[HairOfTheDog]

The feminist view of relationships with men is essentially materialistic.

How is this so? I'd think if anything, the traditional marriage with the man being the sole breadwinner would have made women more materialistic in how we view men, not less.

Increasingly American men marry women from a traditional society such as Japan, Korea or Saudi Arabia. Perhaps there is a message there.

Because they want a power differential in their marriage. They want a lesser, not a partner.

[music is math]

Because they want a power differential in their marriage. They want a lesser, not a partner.

Or maybe there's nothing sinister about it, and they just happened to find a partner who happened to be a foreigner.

[TAdams8591]

"Because they want a power differential in their marriage. They want a lesser, not a partner."

Precisely!

In my current job situation, I sometimes meet American men who marry foreign women from more traditional societies. Even though my job is to interview the women, the men answer for them. Sometimes the women don't utter a word.

At first I thought it was because they couldn't speak English. But after several of them walked away speaking perfect English to their American mates, I realized I was wrong.

These men want the upperhand and want to control their women. And they keep them on a short leash. It's pitiful.

[Candor7]

"Because they want a power differential in their marriage. They want a lesser, not a partner." No men want someone they can team with in facing what life has to offer together. Powerful unions come from that approach, rather than making"power" the essential element ini a marriage. The distribution of power is actually politics. Too much politics in a marriage equals a failed marriage. In a team approach power is shared organically and functionally, related to tasking.

Finding such a teamate these days is so difficult because giving up power is what marriage is about for both who are involved in the relationship.

[Ninian Dryhope]

"They want a lesser, not a partner."

Maybe they want a wife who weighs lesser.

[hinckley buzzard]

Increasingly American men marry women from a traditional society such as Japan, Korea or Saudi Arabia. Perhaps there is a message there.

Because they want a power differential in their marriage. They want a lesser, not a partner.

Concern over a "power differential" in an intimate relationship is the first sign of socialist distortion and feminist contamination. It reveals a failure to comprehend that some of the best relationships are complementary, not symmetrical. The archetype of a "symmetrical" relationship is an arms race--where the "power differential" is minimal. Sort of like what happened with WWII "partners" US and USSR.