Posted on 07/30/2005 10:50:35 AM PDT by gleckles
In Divorce proceedings involving children in the United States, law abiding and wholly fit-to-parent Fathers are relegated to little more than "visitor" in 85% of those proceedings. This "marginalization" of the critical role of the Father has removed a critical developmental influence from the lives of our children -- the negative impact upon the societal landscape of the United States is readily apparent to anyone that cares to open their eyes and honestly survey that landscape.
There are presently an estimated 40-Million American children that have had their law abiding and wholly fit-to-parent Father (currently 25-Million) forcibly ripped from the lives as a "natural" extension of divorce. This is being done by the States largely as a result of Title 42, subsection 666, and other Anti-Child/Anti-Family programs which provide multi-millions of dollars in Federal grants to each of the states. To obtain these lucrative funds, the States simply need to implement Anti-Family Laws that "create noncustodial parents."
The States have all been exceedingly successful in the implementation of such Anti-Child/Anti-Family laws, AND in making the very most of these lucrative funding sources.
There are presently an estimated 40-Million American children that have had their law abiding and wholly fit-to-parent Father (currently 25-Million) forcibly ripped from the lives as a "natural" extension of divorce. This is being done by the States largely as a result of Title 42, subsection 666, and other Anti-Child/Anti-Family programs which provide multi-millions of dollars in Federal grants to each of the states. To obtain these lucrative funds, the States simply need to implement Anti-Family Laws that "create noncustodial parents."
The States have all been exceedingly successful in the implementation of such Anti-Child/Anti-Family laws, AND in making the very most of these lucrative funding sources.
During an era in which the States are experiencing record deficits and declining "legally obtained tax revenues" - how better to increase the dollars in the State's coffers, then to manipulate the child custody laws - arbitrarily classifying and discriminating against law abiding Fathers - and thereby "increasing the volume of child support orders that must be enforced AND increasing the level of Federal taxpayer dollars that are provided to the States for that very enforcement!
But wait! There is yet more Money to Follow!
Without question, it can be accurately stated that the "first allegiance" of the vast majority of the honorable Lawyer-Legislators at the Federal and State levels, is to the American Bar Association and the Divorce Industry, rather than "We the People."
This "allegiance" has been made increasingly obvious over the course of the last 35-years of "Failed Social Experimentation in human souls" as the Federal and State Lawyer-Legislators have implemented increasingly anti-child and anti-family laws that can only "serve" the interests of the Secular, Feminist, Lawyer and Medical lobbies of the TRILLION Dollar per year Divorce Industry - at the expense of our Nation's children.
Campaign contributions drive all legislation, and the Divorce Industry has certainly "taken good care of their friends" within the Federal and State Legislatures that continue to implement laws at are "Industry Friendly."
So extreme is the absolute greed of the Divorce Industry lobbies - and that of the Lawyer-Legislators at the State and Federal levels - that they are more than willing to sacrifice this Nation's children, families and society in an effort to secure their fortunes, and their next advancement in elected-office!
That this amassing of wealth and position are being done at the expense of our children, families and Our Nation - and with the willing assistance of our Nation's Leadership - is not only reprehensible, but in my opinion represents a blatant Crime Against Humanity!
A more vicious circle of corruption, and a better example of "Collusion, Conspiracy and Racketeering," I frankly cannot imagine.
First implemented in California in 1969, No-Fault Divorce has since spread like a contagious disease. The Lawyer-Legislators within the Federal and State legislatures have used No-Fault Divorce as a spring-board for the implementation of a plethora of additional Anti-child, Anti-Family and Gender-Discriminatory laws that can only serve to fuel the lucrative incomes of their Lawyer-Friends and destroy the American Family.
The Family is the very foundation of any stable and secure society. In the United States, that foundation is being increasingly undermined and destabilized as the Family is utterly destroyed, and Fathers are systematically being ripped from the lives of their children and relegated to visitors.
Visitors are not in a position to impart core-values to their children. The children are then required to acquire their values on the streets of life -- a street where differing values of "good" can cost that child his/her very life -- conformance to the street then becomes a de facto necessity for life.
Visitors are not afforded the luxury of sufficient time to effectively mentor their children. The children instead emulate the thug on the street who has accumulated fancy clothes, jewelry, cars and drugs through illegal activities. Our children view these things as the "mark of success" and align their behaviors with the thug so as to gain the same material things in life.
Visitors do not have the opportunity to adequately serve as spiritual leader to their children -- do we need to dig any deeper to determine the root cause of the decline in American morality?
Visitors do not have the opportunity to present a positive role model for their children that the children will then grow to emulate. The children instead begin to emulate the behaviors they view on television and on the local street corners.
Visitors are not in a position to implant the concepts of Right OR Wrong, Discipline, OR Self-control. The children instead learn antisocial behaviors from their equally disturbed and as equally angry peers.
Visitors are not allowed to serve in the critical role of disciplinarian to their children, and it is no small wonder that children of divorce are out of control!! The children instead run free throughout the streets of our Nation, learning new antisocial behaviors and vices.
I could go on an on about the limitations of a "visitor" when it comes to parental roles, and how the elimination of the critical role of Father can only hope to result in societal unrest, upheaval and decay. Suffice to say, it is self-evident that our children absolutely NEED BOTH PARENTS in their lives if they are to be properly prepared for life in the real world -- a world which is fast becoming "not a very pretty place."
Empirical data being indisputable, follows are current statistics from the Departments of Justice, Health and Human Services, the Centers for Disease Control, the National Institutes of Health, the Census Bureau and private studies, which clearly reflects the level of damage that is occurring as a result of (Anti) Family Law in America:
Children that grow-up without a Father's influence:
are 33 times more likely to be seriously abused (so that they will require medical attention).
are 73 times more likely to be killed as a result of abuse.
account for 71% of teenage pregnancies (Costing the US Taxpayers $40B per year).
daughters are 2.1 times more likely to have children during there teenage years than are children from intact families.
are 4.6 times more likely to commit suicide
are 6.6 times to become teenaged mothers
are 24.3 times more likely to run away
are 15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
are 6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institution
are 10.8 times more likely to commit rape
are 6.6 times more likely to drop out of school
are 15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager
account for 90% of all homeless and runaway children
account for 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions
account for 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers
account for 85% of prison youths
account for 63% of youth suicides
account for 85% of all children the exhibit behavioral disorders
account for 80% of rapists motivated by displaced anger disorder
70% of confirmed cases of child abuse are committed by mothers.
65% of parental murders of children are committed by mothers. Police investigators and academics believe that 15% of the roughly 7,000 Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) cases reported each year in the United States are really cases of suffocation, primarily committed by the mother. This alone accounts for at least 1,000 homicides a year.
Criminologists point out many, if not most cases of SIDS, aren't reported because autopsies are rarely able to distinguish between suffocation and SIDS -- the actual number of murdered infants is probably much higher.
37.9% of fathers have no access/visitation rights.
40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse.
50% of mothers "see no value in the father`s continued contact with his children.
11% of mothers value their husband's input when it comes to handling problems with their kids. Teachers & doctors rated 45%, and close friends & relatives rated 16%. The former spouse (mother) was the greatest obstacle to having more frequent contact with the children.
70% of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children.
Very few children are satisfied with the amount of contact with their fathers, after divorce. Mothers prevent visits to retaliate against fathers for problems in their marital or post-marital relationship.
77% of non-custodial fathers are NOT able to "visit" their children, as ordered by the court, as a result of "visitation interference" perpetuated by the custodial parent.
Non-compliance with court ordered visitation is three times the problem of non-compliance with court ordered child support and impacts the children of divorce even more.
only 10% of all noncustodial fathers fit the "deadbeat dad" category and 99% of those are "dead broke"
90% of the fathers with joint custody paid the support due.
Fathers with visitation rights pay 79.1%
44.5% of those with NO visitation rights still financially support their children.
79.6% of custodial mothers receive child support award.
29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award.
46.9% of Non-custodial mothers totally default on child support.
26.9% of Non-custodial fathers totally default on child support.
The ONLY viable solution to this societal crisis is an immediate end to the "Failed Social Experiment" and the enforcement of the fundamental liberty right to parent one's children absolutely free from unnecessary governmental interference -- unless/until it is clearly established that a parent is unfit to parent.
Divorce does not make a parent a bad parent, and this must not be allowed to continue to be the sole-basis upon which governmental entities forcibly remove Fathers from the lives of their children.
"Presumption of Shared-Parenting for divorcing parents" must become the law of the land!!
This one reform in Family Law will "on day-1 of implementation" eliminate the vast majority of contentious divorces, and will in fact, lead to a reduction in divorces as "Presumption of Shared-Parenting" eliminates the many "financial incentives" which are so much a part of the lure built-in to the vile system of the Divorce Industry.
Rome Burned!!!!
The United States of America will soon follow suit unless there is a reversal in the Family-Destructive course that we are traveling, and Lawyer-Legislators begin serving "We The People" rather than their Peers and Masters within the American Bar Association, and the Secular, Feminist, Homosexual, Lawyer and Medical lobbies of the Divorce Industry.
Glenn L. Eckles, Jr. Gerrardstown, WV 25420 GLEckles@aol.com A Family Law Reform Activist, and Former resident of Maryland, where children are systematically denied their fathers.
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"The interest of the parents in the care, custody, and control of their children - - is perhaps the oldest of the fundamental liberty interests recognized by this Court." U.S. Supreme Court, 2000
"Although the dispute is symbolized by a 'versus' which signifies two adverse parties at opposite poles of a line, there is in fact a third party whose interests and rights make of the line a triangle. That person, the child who is not an official party to the lawsuit but whose well-being is in the eye of the controversy, has a right to shared parenting when both are equally suited to provide it. Inherent in the express public policy is a recognition of the child's right to equal access and opportunity with both parents, the right to be guided and nurtured by both parents, the right to have major decisions made by the application of both parents' wisdom, judgement and experience. The child does not forfeit these rights when the parents divorce." Judge Dorothy T. Beasley, Georgia Court of Appeals, "In the Interest of A.R.B., a Child," July 2, 1993
"There is no system ever devised by mankind that is guaranteed to rip husband and wife or father, mother and child apart so bitterly than our present Family Court System." Judge Brian Lindsay Retired Supreme Court Judge, New York.
"There is something bad happening to our children in family courts today that is causing them more harm than drugs, more harm than crime and even more harm than child molestation." Judge Watson L. White Superior Court Judge, Cobb County Georgia.
REFORM FAMILY LAW NOW!!
Make "Presumption of Shared-Parenting" THE LAW OF THE LAND!!
The "Best Interest of our Children" DEMANDS IT!!
The law abiding and wholly fit-to parent Parents DEMAND IT!!
The Peace, Tranquility and Security of this Nation DEMANDS IT!!
Move to Mexico, we don't have these laws here.
Important and critical problem in our nation. Is anyone doing anything about it? We need to identify anti family legislation and demand that it not be passed.
It appears that most of the anti family legislation is occurring at the state level - that is where the dirty action is.
Joint physical care is presumed in most divorces which occur in Iowa.
Oh, give me a break. What is the better solution? I would have loved to have stayed married to my ex- if he had quit beating me up and sleeping with other women. My kids were far worse off living with him. I am remarried to a man who is a MUCH better dad than their bioligical father is.
So we concerned and loving fathers and our children are supposed to suffer because you chose to breed with a dirt bag? I don't think so. Presumed joint custody is a far better solution--read the article. If your ex is the choice dirt bag you claim he is, he probably wouldn't choose to exercise joint custody if he was awarded it; thus, you wouldn't be too hampered by it. Whatever problems you would have I'd rather see you stuck with handling, rather than to screw over the majority of dads and their kids who want and need each other.
I have to vote + in the joint custody issue. I technically have "primary physical custody", we have "joint legal custody". We have since made other arrangements that work best for our child.
I wish everyone else (providing both are decent parents) can work out a proper care situation for their child. I suppose in most cases there is such resentment between the parties that they cannot agree on what's best. One must put personal feelings aside and do what's best for the child. It is absolutely best for a child to have a mother AND a father. I certainly don't agree with my ex, he's way more disciplined, overprotective and regimented than myself, however, this could be a plus to our child.
We divorced after our eldest were out of the house. After arguing about what was best, my eldest said "mom, do you think you are a loving mother", I said "Yes! I think I am a very loving and affectionate mother". He said "yes, but I learned all my self discipline from dad".
I suppose dad's are good for something!
Well, if you had children with a fair woman, she would have been willing to share custody with you in the first place. BTW, my ex is allowed to see the kids when he wants outside of "his time." Joint (50/50) shared custody has never been proven to be that beneficial to kids. It uproots their stability. My brother-in-law had primary custody of his kids (yes, he was the better parent) and then tried it 50/50 with his ex-wife. It failed miserably. If two people are both equally qualified to raise children and are both equally stable, maybe they should have stayed married IN THE FIRST PLACE and then the guys wouldn't have to complain about not seeing their kids.
Absolutely essential.
Is anyone doing anything about it?
Not really. America has bought into the anti-family culture created in the 60s and 70s. We now point at a family as dysfunctional as the Clinton's and somehow justify how much they love and adore one another--despite the fact that they rarely see each other and apparently usually chose to have sex outside the family. Most so-called conservatives have either bought into the anti-family culture (see Conservative Cat's post at #8 as an example) or are so politically correct as to not want to offend the vast number of narcissistic women who benefit greatly (at the expense of their children and their fathers) by taking away this stealthy entitlement program (stealthy because it's an entitlement program funded by dads and kids rather than all taxpayers).
We need to identify anti family legislation and demand that it not be passed.
Too late. The anti-family legislation creating the anti-family culture was passed a long time ago. Sorrily, one of the first salvos fired in support of the anti-family culture was Ronald Reagan signing no-fault divorce into law when he had Arnold's job. To his credit, I believe he recognized the folly of that act and publically stated his regret, but it remains a massive stain on an otherwise honorable record of public service. The focus now needs to be getting the anti-family laws off the federal and state books.
Oh, I am sure the problem was me. I forced him to go out binge drinking, be addicted to porn, beat me, and sleep with other women. /sarcasm
Even he isn't stupid enough to blame that on me. And all of you guys who complain about not seeing your kids enough obviously made PISS-POOR decisions about who you married if you all have such unfair ex-wives.. OR maybe you are rotten, bitter jerks and that explains why your wives divorced you in the first place. I am a fair person and about the best ex-wife a guy could have. I want my ex to succeed as a dad, but not at the detriment of my childrens' well being.
I am not seeing that much anti-dad bias where I live. They bend over BACKWARDS for both parties and you have to prove (i.e. basically pictures of him beating his kids or something along those lines) a guy is completely unsuitable to cut his parenting time.
Numerous class-actions suits against the States have been filed in Federal District courts - in each case the Federal Courts have summarily dismisssed the cases citing "States Rights." Were it not such a serious issue, this would be laughable as it is the Federal Government which has imposed Title 42 (aka Bradley Act) upon the States.
The theft of our children IS a violation of numerous sections of the US Constitution -- however, the Federal Courts are protecting the Federal AND State governments. Corruption, collusion and Racketeering at it's worst.
There are in fact "bad spouses and bad parents" (note the gender-neutrality). However, to suggest that 25-MILLION Fathers went from "being a good dad to a bad dad" simply on the basis of a divorce, defies common-sense. Sadly, this is the illogic that the honorable Lawyer-Legislatures have written into law for the benefit of their good-buddies in the Divorce Industry.
BIG MONEY drives ALL LAWS!
75% of divorces in America where children are involved are initiated by the mother. Now how would you have the father keep a marriage from breaking down when there is no choice involved?
And then do you think someone else (like a judge who has no concept of what truly transpired during the marriage) should get to decide how frequently the children get to see their father after the mother decided she no longer wanted to be married (in many cases because such a great deal awaits her after divorce)?
You seem to have no solution. And indeed, there will never be a solution until both mother and father are considered equal parents (which they are in honesty and in nature) and treated as such by American family law.
No less than society's future is at stake...
75% of divorces in America where children are involved are initiated by the mother. Now how would you have the father keep a marriage from breaking down when there is no choice involved?
And then do you think someone else (like a judge who has no concept of what truly transpired during the marriage) should get to decide how frequently the children get to see their father after the mother decided she no longer wanted to be married (in many cases because such a great deal awaits her after divorce)?
You seem to have no solution. And indeed, there will never be a solution until both mother and father are considered equal parents (which they are in honesty and in nature) and treated as such by American family law.
No less than society's future is at stake...
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