Posted on 11/25/2005 10:42:22 AM PST by Congressman Billybob
I am 47 and my wife is 42, last year I had a stroke, my wife was by me all the time. Couple of months ago my wife was diagnosed with cancer (stage 3). I will do everything in my power to take care of her for she is my life. No amount of money, or any job would get me to leave her. I have been married along time and know what she means to me. I am sorry you have not found out what love is realy about, because untill you do, everything you do is false. Money, power, possition, and Property do not a heart keep.
I'll pray for your wife's health.
Which Samoa are you referring to?? I'm sure you realize there are two Samoas. There's American Samoa where this article concerns and Samoa an independent island country.
When I'm home in American Samoa, we don't eat large quantities of macaroni. Give me some dried fish and poi and I'm good to go.
I wonder if she'll serve that at her restaurant. If not, I won't be frequenting it.
Viking women threw themselves on their husband's funeral pyres.
I admire loyalty and devotion above ALL other things....:)
Would you, should you, leave your husband/wife if the chance of a lifetime the chance of several lifetimes came along?
Absolutely not.
Jobs and things come and go.
But kisses and whispers are what life is all about.
Sadly, I have missed mine since the passing of my beloved in 2000.
Put your current abode up for rent, hire a management company to oversee it if you have to...then join her in the endeavor and offer your assistance (mental or physical) in getting the thing started. When the the thing is going or growing, you can return to visit the States. Or if it's dead, you both can move back here with clear conscience knowing you both gave it your best.
Actually, my husband would prefer to live on the Islands. He's one of those palangi's that could manage living there. His Samoan wife cannot. Although, the weather is much better than Virginia.
As for Island politics especially in American Samoa, we're all basically related. So? If there's fighting, you're fighting among family.
The disturbing thing about Guam was something I noticed a day after I arrived there. People could live in the crappiest of homes, but they would have a Lexus. Talk about screwed up priorities. Sheesh!!
By the way, where did you live when you were Guam?? My hubby and I were married in Yigo.
Sorry for your ending, and prayers for your new beginnings.
Quick marriage too. Since September 20, 2001.
I've been "left" although mine did it to "teach me a lesson in humility".
[he couldn't beat the lesson into me so he tried to starve me out, instead]
The lesson *he* learned was not leave your wife where some big, wonderful biker might find her.
The big wonderful biker had been betrayed before too and he and I are on the same wavelength, loyalty-wise.
"Forever" doesn't include any conditions or qualifiers.
Forever just *is*.
Seems like there was a distance to begin with:
Husband:
Wife:
Love equals committment plus sacrifice. If you love her that much (which it appears you do), then go with her. As a fellow attorney, I can understand perfectly well how hard it would be to leave a successful practice, but it sounds like she is going to be doing well enough down there to support you both until you find something to do, and if her operation fails, you can start your practice over. And with the internet, you can still stay abreast of politics and continue to contribue to Free Republic.
IMHO, business success does not make up for coming home to an empty house.
Good luck, John.
Unfortunatly, BillyBob, I strongly suspect there is a lot more to this story than you know.
I'm confused.
How can you still be married to your first wife and yet be married to another? Are you a bigamist?
I certainly understand what the Christian vows of marriage mean and that "what God hath joined together, no man can put asunder". Yet you did break those vows and now, since you believe you are still married to your first wife, you are also now committing adultery, aren't you?
This is not a personal attack upon you, but I do hope you will clarify this for me.
Are you a Christian? If so, where in the bible does it give you the right to be judgemental? It says "Just not, lest ye be judged"
It is our duty as Christians to show support to others, not to judge them. Please consider the pain the billybob is feeling, and try being compassionate to that pain.
Blessings
trussell
I don't know you or your wife at all. But, if something as silly and meaningless as a career choice breaks-up your marriage, you have deeper problems then you are admitting, too.
I would never let work interfere with my personal life on that level. I'm certain my wife holds the same view, as well. This is why we got married. Isn't this why all people get married?
If you love that women, you better go tell her right now before she leaves. Maybe she needs to hear it. If she loves you, a compromise can surely be worked out. Certainly, American Samoa is not the only place in the world that needs a talented chef. If is is, then so what. they can live without her.
Why people throw precious, meaningful, and beautiful relationships away over such nonsense as promotions, affairs, and other sillyness is a mystery I'll just never understand.
Marriages are work....now get to work already! I'm not going to help you in your pitty party.
I'm not being judgmental. I'm simply stating the facts.
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