Posted on 04/30/2005 8:12:40 PM PDT by ryan71
Shortly before the plane touched down at 9 p.m. in Atlanta, a flight attendant handed out a written statement from the Wilbanks family to the media that said: "She has spoken to her fiance. He cannot wait to see her. She says the wedding is not called off, just postponed."
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I quite agree with you. My comments were future tense, as in, what could happen. We have no way to know what is in either of their minds but from a distance, it is suspect in my mind.
We cannot know the intention of either party unless they choose to reveal it, but both need to intend to enter into a valid marriage. They must also have the mental capacity to enter into the marriage. For me, as it applies to Ms. Wilbank, that is now suspect. Mr. Mason needs to ascertain this for himself what her intention truly is, insofar as he is able. The comments and actions that I've read that are attributed to both of them suggest to me that both have ego problems, a "me first" attitude. I could be wrong but I see many red flags waving.
This woman was 32 years old - shoulda coulda just said NOPE - ain't gonna do it.
Right?! Unless, she really did a hatchet job on her hair, and they didn't bring her some makeup. Remember the pix of Margot Kidder after her incident? IMO, that might be the only excuse for covering up like that.
"And believe me, given the very high standards on this thread, nobody would have married me. And I have been married for forty years."
First off, congratulations on 40 years. I respect that greatly.
Secondly, I don't feel that fleeing from a bride who flees--as this one did--to be "very high standards". I consider it wisdom.
Who knows if marriage will work for these two? It is possible, but doubtful.
"I don't see why people here count this couple out. In marriages all over the nation, spouses cheat, lie and have addication problems. They are praised for "getting through it"...
True, but they are married and want to save the marriage. Divorce is usually a sin, but abstaining from marriage is not. If a gift of warning this strong is given prior to the marriage, it would seem foolhardy to ignore it.
Hey, at least in this case the Democrats can't accuse Hannity on crossing over a border illegally!
It's an Oprah/Dr. Phil world, and people who crave attention can get it by behaving badly, then finding secular forgiveness very easily. They are constantly being rewarded for bad behaviour. Just 'fess up on national TV... all is forgiven, and then they can go back to the same bad behaviour, like a dog to its vomit.
This Wilbanks girl is symbolic of everything that is wrong with modern American society.
I remember that rainy evenin' you took the bus
With nothin' but a fine tooth comb
You're not to blame for this little game
Dear Jenny, won't you please come home
You're my little flake
And I saved ya some cake
Dear Jenny
Won't you puh-leez come home?
Leni
"John had planned a totally secret "Honeymoon". Not even the Bride was to know where he was taking her."
You see, he is abusing her! Won't even tell her where they are going for the Honeymoon!
Seriously, these threads have perfectly augmented this bizarre story over the weekend. Thanks, peoples!
My wife is livid. Especially after she heard they were not going to prosecute.
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The word I heard this morning is that the Duluth, Georgia authorities might prosecute. The DA is still considering the issue now.
Personally, I don't think a criminal proceeding would be the way to go....but she should certainly get a bill for the taxpayer monies spent to look for her and bring her home. My guess is that someone in the family will settle some money on the local government to make this go away.
Shhhhh........:o)
Well, THAT was nice.
Thank you for proving that not all humans have evolved.
Have a wonderful day.
Thank you, Moderator, for removing #276.
"was to be spent"?!
The flowers were ordered, the caters bought the food, the cake was being made, the band or DJ was booked, the photographer booked, the church was booked, the bridesmaids bought their dresses, Tuxedos were rented, and on and on.
Trust me..they are out a bundle on the wedding that didn't happen. Maybe as even as much as if it had gone forth.
After all of this, she might end up with an OFFICIAL bride portrait that is usually taken in advance of the actual wedding. LOL.
I don't know...on the one hand, I have some sympathy for the bride. Weddings do have a way of getting out of hand. Just before the second news conference on Saturday, where it was announced that the kidnapping was a hoax...MSNBC ran a piece on Jackie Kennedy wherein it was stated that, when she married Jack, she had originally wanted a small wedding, but it somehow (probably through the influence of her parents, his parents or both) evolved into this big splashy affair. This happens a lot with the wealthy in particular. People get added to the invitation list because of their status, not because the bride and/or groom want them there. Much of the time, the bride and groom don't even know the invitees, and the invitees don't know them. And sometimes because they have to add these people to the guest list, they often have to exclude some of the people they really want to invite. I'm getting the feeling here that either this bride wanted a small wedding, but was pushed into having a large wedding...or she did want a big wedding, but it became overwhelming for her. I wonder how much help she received from her family or his family, or was their "help" no more than meddling, but leaving it all for her to do.
The families and her friends seem to all say that she never complained about the wedding, but I wonder too if she did, but maybe they didn't hear her if she did complain. When a bride gets "cold feet," people usually brush it off as pre-wedding jitters. She might have dropped some clues that she was unhappy or having some problems, but maybe they just didn't pay attention.
That all said, I have no sympathy for her actions. She put her family, her fiance, his family and all their friends through hell. And I strongly suspect she planned this "escape." How did she get to the bus station? How did she get the bus ticket to Las Vegas and Albuquerque? And what about the clothes and the hair she left behind? Did she feel she had no way out of this big wedding? Somehow I don't buy that. She was supposedly this very strong person. She had alternatives to what she actually did...and she chose the wrong alternative.
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