[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

I don't know T.Smith but I don't think he is trying to say that a stay at home mom is the only key to a good marriage.

I have worked while in this marriage, and I've been a stay at home mom. When I work, my husband and I both take care of the things needed to run the household, but when I am not working I feel he is doing his job, and mine is the home. I don't feel less for being here running the house - I also don't feel he should come home and "take over" - it isn't about power or who brings in the money, it is about having a haven for our family - a peaceful place where we are safe and happy.

That doesn't depend upon having a spouse who stays home, it is an attitude.

[T.Smith]

Ditto that. Very well put.

[JamesP81]

I don't feel less for being here running the house - I also don't feel he should come home and "take over" - it isn't about power or who brings in the money, it is about having a haven for our family - a peaceful place where we are safe and happy.

I agree in principle. But with that said, I think it is generally better for children if one parent stays home. I believe it strongly enough that if I ever find a woman desperate enough to wed me and have children, and if she doesn't want to stay home, then I am happy to do it myself. The Bible says to raise your children up in the instruction of the Lord. I am a Christian. I take this stuff seriously, and we all know that our children probably aren't going to get the instruction of the Lord from the public school system in this country.