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I wish I had been homeschooled. Instead I was shipped off to public high school where I met my abusive boyfriend (broke it off a few years ago) and was bullied in tenth grade which wrecked my GPA and caused me to gain a ton of weight. The next few years were filled with lonliness as I quietly tried to survive while being drugged since I was 'weird' and what not.

My parents wanted me to 'make friends' and 'socialize'. Their main worry is that I wouldn't socialize. When I told them I wanted to be homeschooled they refused. As a result I am working in a low paying job and at age 22 am taking another course, (taken five classes so far) and the parentals expect me to be a perfectly well adjusted adult. I am smarter than most of my peers, but naturally I'm not at a good job since those jobs require ridiculous qualifications. As a result of the bullying I was bombing my math and placed in special education with all the other juvenile delinquints and class disrupting brats. My parents are not helping me at all with college (since my dad had it miserable I have to have it miserable too). All they care about it that I am like everyone else and I'm not.

I hate them. I hate them so much sometimes.

PS. Did I also mention that my real mother is an insane woman who damaged me at an early age emotinoally? Oh yes, there were times I would beg to not have to visit her, but oh no, had to think of crazy mommy first.

I'm so sorry.
I understand that it must be very hard but please try to remember that you choose your friends, not your family.

Even if they are total losers that doesn't mean that you have to be. You sound like you are going to college and can show them that you can make it on your own!!!

My sister is like your mom. Her daughter was emotionally abused for years but never knew it. My sister even told her that she wanted to commit suicide so badly that she might any day, run her car into a wall. Can you imagine coming home from school at 11 and not knowing whether your mother was going to suicide on her way home? This poor girl always thought it was her fault!

At sixteen she realized that none of it was her fault. She struggled through high school (hated it too) then went on to Police Academy. She told me that she was going to be something whether her mother liked it or not. Today she is on Pregnancy leave from the Force, married and owns a house.

You work at it and show them that you can do it. You can be wonderful!!!

Sounds like you went through some difficult times. I hated school, too, when I was young. I always find it amusing when people comment that children need school for "socialization". I think back to the Lord of the Flies atmosphere of the schools I attended and figure only the bullies, teasers, and snobs who enjoyed popularity in school must be the ones who think school is good for socialization... lol. I know too many parents who had to begin homeschooling because their child was being beat-up or attacked in school. :-0

Sounds like you've made the decision to do better than you did before. If you are now an adult, then you don't have to 'be' anyone but yourself. If your parents aren't willing to help you, you know you'll just have to do it on your own. If you need help with basic math skills so that you can do better in your college classes, Google a search for Math Skills sites. Then you can work on your own to increase your skills. That's what homeschooled students do; they work on their own to learn what they need.

Our daughter endured harrassment in the 6th grade, from one of the boys in her class, but the school didn't tell us how pervasive it was until the last few weeks of school. Our daughter had mentioned that this boy bothered her from time to time, but I thought he was just flirting, like some stupid teenaged boys do. We were appalled when we realized how bad it had become, and that the school hadn't informed us. We still didn't think about homeschooling, because the school assured me that the boy would not be in her class the following year. He wasn't, but she wasn't any happier that year. About two thirds of the way through that year, I found out that some friends had taken their kids out to homeschool them, so we asked her if she'd like to homeschool. She jumped at the chance, so we started in the 8th grade, and she is now a Senior in high school, doing some of her work at the Community College. I never 'taught' her anything, I simply provided the materials for her to teach herself. She has always been different from most of the other kids her age, and frankly I'm glad! She's a much more interesting person than most of her peers.

Now YOU are in control, so do what you need to do to create the life YOU want for yourself.