[cyborg]

You may not but dominant society does. I think it's a part of the differences between men and woman. Women will forever have the burden of maintaining their appearance. It's a double standard imho but it's a fact of life I think. My mom has already lectured me about looking good for my husband and waking up before he does so he doesn't wake up to a horrible looking wife.

[Fawn]

OMG....my mother would never say anything like that. You're an equal...not a 'doll'.
You are definetly right about the double standard....it's because men are all about the 'visual' and 'physical'......and that's why they always look for the younger women. I consider it perpetual immaturity.

[HairOfTheDog]

My mom has already lectured me about looking good for my husband and waking up before he does so he doesn't wake up to a horrible looking wife.

You can relax... he'll be horny anyway, no matter when or how you wake up, even if you have bed-hair. It's him, with bed hair and morning breath, standing there scratching himself, that is sometimes hard to ~love~ ;~D

[pollyannaish]

There is a double standard and part of it is that men and women have different criteria for attraction. That being said, most (decent) men I know are not nearly as hard on women as women are on themselves and each other.

No one is perfect, and I suspect most guys who have a thing for the "perfect women of magazine" would be unbelievably shocked at the real non-airbrushed thing. And Women trying to look like them in real life come of completely differently than they look in the pics. They tend to have very high divorce rates because they are in search of perfection which does not exist. Sometime, take a look at Jamie Lee Curtis' photos when she was trying to prove this point

There are two things that bother me. One is the lack of common courtesy and kindness. We are far, far too judgmental about this sort of thing in this society. You never know why someone is overweight. Sometimes it is lack of exercise and poor diet. But it may be a Thyroid condition or something else they can't control. I have heard people loudly point out fat people and laugh. If I heard it, so did they. I can't imagine anything worse than that. And is it really going to make anything better? No, it's a cheap shot. It's truly despicable.

NOW, if that person starts going around and demanding all kinds of victim status, expecting the world accommodate their special needs, that is a different story. Those people cease being overweight people. They become professional victims. And IMO professional victims are a completely different issue all together.

[beavus]

My mom has already lectured me about looking good for my husband and waking up before he does so he doesn't wake up to a horrible looking wife.

Just the opposite. The sooner he gets used to it the better you off you both will be!

[Sweet_Sunflower29]

My mom has already lectured me about looking good for my husband and waking up before he does so he doesn't wake up to a horrible looking wife.

LOL... I remember thinking that way. I believe I 'got over' that the morning our first son was born, after he watched the Cesearean, my husband was sitting next to me when the nurse came into the hospital room to change my (ahem) pad.

In 13 years, he's seen me through two C-sections, one VBAC, a hysterectomy and an open gall bladder surgery. And believe it or not, he thinks I've got_it_goin'_*on* at 33 much more then I did at 20.

:*)