies from World War II.
It also made me think of two couples I know who have divorced over pornography addiction, and the stories I read every week about how its becoming more of a problem for every age group.
But a religious text? I just didnt know. I picked up a copy of one of the books at a Christian bookstore. At first I was uncomfortable reading it. Im Christian. I practice my faith, but this book was written by men who are far more zealous in their faith than I am in mine.
The authors write about sexual purity and a mans relationship to God. Their recommendations seem a little extreme suggesting that men avoid not only pornography but also magazine advertisements and movies with a rating over PG-13.
The more I read, the more I understood why the chaplains had ordered the book. The second half of the book is about protecting the marriage. It talks about how to handle yourself if you become attracted to someone else. It offers a behavior strategy should someone become attracted to you.
The authors dont say if; they say when. They dont write as though men are idiots or slaves of passion. They remind their male readers to honor and cherish the women they married, to remember what their wives gave up to be married to them.
I am a little leery when it comes to imposing a specific faiths teachings on military men. Still, I cant stop thinking about that woman in the bookstore. I cant stop thinking about her husband. This sexual purity kit is a tool that chaplains are turning to to help families like that one. It isnt the only tool against pornography, but it certainly may be the most powerful one yet.
>Me: "In fact, porn drives fantasy and lust. It does nothing to enrich a relationship."
You: "Speak for your own relationships. Not mine."<
You keep on believing that.
Someday you'll find that it gives one of you the incentive or motivation to stray.
Too-shay. ; )
Why did you post that pic? Now I have to break out my emergency Sexual Purity Kit. Hopefully the emergency ice packet in there hasn't melted.
>>If porn is a threat to your marriage, you don't have much of a marriage to begin with.<<
If a lack of self-control causes a man to pursue pornography instead of the natural beauty of his spouse, then he doesn't have much of a marriage to begin with.
Lusting after other women is adultery of the heart.
It's too bad that self-control, physical purity, and fidelity seem to carry a heavier stigma in this day and age than "Hey, if it feels good, do it!"
Piety and Prudence are not bad words.
Depends on your point of view... A few months ago, I ended up having to stay at work until 4 in the morning. When I got home, my wife told me, "If you ever stay out that late again, there better be a woman involved."
She then pointed out, she didn't mean it just as a joke. Whether I'm with another woman or at my job, I'm away from her. If I'm with another woman, at least I'm relaxing and enjoying myself, rather than stressing out and increasing the strain on my health.
Have I ever mentioned how lucky I consider myself to have married my wife?
From what Freeper Clemenza has stated about Seattle women where he now lives, that entire city could be considered a gigantic Sexual Purity Kit.
Excellent post.
If a man and a woman need to go outside their natural relationship and seek "thrills" in order to have a fulfilling sex life, then something is lacking in their marriage.
True love doesn't need gimmicks, visual aids, pills, lotions, books, magazines, or toys.
You, me, and my wife... and my wife is straight.
Unless you're married to a hot latina chick. Then it is considered a marriage REQUIREMENT. However, if your wife is from the States...break out the Sexual Purity Kit.
Ahem. ~I'm~ from the States, PJ.
Are you saying that if I ever get married again, my husband should order this Kit? ;-)
And in related news, as porn has become more mainstream, divorce rates have declined significantly.
Per capita divorce rates 1990-2002: 1991, 0.47% 1992, 0.48% 1993, 0.46% 1994, 0.46% 1995, 0.46% 1995, 0.43% 1997, 0.43%, 1998, 0.42%, 1999, 0.41%, 2000, 0.41%, 2001, 0.40%, 2002, 0.38% |
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Or this could simply mean that a smaller percentage of society is married.
Your post is way too rooted in reality to gain any acceptence here.
Your words are in English, but I can't understand what you mean.
Yes...The Antonio Banderas Sexual Purity Kit.
Fred (the author of the book) agrees with you. He said he viewed everything from these catalogs (or even newspaper ads) to 'porn' magazines/movies. He says he was addicted, and he recommends men avoid anything that causes you to be unfaithful (not full of faith) to your wife.
Just because I add some Worcestershire Sauce to my steak, doesn't mean I don't like how my wife cooks. It just means I'm adding a little spice.
Doing something odd together doesn't mean I don't love or enjoy my wife. It means we like doing something together. Heck, kissing is as much a gimmick -- a stimulation -- as anything else you list.
A sick and unfounded accusation.
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