Posted on 02/18/2005 7:11:48 AM PST by srm913
Why can't my moms marry? His parents have been together for 27 years, yet many still question their right to tie the knot, says Matthew Eaton-Kent
It was the day before Father's Day and my Grade 1 class was just putting the finishing touches on the wooden desk organizers we had made. My class had spent weeks sanding down the blocks of wood, adding magnets for paper clips, holders for pens and a spot for an eraser. Today was the day we were going to engrave the word "Dad" into the top of the organizers.
I had worked really hard on my present but I had a problem. I was not going to give my organizer to my dad because I didn't have one. I was going to give my present to one of my two moms.
I wasn't sure what she would think if I brought it home and it had the word dad on it. So I sat there quietly as all the other children took turns hammering the metal stamps, which read "dad," into the wood. I was getting nervous as my turn with the engraving tool grew closer. Finally, I got up and approached the teacher's desk.
She asked me what was wrong. I reluctantly told her that I didn't have a dad and that I was making this gift for my mother. She told me I had nothing to worry about and handed me the stamps with the "m" and "o" for mom.
That's how it has always been in my family. One of my mother's celebrates Mother's Day while the other celebrates Father's Day. Sure, it was a bit awkward at school but it didn't make my family any less of a family. In fact we kids thought it was a great way to recognize both of our moms.
However, there is something that makes my family different from a lot of families. The difference is that my parents have never been married.
The reason my parents have never been married is not because they don't want to but because, by law, they couldn't.
Their relationship was not recognized because marriage was defined as between a man and a woman. It has been very hurtful to my parents, the gay community and believers in human rights that there has been so much opposition to same-sex marriage. It's been hurtful to my sister and me, too. Very hurtful!
Personally I am perplexed by the extreme opposition to changing the definition of marriage so it can include unions between two people, any two people. As someone born into a generation of political correctness and void of any blatant racism, sexism or xenophobia, it is hard to deal with the hateful nature of the opponents of same-sex marriage.
I am not sure why they don't view the love of my parents as equal to the love between two people of the opposite sex. If they question the commitment, they should note the 27 years my parents have spent together and the way they have cherished my sister and me.
I find a lot of the hate and opposition comes from many of the institutions that promote peace, love and understanding. Some churches have fought the right of same-sex couples to marry.
I wish they would look back in history to a time when religious freedom was jeopardized. People who were historically persecuted are all too willing to be prejudiced, all in the name of God.
I am a teenager growing up in an era of equality, an era where blacks are equal to whites, where a man is equal to a woman. This era should include same-sex marriage and my parents.
All of us are made in the image of God, are we not?
Matthew Eaton-Kent, 17, is a Grade 11 honours student and avid athlete. He lives with his two moms, 14-year-old sister, two dogs and one cat in Halton Hills, just outside Toronto.
<< Why Can't My Moms Marry? >>
They can -- and they also may.
Just line 'em up a couple of fellers and Bob's yah uncle!
Being an honors student, you can probably grasp some simple concepts.
Your moms can't marry for the simple reason some things are not possible unless you supend reality, or pretend to.
For instance, the mommy who plays "pretend" daddy can't get circumcized. No matter how much she would like to. You can even pretend and call it circumcision, but it ain't. You can pass laws saying that it is, but it ain't.
Suppose one of your mommies loves dogs. She lives in a community where dogs are not allowed. So she decides to call it a cat. Why should that not work?
If you can accept that it doesn't matter what she wants, or what she decides to call it, it's still a dog, then things become clearer. And the restriction still applies.
Toleration means accepting pervert behavior which doesn't hurt anyone else. It can not mean that the rest of humanity has to redefine reality for the oddballs. That's the way it is.
Son, you DO have a dad. I'm sorry your "moms" never told you that. I'm also sorry that you've been raised in a household and culture that tells you that two women living as a couple is perfectly normal. It's natural for children to assume that their families are perfectly normal. Yours is not. There will likely come a time in your life when you look back and and understand many of the things you question now.
That is only legal in some jihadistans.
i was unable to marry my motorcycle of 18 years, so I threw it over for a harley. i knew it was mad at me, but hey! it wasn't like we were married or anything.
"Maybe poor Matthew didn't think this through - but even if his moms were to marry, he still doesn't get to chisel dad into his next father's day gift."
Don't you know how utterly hateful logic is?
I've wondered if a man who was once a woman has ever married a woman who was once a man.
this blockhead is truely clueless. Only one of his parents
wants to marry someone of the same sex. The other parent
probably gagged to death when he thought of his wife and
mother to his child leaving him to shack up with another woman.IT is as described an abomination worthy of death.
If this 17 year old really wrote this, I would wager he embellished quite a bit about the wood block part, solely to put an emotional spin on the story. The "aww, shucks, I feel sorry for that kid" goes a long way in convincing people.
Well, I feel sorry for that kid, but not for the way he wants me to. I feel sorry that the kid has lived in a messed up "family". We are supposed to teach our children good solid morals, and our moral code has always been based on the Bible. God says homosexuality is a sin. By allowing homosexuals to marry, we woud be saying it's okay to sin. No way I will ever support that.
And yes we are all made in the image of God -but we are not all children of God. some are children of the evil one.and they are of the vine of sodom and of Gomorrah. Only those who hear and obey are of Christs' family according to Johns' Gospel.
Because there aren't two men in this world that desperate, Punk!
< snort > That could be problematic.
You must love them to the depth of their soles!
Maybe an honors student; maybe an avid athlete....but, dummer than a rock...weeks to sand a block of wood? Evidently can't read a lick from a library book on how to finish wood.
HHmmmmm?This kid will probably wind up as a judge in Canada, vegan, with a boyfriend driving an SUV.... LOL!
I agree with you on most things...except the "children of the devil" part. I don't think the devil has children. I think there are believers and unbelievers. But this is a rabbit trail on this thread.
Actually, they CAN marry, just like ANY other female.
ANY of age female can marry ANY single, willing male.
And my little Candian bumkin, your moms can marry - just not each other.
"All of us are made in the image of God, are we not?"
Yes! And it takes a male and female to make us. You may not have a Dad, but you do have a Father. Your complaint should be with the adult females in your household. I don't know your situation, but if either one of the women knew who your father is, they have done you serious harm by not letting you know.
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