Posted on 10/14/2005 10:20:29 AM PDT by add925
The good wife's guide
1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal(especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people.
3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces(if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
8. Be happy to see him.
9. Greet him with a warm smile and shoe sincerity in your desire to please him.
10. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first- remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
12. Your goal: Try to make sure your homeis a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
13. Dont greet him with complaints and problems.
14. Dont complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
15. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
16. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
17. Dont ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will alwaysexercise his will with fairness and truthfullness. You have no right to question him.
18. A good wife always knows her place.
In Our case, it is two hetero relationships that have moments of crossover....I live with the wife and the the girl friend has her own place....she comes here a lot and I go there some times.....There are times when we are a threesome, but it's often in play as well as fooling around....the girls are very special and have a close friendship....my wife shares me with my girlfriend, who also shares me with the wife.....
Keep it to yourself. The internet might be an anonymous forum, but that doesn't mean you should be telling strangers about your sex life.
Keep is stomach full, and his (ahem!) empty, and he'll stay.
> I have a saying,
> We're all trains...
I think I can, I think I can, I think I can....
Then don't. There's plenty of threads here that have led many of our men into bitterly complaining about the awful condition of women and divorce courts in this country, and how the poor American man is now the victim.
Believe me, for every bitch, there an ass. And for every good, kind man, there's a good, kind woman. Our job, find the one that suits us. I believe, as xsmommy said, you're just like us, only hairier. Many have been in good relationships and bad, and sometimes we should accept the responsibility for both ;~D
Making it "men" against "women" is not any improvement over "women" against "men". Most of us are just doing the best we can in life, in our flawed and somewhat selfish yet lonely and charming way.
I have worked while in this marriage, and I've been a stay at home mom. When I work, my husband and I both take care of the things needed to run the household, but when I am not working I feel he is doing his job, and mine is the home. I don't feel less for being here running the house - I also don't feel he should come home and "take over" - it isn't about power or who brings in the money, it is about having a haven for our family - a peaceful place where we are safe and happy.
That doesn't depend upon having a spouse who stays home, it is an attitude.
Good post,
Think I'll print it and tape it to the fridge :)
You uppity women I dont understand Why you gotta go and try to act like a man, But before you make your weekly visit to the shrink You'd better occupy the kitchen, liberate the sink. Get your biscuits in the oven and your buns in the bed That's what I to my baby said, Womens liberation is a-going to your head, Get your biscuits in the oven and your buns in the bed. Early every morning youre out on the street Passing out pamphlets to everyone you meet. You gave up your maiden form for lent And now the front of your dress has an air scoop vent. Every single brakeman thats ever come along Had a little woman always tellin him that hes wrong. Eve said to Adam, heres an apple you horse And Delilah defoliated Samsons moss. Get your biscuits in the oven and your buns in the bed That's what I to my baby said, Womens liberation is a-going to your head, Get your biscuits in the oven and your buns in the bed. Mean-hearted harpies are breaking all the laws Tearing up their girdles and a-burning up their bras, Now the air is dirty and the sex is clean And your coffee makes my hair turn green. So damn emancipated in your mind and your body, Gonna have to cancel all your lessons in karate. If you cant love a male chauvinist Youd better cross me off your shopping list. Get your biscuits in the oven and your buns in the bed That's what I to my baby said, Womens liberation is a-going to your head, Get your biscuits in the oven and your buns in the bed. (by Kinky Friedman)
Ditto that. Very well put.
I wouldn't want to destroy his illusion because a few 100 watt light bulbs glaring reality at him.
On my part, he looks just like Mel Gibson...in the dark. :-)
Hun,
That's why it's good to be nearsighted :) Everything and everyone looks better from a distance.
I'm glad you understand. :-)
It sounds like someone has rolled one too many 20 sided dice...
I'll try to live it too... It beats the picture of Anna Kournikova that is supposed to be keeping me on a diet. ;~D
I got it about 200 post ago. Calm down and stop shouting, I'm not deaf.
Post of the day.
Well I admit I'm married to one hell of a guy.......
Sounds good to me....
Heres My list.
1. Treat her like She is the only one in the World.
2. Tell her You Love her every day.
3. Show sexual attraction every Day.
4. Pay the Bills and listen to Her.
5. Respect her opinion.
6. encourage Her.
7. Help out wherever you can.
8. Take her out every week
9. Give her a break every week.
10. Supprise her with Gifts that are not for any reason or occasion.
Then all you need is a woman who's far-sighted.
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