I read the article in Newsweek and thank God that I raised my kids when it was "easy".
If I had to keep up with the ridiculous schedules that kids are forced into today I would be a total basketcase.
No wonder there is so much ADD and ADHD----the kids don't have time to just mellow out,dream,imagine, and relax.
Great article.
Shameful that they should expect to be the perfect mom! Just chill out and have fun.
Back in the old days "mommies" had many duties, washing in the wringer washer or tub, getting the eggs, cooking from basic materials. I truly believethe one's that are homeschooling, cooking, quilting, canning have very enjoyable existances. I think the one's with problems are the ones who try to look good and take their kids to soccor, ballet, have spotless houses. They aren't mommies, they just want to show the world how good they are. Being a mommy isn't glamorous as many of todays sububanites think.
What is ironic is that rags like Newsweek are largely responsible for creating that very myth.
I guess they don't count somehow, since they made an effort in life and have certain horrible values, like loving their children...
The problem as I see it is that motherhood is not supposed to be a "sacrifice". It is the highest calling bestowed upon women by Him. It is their God given ability and nature to bear and nurture children that is His gift. The feminist (satan driven bowel) movement is what has driven women to cast aside their rightful and most honorable place on His earth.
This is my opinion and I'm sticking to it.
FMCDH(BITS)
As much as I laugh at "The Cosby Show," it was interesting that somehow they never needed any nannies or baby sitters, despite a houseful of kids at all kinds of ages (who to one degree or another were pretty well-adjusted).
Somehow, Clair was able to be a professional Lawyer who almost never had to actually be in the office.
The fantasy was, no doubt, attractive.
It was also crap and not possible.
Men today are not encumbered with the responsability of manhood. Feminism in one or two generations have turned female sex into a simple commodity to be traded off at the man's whim. Men are not anchored by their obligation to have a family (and keep it). Men have in effect been infantilized by a steady stream of boob role models from hollywood no doubt part of their assault on the traditional family!) and a continuous assault by liberalism's continued attempt at the re-engineering of western man's constitution.
"They're all bitches and ho's" has become the mantra for young adolescent men (beginning with young black men but now affecting all corners of the demographic mosaic) who have been exhausting the reservoir of common descency and respect for the opposite sex that took thousands of years of nurturing.
One day we'll wake up to a world devoid of common descency and respect. These simple and noble words in an ever diminishing capacity are still the part of the anchors of what our civilization is made of.
The reservoir finally exhausted, if men cannot step-up and assume their responsability as fathers again, then we as a civilization will be cast aside by a more pure and primal creed:
Islamic Fascism!
I am right where this woman is describing. Economically, I need to work, but it is killing me stress wise. I feel a slave to my job and competing with fathers who seem to not need as much time off for kids and also feeling guilty for not being at school functions or involved more in my children's lives. As the daughter of a working 'liberated' woman, I know how much you CAN feel love in a home with a working mom. I don't feel deprived from my childhood, but I was an only child. I have three.
At any rate, I am torn because I have also been left by my exhusband with no job, no car, no resources and this court system could care freaking less. So I feel that I cannot put myself in a position to be abandoned with nothing all over again. It was horrible living in the places I had to live until I could get on my feet.
So what's the answer? Men are so quick to blame women, but never seem to hold themselves accountable. Nice church going Deacons have left their families for some floosy they met on the internet. And many other situations. A woman has to work if she has no other income and the courts are not interested in making men responsible. I see how many woman abuse the system and gain child support to have manicures and support their dead beat boyfriends, but I also see men run off and leave their children to start new families and the mother is left to make do.
Not a perfect society we live in. But I am grateful that women still have the RIGHT to choose a career if they want and are not held back by discrimitory laws. And also have the opportunity to be able to afford to raise their kids on their own if need be.
It would be a lot easier if you could easier re-enter the workforce after taking a few years off to raise your kids. This is not well understood or appreciated in todays workforce.
Garde la Foi, mes amis! Nous nous sommes les sauveurs de la République! Maintenant et Toujours!
(Keep the Faith, my friends! We are the saviors of the Republic! Now and Forever!)
LonePalm, le Républicain du verre cassé (The Broken Glass Republican)
Did I have to work? Yes, I did. The Lord has truly blessed me in that from the earliest age of my first son, I was able to be self employed. Now I take the kids to work because I own the office. We homeschool weekends, evenings and during the day. I still feel envious of the moms who take the kids to swimming, music, and French classes, but I will say that my kids are personable, can answer the phone politely, and know their way around a courthouse. There is always something better, I know, but the education I was blessed to have has really helped the whole family.
Not only divorce, but also abortion and the disintegration of the family. The "liberation" sold to us was in reality bondage in disguise.